I am 31 F , my family is looking for a groom since many years when I was 24-25 years old. But couldn't find better one according to their requirements.I never had any bf , I m still vergin,I never had any bas habits drinking smoking also I am pure vegetarian. I have done my btech and mba after worked 1.5 years at gurgaon after that I left the job because my manager's unnecessary arguments,i thought I should find job at my home town . I returned home town. Family tried to find many boys for the marriage. I also met 15-20 boys but things didn't work. Some boys rejected me and to some boys I denied as I didn't found suitable match ,vibe didn't match. Maine thing is my colour I am not fair so people directly indicate that they want fair girl. I had believe that someone will be there for me as God makes the pairs.. I am very well spoken and born and brought up in the city...my family found 2 boys ..both are from village..I met both of them. First A person is doing his job at Bangalore earning 36 LPA and family background is very weak ,he is the only person who is earning in the family, he has father mother ,elder brother, SIL and their 2 children brother had Medical shop but he sold illegal medicine so now in jail since 8 months. He has all the responsibilities after his brother. I have problem with his accent ( he doesn't speak Hindi well nor English he uses his local language accent) his smile also i do not like he laughs strangely .. I do not know why I was not happy after meeting although he is very understanding mature and cool person. B person found by my family is from well settled Family earning 25 LPA at gurgaon but again he is immature as he didn't see any responsibility as he is from joint family. Againsame problem he is also from village, accent is approx similar unable to speak english word pronunciation clearly..but good in nature and stress free guy ..fond of visiting places exploring new things...both the boys are good by nature but I do not like accent of both guys..what should I do .. should I focus on vibe as I didn't feel good or that attraction towards anyone ... although my family is focusing on well settled guy but I m not thinking this as I thought I will also earn money is not a problem for me but what about communication.. should I think about accent or not..when u talk them u doesn't feel like you are talking to educated people..
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You are sad that people judge you for your complexion but at the same time you judge them based on their accent ?
Ask Shashi Tharoor if he is okay with your complexion
Marry a English/Hindi teacher
A guy asking for a fair girl is immature and wrong whereas you look for a good accent is your mature requirement. All checks ✅ will not be matched to anyone.
Life isn’t just about marriage. Stop running after random people. Focus on yourself. You’re educated — find a job. When you stop chasing out of desperation, things will start to fall into place.
Choice is your , marriage is yours .. If accent can make understanding happen between 2 people then accent should have been included .. But understanding each other is beyond the comprehension of language or color or creed . So choice is entirely yours ..
its okay girl! take your time, If you are not finding anyone suitable, just don’t get married. happily unmarried is still way better than broken divorcee!
U do not want to be judged because of ur complexion but you're judging a man because of his accent. The truth is both appearance (not dark complexion ) and accent are important factors because both you and ur partner need to feel attracted to each other . U might not have a bad past but that's not the only point that will work in ur favour. Others in the comment section have commented about ur grammar . So u too have many flaws . Better find a good man who will take care of you and respect you .
The starting where you said you are a "Vergin" not Virgin but "Vergin" ... Where I actually for a brief moment felt warm and fuzzy inside thinking finally a decent confession, so what if she's a fixer-upper in english. But then you put gasoline on my dreams and lit that on fire... See only advice I can give is your past free background is a strong bargaining chip but don't stretch it. I'll not challenge your choice or complextion, cause you're entitled to your choices however you're, but don't chase after a Mercedes Benz when you have money for a unused wagon R ... Hope this makes sense. 🙂
If you don't like both boys, search again. If you are not doing a job, search it first, join it, maybe you will find a good match.
Trust me ,your grammar is no way better ..because we dont "talk them " we talk to them or have a conversation with them.. so u re not in a position to judge my dear ,marry one of them,get him admitted in a personality development class and get your self a grammar book Try not to be judgmental in future
My two cents here... 1. Stop playing the victim card. Your family is still looking because you keep rejecting everyone. You're unemployed, yet you want someone who is well-settled or an ideal match. 2. Just wait a few more years. Bhagwan is probably still figuring out how to make the perfect match for you.
Focus on money and banglore location ur life will change
Rajavel Karikalan Exactly what I was about to write but glad you did it on my behalf!! 😂 Sister, English is just a language, don't hype it! And secondly for a person having such degrees (BTech and MBA), you too are bad in grammar and can't even make proper sentences! But did it stop you from getting your degrees or whatever you have achieved?? Nahi naa! Then don't make it an issue! Ye sab baad me matter nahi karta! At a later stage you want compatibility, understanding and unconditional love! You might have heard this song, "Gore rang pe naa itna gumaan kar..., gora rang to din me dhal jaayega". So color doesn't matter much! Don't stress much over it!! All the best!!
You will always have problem with the accent and then think of the responsibilities of the 1st match... It's always better to be single than to be in a bad marriage. लोगो का क्या है...बकवास तो करना ही है
You are judging them by their accent and comms but you are expecting that no one should judge you by your complexion. This is hypocrisy.
Non-vegetarian is sin?
Please wait, hope & pray. Marry someone who genuinely likes who you are and vice versa. Can anyone live with anybody's looks forever? Look at Aishwarya rai. When the time is right destiny will lead you to your soul mate. Keep exploring. Your mate is also looking for you. Please remember you'll not be able to tick all the boxes. All the best.
Accent will definitely be different for all people even in the same caste but different cities ..it's natural...so goes with English too...american english n british english is different
You should marry Salman Khan, he speaks good English, his accent is good, his Laughter is also good, earns Good, not from Village, not immature and his brother don't sell illegal medicines😂
Marry a spoken english lecturer
I also felt bad when I didn't meet the same accent person. So go according to your wish..
Make more friends, socialize, you may find someone new to match vibe with
Perfect koi nahi hota h duniya me 🤨 adjust krna hé padta hai life me kahi na kahi
Natural attraction is definitely a criteria for healthy relationship. If attraction is forced then intimacy suffers. That spells doom for any marriage. So, give credence to this aspect. When one is older, one must realize, that it’s harder to adjust as by 30s, one has experienced the world & discovered self. So, your reservations & pickiness is valid. Everyone judges others- this acceptance is important. People try to figure out how they fit into each other’s lives. One’s likes/dislikes should not be ignored. Accepting a match out of compulsion reduces success of a marriage. Since you can’t become younger, it’s wise to accept that you have developed a personality . Plus, you are financially independent. Keep looking for a compatible match instead of saying yes to someone whom you aren’t attracted to. As one ages, matches are hard to find. Move forward with this bitter reality.
You are already 31, Just wait for another few years and later eveeything you will like in any person.. Anything
Best, you can approch soniagandhi, proposal for Rahulgandhi
Being the second wife of a capable and financially strong man is much better than being the only wife of an unworthy person who is inferior to you.🧐🤭🤭
If you don't feel talking to them that means you did not like them. Good communication will only lead to successful marriage. Don't get married just for the sake of it. How can you live with the person you are not comfortable with.
Accent will improve with time and every desi will become angrez gradually, As long as they are genuine and reliable 🙏🏼
Just prefer the person who cares for you, nothing matters more in a relationship.
Sister Dont get married at all cuz no one can match ur vibe nor ur aura ... UR A GODDESS SO BE A GOD
Even at 31, if this is still your mindset, what more is there to say? There's a very high chance you'll end up choosing that well-settled guy earning 25 LPA—or keep looking for another equally well-settled man with a polished accent and the same salary package. At first, I genuinely felt bad for you. I thought, "The world is unfair; people still judge women by their complexion." But after reading your entire post, I realized something else—you've become part of the very mindset you were criticizing. In the end, you deserve the reality you've created for yourself.
Don't be a gold digger. .. look a person to live happily.. your are expecting money oriented person.. why those persons will look at you.
Try more! I understand you ! People in comment only judge !! It happens try online platform sometimes we can't reach so many people so online finding is best way also there are single dating events may be you find vibe match one
Where are you from , and these are where are they from 😝 just for information wanted to know the which accent you are talking about
I think don't look at accent but see the guy is mature and can able to support in all terms. Don't see beauty of black and white and I hope u will get a good match. Two things needed from boy side. A guts to go when any issue arises and how it can be solved is the main charm for male? Not in physical..
Didi ko 6 years se ladka nahi mil raha fir bhi accent k peeche padi hai . Wah Didi Wah
Both r not right. Wait for better option
Behan, english to teri bhi tatti hai sach bolu to🤦🏽♀️
30s is new 20s but A lot of time search starts as huge checklist and so many "Whatifs" . and in order to run a successful marriage - most of the time even for compatible couples is a long list of compromises + sacrifices. Its a journey really if you haven't found one yourself. Hope you don't get tired and succumb to something you repent later but also build a strong support structure in parallel. without betting too much on marriage.
Sometimes I feel people post shit just to rage bait, but on the off chance if this is a real scenario: Girl, let’s point out how "well-versed" you are in the very language you are judging these men for. Your post reads like someone typing in Hinglish but forgetting to translate half the words. Your spelling disasters: 1.Vergin - Virgin 2.Bas - Bad 3.Maine - Main Your “Educated” Grammar: 1. I didn't found - Basic past tense failure. 2. I had believe - Incorrect verb form. 3. You doesn't feel like you are talking to educated people - The absolute irony of this line when your own subject-verb agreement is non-existent. You are 31, unemployed because you walked out over "arguments," and sitting at home rejecting guys making 25–36 LPA because of their accent. You claim you want an "educated" person, but any truly educated corporate professional is going to look at your broken English and run the other way. You are single-handedly self-sabotaging. Lower the impossible standards, get a job, and start working on your own communication skills before pointing fingers at guys who are actually out there earning a living.
Retired 63yrs young boy koi ladki chahiye shadi ke liye
Gender change krwa le
25LPA 26 LPA and couldn't speak English 🫡 strange to me
You say his English is bad but your English is full of mistakes too. Lol. Go for the second guy. Help him improve his English. This can be improved. First guy you said his brother has criminal case. Better to avoid such person.
Kuch sal rukja phir ye b nhi milega jitne tere nakhre h 13 yo trapped in 31 yo body😂
You are already past the age, then why settle for any random person with no chemistry? Try to work on your communication and build yourself up so you don’t judge someone and over expect.
Better stay single and live your life
I dont feel your expectaion are high, you just want some one who matches your vibe. But understand the reality also, you are unemployed and also crossed 30. I would suggest go for the options avaliable to you for now, it will be more tough in the future. Best of luck!!!
Accent can be changed. Colour not so ( easily). And both boys are from village background but look at them earning. Good, isn't it. But my advice to you would be to wait since accent is so very important to you. Now, are you employed? If not, concentrate on that. If employed, and the guys are good , how does it matter if he says kumfor-table or comfortable. But, language can be learnt. So, with all the guidance here, you decide. Best wishes
Instead of SEARCH you're RESEARCHING.. reduce your Expectations & Compromise it.. 😅🤣😂🙈🙊🙉
Ap k liye maharaja khoj RAHe hai.. Thoda time dijiye
31 f, not fair , not working, not rich : again so many requirements. Good luck.U may find someone in next 10-20 years...
So don’t show them your true colour 🤣
Haha even accent is also one of the criteria now... Girl, they may not talk fluently but u r totally immature and have a superiority complex. With these additional qualities, don't choose a groom whom u see as low profile.
You can't find it yourself and don't let parent do the match either..... You are analysing and judging like a mother does for her daughter, even that job you are doing... But your English and accent and skin tone, hv u asked someone else, how they feel?! Now hereon do one thing, ask others how they feel and what they think about you honestly, make a note of all those points....you wil be surprised they wil be 10x worse than what you think about ppl, hope not, .........then start anew, after that your analysis maybe better...
Seriously jinko life me kuch serious problems nai rehte unko bhi problems hi dikhtey hai sab kuch...
You are like my daughter or a sister , my sweet child please pray with full dedication to god so that you are blessed with a blissful married life. Also please get your horoscope checked with a good astrologer , he will guide you about exact remedies for the same. God bless you my child 🙏
2nd one you can go . If you want to explore then do more
Did anyone noticed the spelling of "virgin" as "vergin" ??? and also she did an MBA...Did you do your MBA from MAKAUT mam...
Marry a Language instructor Listen to his accent all day
Ek kaam kar, gora se shaadi kar le, you will like their accents 🤦🤦🤦
25 and 36 LPA and can not speak english fluently 😂😂😂😂
Ohhh Diana....Now I see y u are not getting a match....Wait for ur Charles until u are 65 yrs
First correct your spelling mistakes
You're already expired 🤣🤣
Looking for a match as per your family expectations ...... suddenly after a year or 2 you will have a new post written here ....
Ignore them find someone else
It's a bit rich to criticize someone's accent when your grammar is all over the place
"I never had any bf"—guys, please do not fall for this trap. And we would all love to listen to your accent. 😂😂🤣🤣
Being single is good for u
You should have told this to their face.. atleast improve their life for the next much better god given pair
Isko behencho koi tom cruise lake do, matlab had hoti hai obsession ki bhi aur bahen please do check ur level of British lingua as well 😂😂😂
I just came here to see what experts have to say
Mere sath karlo shadi
Its ok if certain Accent is a put off for you. Dont worry
Please wait for a few more years. All your confusion will be over automatically.
U r rit ..n if u think u will earn after marriage think before again
India mai log 3LPA pe shadi kar rakhe hai..aur khuss hai..Tumko yha 25 to 35 LPA wala boy mil rh hai tab bhi Prblm hai.. Shadi nahi hogi kabhi tumari ,hogi bhi toh tut jayegi..Joint family ka natanki karo.. Log khete hai jiska maan kala uska dimag kala
Find ur own
At age 31 , you are aunty already, kyun shaadi karna hai ab
Wait for next 5 years... Even uncles will reject you... Nakhre bahut hn tere .
As per your information you mentioned the 2 persons details and other reasons why you didn't like them but u didn't mentioned what type of guy u want to marry, as per your post I assume that u need a guy with more than 40LPA no family and no relatives or else his parents should be in the village or another city all the best
You are searching for groom, best post an ad looking for hindi/ english Grammer spoken person in classified 🤣🤡
Please wait and reject both of them, wait for right person
Just stay single. Earn good money. If u r feeling lonely, go to some massage parlor with happy ending. Today's life, not worthy for marriage.
Vijayakumar Arunachalam
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For someone who has a B.Tech and an MBA (most likely in English) your English is very subpar. Probably the boys think the same of you. 💁🏽♂️ not everyone wants a fair girl but you hide your flaws behind one thing you can’t change. Focus on things you can change and work on it. My 2 cents on your situation.
Villagers will obviously speak their own language with their natural accent so there is no worries in marrying such guy if your looking for an accent so search for a groom in England or america not here
Ping me. Let's talk
Make prospective groom to join English speaking course and personality development and communication courses before 2nd meeting must and don't look for less then 1 cr salary and 5 cr personal property with zero family responsibility and atleast 50 cr family inheritance, it's bare minimum for girls now days to survive with guys. Also look for atleast 6 feet height as you won't want a midget man in your life besides that focus on getting 6 inches minimum with 60 minutes stamina as that's what a nice girl like you deserve Good luck 🍀👍😁
Jo mil rha hai usse karlo Soon your eggs will dry up
How much you are earning with next level english. It's just a communication. You think it's flex oyeee.
I dislike drink or smoke ok
Any female here who looking long time or marriage pls ping me my salary is low but I m very nice person
Ladki doond
Apart from the accent you are not satisfied it's a different thing leave it and find someone else
Forget all this and sign up for lessons in grammar. You need it.