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My family is forcing me to stay separated from my husband

Wanna share whats happening in my life. 37 F. faced many abuses from my dad as I was born as daughter. He had not spent a single amount for my school fees and higher studies, he always used to cal me bit--.. in tamil. Had a younger sister aged 35 not married and not working also but studied professional course in Finance. My family had not seen alliances to me, daily scolding that I was liability to family. My dad always said to me that better to ran away with any boy so that marriage expenses would save to him. He had loved my sister as she looked like my dad’s sister. My sister had full domination in the home, she got everything she wanted and enjoy a best life. While I go by walk to school, she was travelled by van. My sister said the same dialogue to ran away from home daily. I used to work for a small couple of months in a company, there I saw a man same aged and love each other. He knew all personal matters about me and ready to marry me. But he belonged to lower caste. I said to my dad, he said better u marry, ill inform all relatives that my daughter ran away with lower caste boy. I had done registered marriage simply. After that many fight arised and my dad separated me from him. My husband went to foreign to earn and called me, my dad not allowed. He daily abused me, I donknw aht to do. To shar with heavy heart, I had not even eat fully three times in my life. He daily get into fight with me. He used new word to call me “Rasikettava”. My sis also used same words. Suddenly after 4 months of my marriage, my dad went to walk and come back home, he suddenly died of heart attack. We all collapsed. After his rituals, I came to know that for all bank deposits and others, my dad put his brother and his wife name as nominee. His office friends had close touch with them and my periappa got all money to his and his wife name. while I found out and asked, he said ur dad even not believe u, get lost. No amount in bank balance. From then, I got a job in large corporate with low pay to run family. From then, my sis instead of blaming my dad, she called me bit----,,, rasikettava,,,…. I simply worked on.. my husband came permanently after one year. My sis directly along with my dad’s family not allowed me to live with my husband. Huge fight went on… my mom was speechless. She not even allow me to stay with my husband. With heavy tears, I am writing --- im still virg---n and my husband is also waiting for me. My sis is not getting married, she is eating with my dad’s pension and simply sitting. She is using the words …--“ cant u live without ..x?, ne oru rasikettava, bi---.” She is saying daily that due to my raasi, my dad died, so asked me to die or to go out so that lorry can rool over me. She is very beautiful bu till not not marrying. I cant get out from home, all my relatives said that if I begin to live, my mom would get killed. I seeked help from all relatives, all said that my sister is small girl and asked to divorce my husband and to lead single life, then only my dad will get moksha. I am writing with tears, god also not helped me. She said that no baby should born to me then only my dad will be satisfied…… cant write more..thinking of committing su---…my mom also cant help. My sis is living best life in my home and enjoying by putting reels. Can anyone help in this regard…. pls