28F Married through arrange marriage with 30 M ,3 years into marriage son with 6 months old struggled too much after delivery since my son born at 36 weeks he was only 2kg since his weight was too low i should feed him every 2 hourly once this was so frustrating and i was all guilty because i put on too much weight during pregnancy since doctor did not warn be about my weight and did not tell me about the complications i and my baby would face during my routine check ups 😞 some how my son started gaining decent weight and too much sleplesss nights no support though i was staying in my mom home my mom would hardly take care for 2 hours though i requested my husband to stay with me during this time he never did did not even stay a night with me though we have a seperate room in my mom home and stays just 5 km away from my mom home and office nearly 4 km even now if he vists my mom home he just talks to baby carey him hardly 5-10 minutes he dont care make him to sleep though i will struggling to make him sleep he never understands my pain ,he never thinks about my struggles ,he wants me to do it on my own everythings kids,house stuffs he dont help in anything and dont even think of helping me in anyways Just he pays for evrything though im working too i feel to much bad about this I cant even expalin this to any one
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Have you joined office after ML? Is it WFH or WFO? If nobody (husband, parents, in-laws) was helping with the newborn care then you should have hired japa maid. Now hire maids for each and every work, nanny/daycare for baby. And concentrate ONLY on your own physical recovery and earnings.
Unfortunately, that's the reality of many marriages. There's often a level of emotional disconnect. Childbirth and childcare are seen as only the wife's responsibility, and many men were never taught how to care for their wives during such vulnerable periods. The good thing is he's taking care of all the bills. Talk to him and hire a maid to help. That's reasonable. Don't worry about your husband and focus on your recovery.
He's the biological father and can't escape his responsibilities in raising his kids. Please explain to him that you need rest too and he needs to pitch in too. Please do not go for a second child if this is his attitude.
This is just a phase. You have to plan accordingly and make up your mind that it is your responsibility and that it doesn't always come and doesn't stay all the time.
Hire a full time house help if you are unable tin find time for yourself..anyway he is paying for everything and by that way you'll get some relax time
If you are staying only 5km away, why are you even staying at your mothers place. Move back with him, let him not do anything but atleast let him experience sleepless nights. Or else in future he would never acknowledge your efforts because he would have never experienced it himself.
If you put on weight during pregnancy but your child was unweight that means you were diabetic during Pregnancy.. Get ur baby checked for gestational diabetes ...
Ye apky sath h nhi hova ۔۔۔I think har kisi mother ky saath aisa h hota ha۔۔usko ye phase akaily handle Krna pdta ha ۔۔kuch h mard hoty ha jo biwi k care krty ha۔
Wife jealous of husband giving his love to his kid !
Aur ye dono marriges m hota h chyee arrange ho ya love marriage ۔