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Submit ConfessionGender: Female1 July 2026 at 11:05 pm
Her Dreams Undiscussed, Her Life Defined by Duty
I don't usually talk about this, but today I want to. I'm 33 years old, and for the past 15 years, no one has looked for a marriage proposal for me. When people ask why I'm still unmarried, I smile and say, "I don't want to get married." The truth is, that's not true. I say it because it's easier than explaining everything. My family has been living with severe mental illness for years. My mother, my middle sister, and my elder sister all have schizophrenia. Even my elder sister's son has been diagnosed with it. My father is retired, kind-hearted, but has always struggled with making important decisions. In our home, conversations about my future or marriage are simply avoided. Somewhere along the way, I quietly became the person everyone depended on. My dreams were never rejected—they were just never discussed. I don't blame my family. I know they've been carrying their own pain. But sometimes I wonder if anyone ever stopped to think that I have dreams too. That I also wished for a home of my own, a partner, and a life beyond being the strong one. I don't know what the future holds. I only know that behind every "I'm fine" and every "I don't want to get married" is a woman who once hoped someone would ask what she wanted...
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What's wrong in self-trying, it's easier these days, moreso for a women, 33+ is more than enough to take a call, unless you wish to remain a life long spinster ; So just join various mariage sites/forums, make a bio data, even join some hook up sites, explore, experiment, learn, train yourself, before taking the jump into live-in, followed by mariage. Make life easier for your family also, better still find a doctor to date..🙂
Sister Schezoprania is in your genes. There are many women who decided to stay single, go on solo trips and enjoy their life. I understand your emotional needs but if you fall into relationship and if things do not work good then if may affect your mental health too. I suggest you get your family treated by good phsychratist. Schezoprania can be treated with life long regular medicines. You also take help of psychologist/ therapist. Believe in God, chant mantras. Do good by helping the needful/ underprivileged.. Concentrate on your career..come up in life..feel proud of yourself..you will not need anyone.
Take matter in your own hands , look for good groom who will also become your family.. but i will suggest dont trust easily in this age guys always look for easy prey.. tell them your situation , some nice guy will surely help. Medications are available for schizophrenia it is helpful. Please see a good doctor , he can help you
Growing up in schizophrenic family, you definitely have cPTSD. Did you get mental health assessment done for yourself as well? You might have level 1 Autism. Those are the only people who can remain sane in insane family. Though with severe burnout and cPTSD. You might want to read book Hidden Valley Road. There is also documentary Six Schizophrenic Brothers. Wish you peaceful life 🫂 --- Just a suggestion - please don't get into dating, live-in, marriage pool. That will add to your troubles instead of reducing them. Instead try to find your tribe "sane person in insane family", support networks, people and professionals who actually understand issue. Marriage, reproduction is not 'solution' to all problems.
U can get a good guy with this family issue. Who can solve all ur problems n also help ur family. Say upfront n u work on it to get married n nothing wrong for u. Don't worry n everything can be treated in medical field. Many guys are looking for a partner with any type so get into It
Why should anyone else look for a marriage proposal for you, especially in this condition as u have explained. Look for urself.