Friendship Confessions

From roommates to strangers: losing happiness in success

Hi, I’m a 30-year-old living in Chennai. I came to Chennai in 2018 knowing absolutely nothing and no one in the city. I joined a course where I met a few guys, and after a few days, we became friends and slowly became roommates. While doing our course, we all did whatever work we could to survive without depending on our parents—pamphlet distribution, catering, and Swiggy (at that time, the four of us had only two bikes). Right up until COVID and even through the pandemic, we stayed together. We struggled a lot, but we never felt like it was a struggle because we were so happy. We took late-night bus rides, went on budget trips, and when it came to birthdays, we’d cut a cake in our room, cook non-veg with drinks, and celebrate. We were literally so happy, bro. But then reality hit. After the pandemic, all four of us got jobs with salary packages we never even expected. Now we have good salaries and a comfortable lifestyle. We can afford whatever we want, but we aren't like bef...

We have been friends for twelve years but now boundaries are blurring

A Confession of friendship of Twelve Years We have been friends for almost twelve years. Twelve years of conversations, laughter, secrets, arguments, and memories. Somewhere along the way, our friendship became something neither of us ever planned. We both got married—to different people—and life moved forward. But somehow, we never completely lost touch. We continued talking, checking on each other, and sharing things we couldn't easily share with everyone else. Then, a few months ago, something changed. Our conversations became more frequent. We started talking almost every day, sometimes for hours. We became emotionally closer than we had ever been, and slowly, the boundaries of our friendship became blurred. Now we have reached a point where we both want to meet—not simply as old friends, but to understand what this connection between us really means. There is also a temptation to become physically closer, even if it happens only once. And honestly, that is what m...

I texted my married friend on the weekend and got blocked

Sorry, sorry, yaar. Please forgive me. I know that your husband is usually with you on weekends, so I shouldn't message you. I've been following this for a long time too. But yesterday, something related to us suddenly came up, and I couldn't stop myself from sharing it. It completely slipped my mind that I shouldn't send you anything. I'm sorry. You know very well that nothing has ever happened between us. Ours has always been purely a friendship, so I thought you'd be able to handle it. But when you blocked me, I've been completely disturbed since then. I haven't been able to focus on any work. It's not because you blocked me, but because I really don't want anything I do to create problems in your life. You're genuinely a very good person, honestly. You probably won't believe how guilty I'm feeling right now. I don't even know how to explain it. I feel deeply guilty. If something happened between you and your husband because of me, or if your image in his eyes was affected...

My neighbor's son threw cash at me and told me to leave

Well , I am an NRI and have an Indian neighbour with whom I have been going for walks, grocery shopping and small drives etc . She has 2 kids 10M and 17F. Usually she sends her younger one for errands like sending food etc. to me and I keep a goodie tray and all kids who drop in, get to pick up a chocolate/ candy/ sticker, so does he. I have also babysat him and he drops by in case he is locked out of his duplex . I am affectionate to this kid though he is the only kid who never comes and hugs me unlike all other 10 y o in our friend circle but then he is rather cold to his mom . I remember once when his mom was serving food , he mentioned waiters serve food , something like that and I corrected him that at home those serving food are serving with love so it's not fine to call them waiters maybe chef or baker would be better. The elder one is usually reserved, hardly acknowledges me and have not even seen her with any friends of her own. I shared multiple times with my husband...

I still regret how we treated our friend fourteen years ago

The year was 2010-2011. I used to attend Biology tuition at a classmate’s home in South Kolkata. The class was taught by a respected teacher from a reputed school, and around Four or Five of us gathered there each week. The boy whose house hosted us was named "Deep". I have tried countless times over the years to recall his full name, but it always slips away. Within a few days, Deep and I became great friends. We talked endlessly about almost everything—except, ironic as it was, our Biology syllabus. I fondly remember his desktop computer and how he used to connect to the internet by using his mobile phone as a modem, a common trick back then. Sometimes, a few of us would arrive before the teacher got there. I have always been a rail fan—trains were, and still are, a passion close to my heart. Deep would sit at his screen, surfing YouTube, and pull up videos of speeding trains to show me while we waited. Cinema was another bridge between us. We both shared a deep admir...

Losing my close friend to cancer has completely broken me

I’m 27/M, working a corporate job. Two years ago, I randomly met a girl on Instagram, and over time, we became really good friends. We talked almost every day, shared so many things, and built a genuine friendship. It was never about love or a relationship—it was simply a true friendship bond. A few months ago, she was diagnosed with cancer. I tried to give her as much positivity and support as I could. She was incredibly strong and confident about fighting it. She fought really hard, but unfortunately, she passed away last month. Since then, I’ve been feeling terrible. Life is so unpredictable. I keep looking at our old chats, call history, and pictures, and it completely breaks me. I still can’t understand how someone can be here one moment and suddenly be gone at such a young age. What hurts the most is knowing that I’ll never get to see the rest of her life—the things she would have experienced, the people she would have met, and the person she would have become. Her life ended...

40 LPA for 5 YEARS EXPERIENCED ,Is this possible ? Let's say I want to earn 40 LPA for 5+ years of experience, Is deep knowledge of dsa(leetcode), LLD and hld is required? I was said by my friends that not all companies ask that deep on these? What do you guys think?

F, Posting on behalf of my close friend. 🙏 Plz Don't Ignore 🙏🙏🙏 Her 9-month old baby boy has been diagnosed with profound hearing loss and speech loss. After consulting multiple doctors they have been advised that he may need a Cochlear implant after he turns 1 year old if his health and hemoglobin levels are suitable. The parents have normal hearing and speech but the baby's maternal grandmother was born with hearing and speech loss so doctors suspect it may be genetic. They have already consulted a hospital in Chennai but before making such an important decision they want to hear from people with real experience and medical professionals. They are even willing to travel abroad if there is a better proven treatment available. Kindly help us with the following: • Anyone who has undergone this surgery or has a child who did, please share your experience. • What are the pros and cons of cochlear implant surgery? • Are there any advanced treatments or surgeries availa...

Hi, I am a 34-year-old woman, and I have been suffering a lot mentally. My father passed away 11 years ago. After that, I stayed with my mother and took care of her. I was rejected in many marriage proposals, and my mother also had serious health issues. Five months ago, she passed away. Since then, I have been struggling to live without her. I feel extremely lonely. I have siblings, but they are married and busy with their own families. They are not very emotionally supportive. I am a kind, soft-hearted, emotional, and trusting person. Unfortunately, some people have cheated me financially. I am also an introvert. I don't talk much at first, but once I become close to someone, I open up. Because of my caring nature, some people misunderstand my kindness and develop other feelings instead of being genuine friends. Although I am well educated, I have only been able to get low-paying jobs, which has been very disappointing. How can I overcome my loneliness? How can I find a genu...

36 M working in PSU bank in kolkata. I was married for last 8 years. Unfortunately my wife passed away 1.5 years back . I am trying to get back to normal life although pressured by family and society to get married again. However I don’t trust arrange marriage at this age will help me . Friendship or regular dating might help but I have not find any one in same wavelength. Old friends are busy with life so social interaction is also less. Would like to have a friend who is also longing for friendship and chill for quality time.