M32 — After almost a decade of saving, I finally bought my first 3BHK apartment. It cost me almost ₹1 crore, including everything. I invited everyone over for the housewarming, expecting it to be a happy occasion. But the questions and comments were mostly negative: “Why does the flat feel so small?” “The kitchen isn’t big enough.” “Car parking is too small.” “This bedroom isn’t that good.” Almost 90% of the comments came from relatives. Only a couple of families and friends genuinely appreciated it. I can’t talk back. I can’t avoid them either. But honestly, I don’t want people like that around me. Many of my relatives are financially better off than me. Their kids are enjoying life without much pressure, while their fathers run businesses. But here I am — working, saving, and building something for my own family, one step at a time. So, to anyone who visits someone’s new home: Even if you don’t like the house. Even if you think it’s small. Even if you would have built it differently. Just say something kind. “It’s a beautiful home.” “I really like the colours.” “Congratulations — you’ve done a great job.” You don’t have to fake admiration. Just show a little kindness. I know I shouldn’t care about their opinions, and honestly, I don’t want to. But when you’ve spent almost a decade saving for something, negative comments about it still hurt. Sometimes, a little kindness costs nothing.
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Hire me to talk back to them. Would be worth every penny invested 😅
Congratulations dude. The positive feedback, validations you crave will be mostly coming from strangers who don’t even know you. The relatives are almost always jealous and competitive. So ignore them.
This is the very reason I didn’t invite anyone to our house warming ceremony. It was only me, my husband and pujari ji. That’s it. It was our moment and we thoroughly lived it. Today no one remembers that we purchased flat and I am very much ok with it.
Ghar ki vapis pooja karva lo. Negativity bhar di.
Firstly, congratulations on your new home! 🏠❤️ Buying a house after years of hard work and saving is a huge achievement. And honestly, some relatives are just like that — instead of appreciating you, they’ll find faults and try to put you down. Maybe it’s jealousy or comparison, but don’t let their opinions spoil your happiness. You built this home with your own hard work, so be proud of it. Ignore the negativity, maintain your distance, and enjoy your beautiful new home with your family. ❤️✨
Relatives will always find something. "Small kitchen", "parking chota" - next time "accha hai" bol ke topic change kar do. You don't owe them explanations. You owe your family a home. And you delivered. Proud of you 👏
Buying a flat at 32 is achivement celebrate it you should be proud of your achievements. Log to bolte rahenge....
4 log hamesha aisa hi bolenge
Those relatives are just jealous and could not imagine that the confessor can buy a house on their own. So just tell them your house your choice. Also dont let those negative reactions affect you. Tell them to find a better house in your budget
Why do you crave for validation from others? Your money, your asset, your achievement, the only validation you need is from yourself.
We bought our first home few years back, invited nobody for the same reason . It was our hardwork, me & my husband's. Relatives abhi tak sadde hua hain,pooja nahi k bulaya nahi but who cares. It's our home & i do not want any negativity.
Why should they admire you ? Why you want even their admiration? Just do what fits your life and be happy ! It seems like you are deliberately trying to find reason to be unhappy while there is none 😂
Kuchh toh log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna! Simple! You don't need to take all this to heart and such people need to be avoided as far as possible.
Trust me it's the same for everyone ..best is to simply let go ....I know it's tough to ignore though 😔
You can't expect same positive feedback from all everyone is different of course you feel bad for negative comments even we give negative comments sometimes every house is lacking something or the other .. some people express reality so no need to worry almost all people build their house from their hard earned money
Don't think much you got a place for yourself which is your ownenjoy it
Ur happy dats matter kudos to urself be proud of urself !! Relatives are the only one who never seen anyone grown up jus ignore it !! Everyone have dat dream to have there own home nd u did it !!! Let them talk !!! Be happy
Congratulations Dude!! On buying your house. Those relatives were not the one who created this reality it's you ,so don't take their words to heart. They are just jealous. I don't care what they say, a house is house . If it's your house in your name nobody can kick you out.I admire and respect you. I also plan to own my space someday. Wishing you all the best and success in your journey.
Super bro. At the age of 32 u hav bought a 3 bhk apt. Congrats for ur hardwork. Don't worry about the negative comments. Keep going.
congratulations, for your hard work, but never invite them again or seek validation rather. all the best
Ghr chota hone se kuch ni hota ,,ghr me jo family members rhte hai unse ghr bnta hai ,,bde bde mehal bna lo lekin unse agr family members hi ni rhte ho to vo sirf ek building hai. Or relatives jo tume ye sb bol re hai vo jealous ho re hai or sbka kam bolna hota hai so ignore it..
If you are looking for validations from others for ur own hardwork, then u are done bro
Pal kaicha burner venam avanga stomach la vatchia pothum,nenga enna panalum ethavuthu solikitey irupanga free ah viduanga new home la happy ah iruanga boss.
32 age Zero inheritance Bought 1cr house Wow really commendable!! Congratulations!!
U & ur family should like it !!! All that matters 😉
Kuch toh log kahenge …. Logo ka kaam hai kehna …. Listen dis song for 2 times daily 🙂↔️
Buying a flat at 32 IT'S an achievement. Bhot logo ka dream hai ye abhi tk jo even 40+ ho chuke hai and you have done it bro. CONGRATULATIONS 👏🎉👍
Bro that doesn't happen in India they will sublty say something means but if u counter they will give a good reason only to make u feel low, I know it hurts like hell coz they don't see ur hardwork just one statement demean ur results , it's working 48 hrs without sleep for someone only for them to say yeah but what did u do not much
House is house.. it's your blood and sweat.. congratulations.. 👏👏👏🏡🏠🎉🎇🥳
It's called jalan. Ignore bro 😂. Let them burn.
Jealousy nothing else. They know they can't do it by themselves. So chill. Enjoy ur new home. Cherish good memories.
Many many congratulations.. it's really appreciable. At this age, achieved marvelous success to have your own home.. Ignore their views and words and move on... Enjoy 😍
Fck the jealous types. They are jealous because you have achieved something. Let that sink in. If I was you, I would make them more jealous by just showing how happy I am.
Ask them to lend money to buy villa
Kuddos bro...
congrats do not worry these rascal indian relatives r like this only their only work is to demotivate others. R u bengali Bengali relatives r most toxic
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