I married 3 years ago and since then I always have been going through one problem or another, whether it was financial problem or health. Since the very first day my mother in law has always been very sweet in front of me. But gradually I came to understand that that was just one of her many faces. Both my in laws were very sweet on my face but when they always instigate my husband on my back. They always try to separate me and my husband from my parents. And on face they will be like sweetest person ever. All this things has been going on for 3 years. The problem was despite my husband always supported me and knew the truth but it would lead us to fight many times. The irony is in last three years we never fought on any reason rather than when his parents instigated him. Yesterday I just couldn’t take it anymore and called them directly on their hypocrisy and asked them why have they been trying to sow cords between us. If they have any problems with my parents why couldn’t they talk to them directly rather than talking behind our backs all the time, and I strictly told them I won’t be talking to them anymore and never to call me. After this conversation they made a huge issue. They started crying out loud that we never did such thing and I am the one who is blaming and disrespecting them. They didn’t even remember what they told me on that call too rather they are just again and again saying what I have told them. They don’t even in their mind remember what they all did or told. I don’t know how should I feel now, a part of me is in guilt as I should have suffered through it and kept my mouth shut and be the idle daughter in law I have always been considering they are old people and a part says that I did right, they should have known that I know everything they have been doing behind my back.
They are sweet you show you are sweeter and stay vigilant from their next move,I think that will be the smartest approach
As they were always sweet so there’s no legit evidence that they instigated even your husband. I am not denying your suspicion either. But this situation could have been dealt differently. My advice would be whatever done is done. No need to carry any guilt. There will be chaos for few weeks but you should not get impacted or affected at all ( atleast on the outside you have to show this). Stick to your decision, don’t talk to them. Even when husband is speaking over call to them, don’t try to overhear anything, you ll listen half and will extrapolate other half. Just think what you have done is good for you and be in peace.
Picking up a fight only on the basis of doubts, without proper evidence will destroy the whole family.
Seen that, suffered that . Such parents make the son believe that the problem is you & your parents while it's they who are the problem. In laws are in laws . Be legal with them - be bookish in filling in your duties and that's it, don't trust , just play safe.. honesty will only mess your life .
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