Hi, I am a 34-year-old woman, and I have been suffering a lot mentally. My father passed away 11 years ago. After that, I stayed with my mother and took care of her. I was rejected in many marriage proposals, and my mother also had serious health issues. Five months ago, she passed away. Since then, I have been struggling to live without her. I feel extremely lonely. I have siblings, but they are married and busy with their own families. They are not very emotionally supportive. I am a kind, soft-hearted, emotional, and trusting person. Unfortunately, some people have cheated me financially. I am also an introvert. I don't talk much at first, but once I become close to someone, I open up. Because of my caring nature, some people misunderstand my kindness and develop other feelings instead of being genuine friends. Although I am well educated, I have only been able to get low-paying jobs, which has been very disappointing. How can I overcome my loneliness? How can I find a genuine person to marry? How can I build meaningful friendships? I would really appreciate your suggestions.
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Just love your self as you are. Jab life me koi bhi apna nahi hota, to 1 hi insaan bachta wo apan khud hai. Saari duniya apne hi start hoti hai, aur apne pe hi khatam, duniya ko samjhne se acha khud ko samjho, self awareness isko keh sakte hai. Har insaan apne aap me rahasyamayi hai. Isliye curiosity ke saath khud me sab kuch dhunda jaa sakta hai. Aur pehla step self love ka hi hota hai. Iske liye kuch achi books ka support liya jaa sakta hai. Books name 1) Tao Te Ching ( Hindi) 2) you can win. 3) power of your subconscious mind. It's my practical experience. In sab se external situation baad me badalti rahegi, lekin internal conflicts pehle hi resolve hone start ho jayenge. All the best
Work on your self confidence. Get therapy. Never marry in a hurry and fall for toxic relationship. Focus on your career and learn to say no. People pleasing is the root cause of all the problems. Best wishes
Take Grief management therapy first ..
Don't trust everyone please 🙏, and being soft hearted and kind is a good thing but everyone don't deserve your kindness, don't show your weakness to anyone even though if someone is genuine and real person your weakness should be your self secret forever.. the moment someone knows your weakness then you will get played very badly.. even I'm going through same face so I can understand your situation.. good luck
There is a certain phase of life where everyone is tender, fragile, pure and bubbly. Harsh realities of life gradually seeps in and it'll make you stoic and stern eventually. Learn to say no, learn to speak harsh words, save money, stay away from unnecessary people, miss futile gatherings and finger regularly.
Travel, join a gym, join social clubs, join dancing class, swimming etc. Keep yourself busy I had been through the phase of loneliness. It sucks, but you have to get over it.
Get engaged in learning new skills to get good job, everything is free on YouTube, get involved to explore your creative side, start to watch some webseries or movies to distract mind before sleep. People suggest therapy but meds will only mask the problem, sooner or later you have to complete your journey of loneless or grief on your own. + If you still in same home where you lost your mother, so changing home or even if possible city will surely help you alot, this will help you alot. + Make atleast 1 friend, (who just want friendship not s3x or flirt bcz this always screw whole equation and girls also prefer in start as they like attention), who can listen. And don't take any major decision like marriage now, as many will suggest, bcz one should never take major decision of life at the worst phase of their life.
Leave the I and try to find peace with your life that you did your best, no matter what the outcomes are. Travel solo, pursue your passion, chart out career goals and love yourself to the fullest. When you have done this, you will definitely see clarity around and know what's best for you and who will stand by you.
Soft heart won't work now a days.... And you are working that's a great thing if you want High paid jobs learn some skills according to your academics will give you more chances of High paid jobs and you won't feel loneliness and coming to your marriage don't worry you will find a right person....
Get in to small business or even fast food stall.. you will love it and also your introverted behaviour may gradually find confidence.. setup clean and hygienic stall that attracts younger population.. it does sell pretty good
get married to get out of loneliness
This world is full of injustice and cruelties for a straight kind hearted person. Just remember one learning from Chanakya: "if someone required to cut a tree in a dense forest, isolated straight trees are selected first because those are easy to carry away". Love is required still for running this beautiful world but required some complexity in behaviours for survival.
For those who have cheated on you - Karma will get back to them one way or the other. For coming over your loneliness - i would suggest you join an NGO and help the needy ones. I know these words will help only a bit, but I have been in your situation before, introvert, not opening up easily, but trust me, god is watching you and he will send you the right person at the right time. In case you want to connect, feel free to do so.
The key to get an expected outcome from the life is you , Yes there are troubles , sufferings , struggles, rejections.... in some cases maybe worst .... Look at life with a new perspective .... We are all differently beautiful in our ways ...
M going thru something similar, though my job is secure and fairly compensated! DM me may be we can help each other!
Do you want to get married or build meaningful friendships? 🙄 U seem to be confused. Sit down alone calmly and decide what do you want from life.
Read books .Work out . Eat clean.
Felt really sad to hear this...May god give your strength life is very big go out meet new people. Explore new things find some purpose in life you will surely get someone. Please don't fall for someone who will just exploit you... Be careful in choosing a person.
You can ping me... I am planning to start whatsapp group for women going through tough phase of loneliness in their middle age..
Losing both parents is an unimaginable grief, but the most powerful antidote to the resulting loneliness is to aggressively pour that energy back into yourself. Reclaim your peace by moving your body—whether through the gym or a daily 10km walk—and silence the mental noise with meditation. Most importantly, channel your focus into building an unstoppable career through relentless upskilling; being alone right now is not a void, but a powerful space to rebuild. Do not waste energy searching for a partner to complete you—focus entirely on becoming the absolute best version of yourself, building your financial independence, and living unapologetically like a queen.
After reading your situation I would suggest that your situation itself contains all solutions. Be your own partner first, decorate your home, re adjust your furnitures, changes the curtains, bedsheets, remove/ donate the sarees, dresses and other belongings of your mother, keep 1-2 items as a memory, change old kitchen utensils, do it day by day. Go to some mall and regularly purchase new household items that are budget friendly like new coffee mugs, put some indoor plants like succulent, money plants. After some basic changes go for some skin care, parlour, hair cut etc. Update your profile and check some new vacancies and apply for them. After 2-3 months of these changes take a break and visit some pilgrimage, beaches etc whichever goes with your taste. Include some hobby, join welfare groups etc.Once you start living happily with yourself then go for matrimonial sites.
Aisa hi hota hai jab maa baap chale jate hai to bacho ko bahut mushkile hoti hai unke Jane k baad koi puchke tak nai dekhta jaise mai ho dekho maa baap k bina🥹
Getting married to get away from loneliness is not the solution You need a good friend,a good life partner, Better to get engaged yourself in different activities that you like most. First start loving yourself,get engaged with your self,
In a single comment it's difficult to find solution for all these problems. Stay confident dont show ur weakness to anyone. Carry a smile on your face & try to change step by step.
Romba simple try new things like sing or instrument 🎸 try pannuga try hard for high paying jobs or your core subjects job satisfaction is more then loneliness
Try to travel a lot and that teach u many things
Tasks should be completed on time. Idk what's ur qualifications or job you're doing, bt one or the other way money heals some things. Loneliness is one such thing. Other way is ur frnds. If your priority is marriage, then u need sometime to build that bond ! Good luck.
Get married sister... Life will heal. But choose the guy wisely
Find a right guy and right family is a solution of all problems, so search for urself and check everything about him, person should be good n don't prefer financially strong coz peace is necessary for ur mental health, God will help u if u try to find right guy 😊
Try to find the most meaningful thing in life apart from relationship. The thing that actually makes you happy. FIRST thing is that make yourself so much busy in your career. Put so much hard work. Get to a nice certain salary that you can enjoy the little bit of luxery. Money solves lot of problems. Focus dedicately on career do certification and excel your self in that.
Read bhagvatam geeta chant krishna mantra trust God make God as your guru every thing will come to you keep believing the almighty lord love nature mediation gym any exercise read books chant mantra slowly everything will change God bless you
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your post truly touched my heart. No one deserves to go through so much pain and loneliness. You seem like a kind, genuine, and caring person, and I believe you deserve someone who values your heart. If you're comfortable, I'd like to get to know you as a friend If we understand each other and our hearts connect, I'd be honored to stand by your side, support you through every happiness and hardship, and build a peaceful life together. You don't have to face everything alone I sincerely wish you happiness healing and a future filled with love
First get best job or high paying or new job where it makes u busy most of the time for few days obviously everyone wil come back to you and then u can choose Now at this rate even if u start searching for a guy u won't get the best
Go out, make friends, get a hobby. Don't think of marriage right now. After you are in a better frame of mind someone will definitely click for you, then u can marry
Stop thinking much first do prayers and make dua for your parents living single life is not easy stop trusting everyone because all are not the same
Adopt a child to build a family. Till then, volunteer at NGOs and social welfare - It addresses loneliness. Don't let your loneliness turn into depression. It can kill your spirit
🧘🏼 🐘🦢🪿🧧 I had a similar situation but I've found several ways, with one of them being learning and practising Stoicism, connecting with like-minded Stoics, and focusing on building and living life rather than regret or sticking to the past. Learning appreciation and gratitude for everything we have and had is part of it. Feel free to connect to discuss and explore in detail.
1st of all accept this truth that someday everyone will gonna leave (death scenario)as their time comes you've to accept this,I know it's hard to digest but it is what it is no one can change this that's why we all are called mortal no-one is gonna live forever neither u nor me and just keep telling yourself that Mahabharat thing "Jo Hota hai Ache ke liye hota hai" and yes that's really true,when I lost my 4 year old daughter I cried for like months and approx 5 hours a day missing her but now I thinks that she had her time with us now she'll be living a healthy and prosperous life bcoz she was very I'll and in huge pain she didn't left us,the time for her pain was over so that she left us. And if you're planning for marriage so give yourself sometimes to heal bcoz in emotional time people tend to make wrong decisions,so give yourself some emotional stability nurture yourself get healed from inside out. Then look someone for marriage. I don't know if I was able to explain things which are in my head but yes I can understand your current situation but yes anybody and understand your situation but you're the only one who can feel your pain.
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F34 - just love yourself - first love should be you only - loneliness will make our days worse - don't trust anyone at first until your mind says he is ok. Different emotions & actions will be played in your life daily. Just be calm right person will reach you soon. Be Happy smile forever 🪄
Sab akele hi hai duniya me
Have confidence in yourself and surely you will find someone.
1. To start with, rent the house you are in (if it's your own house) Find a good, clean working women's PG and move there for a while, you get to interact with more people. This will solve the problem temporarily. 2. Look for a permanent solution, find a place or hobby that will get you good thoughts and inspirations. 3. Never marry immediately: your loneliness may pick up poison than picking up water for your thirst. 4. Move around places where you haven't explored. It's 2026. Learn any martial arts that will safeguard you + relaxed your mental things. Never onboard a psychologist or psychiatrist at this point now. It is pure business nowadays and only 1% -5% are genuine. Sometimes starting from 0 is best thing to do start a clean and clear life. Believe in yourself. When you had guts to ask for help in social forum, yes you have enough guts to live a best life you aspire for. Go ahead. Trust your thoughts. siblings who think they have a spouse and earn think they are blessed instead of giving some attention to the needy siblings - cut them off to the limits they are now it's a good thing in a way to lead your desired life.
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Finding a genuine person is a big question which cannot be easily answered. For loneliness spend time with your friends.
learn Sudarshan kriya , it helps
Go for a solo trip n enjoy first den do a job
Hi Sis, i suggest you to go for more group trips with strangers … talk to them … spend time with them… do something that you would love to do … join some fun classes like zumba or some fitness related classes which is also fun … make more friends … take care …
Date someone Love plp U will get ur true love n life partner
1st...find a better and high paying job.
Dear Confessor.... What is your exact problem is the question. If you want a marital life, go for it. If you dont want to marry, simply adopt a well grown child who is of between 10 - 15 years. You will get a child. A child will get a mother. If you want marriage but dont want or unable to give birth to a child, then marry a widower or a divorcee with child. You take care of that child as your own. You will get your life. A widower or a divorcee will get a life partner and a child will get a mother. There is no restriction to you....
You need to therapy first..
Join some weekend groups which help you to build confidence to speak anywhere. Make a online profile on various matrimonial apps. First talk to men few times over call. Tell them u will talk few times before meeting in person. In whatever profession u r start building skills to get paid more. Lastly make a new hobby like reading books. Make online content if you can. At this age nothing much u can do
Hi. I’ve also lost both my parents. Though I am married but currently separated I am also going through a similar phase. Ping me if you’d like to connect and talk.
Travel and find your love who will respect you and treat you equally
If you are serious msg me
Try to meet old school or college friends.. Join gym, try hobbies. For marriage take help of any relatives whom you trust, to find a good match.
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Keep busy in prayers cooking n exercise
Focus on your work. Good people will eventually find you. I think your bad times are reaching an end.
Go abroad, then start a better life.
You can't overcome loneliness believe me when they tell you go on a solo trip ... You have already crossed that age... It's time to enjoy this loneliness... Try to find happiness in yourself rather outside... If it's in destiny you will find your soulmate or it you and yourself forever
Could u ping me with ur resume may I know ur current job role
First things first, it's good that you have acknowledged your shortcomings. Now, focus on building a social life, such as joining a women's group, especially at this stage of your life, as changing long-held habits and trust issues may take time. Consider looking for a life partner later. Proceed carefully, as the world is not as simple as it once was, and you should avoid situations that could put you at risk. Safeguard yourself, because ultimately, you are your own best protector rather than relying on others. My best...
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Take care of you
DM me. I am also looking for genuine friendship by my heart. Just to talk and understand is good.
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Be calm for a while and sit alone think and I would suggest you to stable yourself first mentally and financially search for a high paying job and get into the cycle. Don't rush things will be happening soon... Feel free to connect with me..
Regarding payment I would say that since currently your expenses are low so don't think about it too much or compare your paycheck with that of others. At present you need a companion. But don't go out looking for one. Instead beyond your job, spend your time in something which gives you happiness.. something like a hobby. It can be anything like gardening, cooking, taking care of animals as volunteers or any such thing which makes you happy. In this process of working on yourself, at the right moment you will find someone who will become an important part of your life.
Don't open up quickly with others. Take your time and dont help others financially. If you are a animal lover then you can keep a pet with you.
If ‘several’ people have cheated you financially, Then you are stupid. Admit it. And now Try to work on it. If people develop feelings for you, and you race away when that happens, but you are also lonely, and you are underpaid, then a lot is not right with you. And at 34, why are you single? Who stopped you from getting married?
I can suggest you one thing. Be open to have a partner, if you seriously find it difficult to stay alone. I am not boasting, but would like to share that I am 43 and living alone, because I am not comfortable getting into a partner. But importantly staying alone isn't bothering me at all. Infact I am enjoying it.
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Same I am also same ship so many betrayals from trusted person I don't know why they want to do such things I think I only suffer like that I don't trust anyone I my life my life show me somany colour of people
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