Hi, I am a 28 years girl and I work for an MNC in India. I got married to my husband in 2024. After that, we started living together in his flat. After some time, we started having fights. He told me that there was some vastu problem with the flat so we started living together in another rented apartment. After that, he started cheating on me everyday. I have evidence of him cheating on me repeatedly. I had married him against my parents’ wishes, so I was emotionally very dependent on him. Because of that, I kept forgiving him every time. But after some time, my husband left me and told me that we should live separately for some days. Then I started living on rent and he is living on his house. Then I planned to book a flat with consulting him because I wanted us to stay together and start our life again. My earnings are not very high, be honest, I earn around ₹30,000 per month. I booked a flat worth around ₹40 lakhs because he told me that he would help me pay the EMI while I was living on rent. But now I have found out that he is with someone else. We are not legally separated or divorced. we were not physically connected in that way bcz he don’t want but I was still completely committed to the marriage. I was saving every penny and even working night shifts just to earn an additional ₹3,000–₹4,000 so that I could save money and buy the flat, only because I wanted to make him happy and stay together with him. He also asked me to take a car loan because he wanted to buy a car, so I was trying to help him with that as well. The loan had not been processed yet. In the meantime, I found out that he is engaged to another girl, who works at HDFC as a cashier manager in Kolkata. they are having an extramarital affair, and I also found out that they had booked tickets to Darjeeling together. After finding this out, I contacted the girl. I searched for her on social media and told her that we are married, that I am his wife, and that I love him very much. I asked her to please leave him alone. She told me through messages that she would leave him and that she did not know that he was married. But even after knowing everything, she is still with him. They are spending time together and having a physical relationship. Since finding all of this out, I have not been able to eat or sleep. I haven’t slept for three days, and I have hardly eaten anything except drinking water. I don’t know what to do. The girl has blocked me everywhere. When I try to call her, she uses abusive language, does not receive my calls, and treats me very badly. Even after knowing that we are married, she is still with him. My husband is also continuing his relationship with her. I don’t know what to do. I feel like I cannot live without him, but at the same time, I am not able to manage everything financially. I have to pay the rent and the EMI, and I also need to save money to pay the remaining amount for the flat by January. I have already booked the flat. I feel completely helpless and emotionally broken. I don’t know what to do or whom to approach. Can anyone please suggest what I can do in this situation? I can’t leave him. Can I contact their organization or report the situation to their employers? I am literally very emotionally disturbed and helpless right now. Please don’t take me the wrong way. My hands are shivering, and I am finding it very difficult to even explain everything properly. I genuinely need guidance on what I should do next.
Sabhi sahi ladkiyon ka yahi haal hota hai....they have zero knowledge about a good and bad guy....
Have proofs, file it in court
Just go to the girls office and create a scene there, she herself will avoid your husband. Be bold, it’s your right and inspite of giving so many chances they are taking you for a ride. They are considering you a coward. So be bold and cancel the car loan and warn your husband. If she again continues, tell her that you will inform her husband and file police complaint.
Approach police and file a complaint against your husband. There is no point staying in this marriage even if you are emotionally dependent on him. You are at a loss. Regarding the flat if you feel you can manage the emi and flat is ready for possession go ahead and stay there or else cancel the flat booking. You might lose entire booking amount or there might be cancellation charges of sorts atleast you will be safe from emi.. cancel even car loan before it is processed. Start living for yourself.
Can't judge him without knowing his side now ,can we ?
Sell that flat get ur money refunded back even if it is deducted amount ... Hire a legal aid from court which would cost u nothing to take legal actions ... Take a rented home which u can afford and live ur life peacefully till ur case get resolved.... And trust me ham kisi ka nature nahi badal sakte tumko usko chordna he hai aaj nhi toh kal .... Bas aaj akele ri rhi ho kal bacha k sath ro logi .... Bahut he genuine aur practical advise hai keep it or else is your own choice
First of all, please breathe and take care of yourself. ❤️ You are going through an enormous emotional shock, but please remember that **your life and your well-being are more important than this marriage or this man.** You have already sacrificed a lot—your savings, your peace, your sleep and even your financial stability—because you genuinely wanted to save your marriage. That shows your commitment, but marriage cannot be saved by one person alone. Right now, **please don't contact the other woman repeatedly, don't argue with her, and don't approach her workplace or your husband's workplace in anger.** It may only make the situation more complicated for you. Save all the evidence you already have—messages, tickets, conversations, financial commitments and anything related to the flat—in a safe place. Your immediate priorities should be: 1. **Your health:** Three days without proper sleep or food is serious. Please stay with a trusted friend/family member today and get medical help if you cannot eat or sleep. 2. **Your finances:** Don't take the car loan for him. Don't put any more money into his plans until you have independent legal and financial advice. 3. **The ₹40 lakh flat:** Speak to the builder/bank immediately and find out what options you have regarding cancellation, transfer, restructuring or delaying the transaction. Don't assume you have no options. 4. **Legal advice:** Since you are still legally married, consult a family-lawyer privately and explain the entire situation, including the evidence and the financial commitments you've made. 5. **Emotional support:** Please tell your parents or at least one person you completely trust. You don't have to carry this alone just because you married against their wishes. And one difficult thing you need to hear: **loving him does not mean you have to keep accepting betrayal.** You can love someone deeply and still choose to protect yourself. Don't make any irreversible decision today. Don't chase the other woman. Don't fight with your husband. Don't take another loan. First get yourself physically and emotionally stable, understand your legal and financial position, and then decide what you want to do with the marriage. You are not helpless. You are hurt, shocked and overwhelmed right now—and there is a difference. ❤️
File for a divorce , the police has no role in it , unless you book him for fraud .
Dear, just relax and think calmly about this betrayed situation, if mistake repeats it will repeat for long time...ur situation is understatble leaving a person that we love so much is tough, but that can make u difficult for few month later ur situation will be normalised.....think handling few months relationship break up is better than living with emotional trauma...
First of all, please don’t blame yourself for loving your husband or for trying to save your marriage. You were emotionally attached to him and genuinely tried to make the relationship work. But from what you have described, you now need to stop thinking about how to get him back and start protecting yourself emotionally, financially and legally. The most important thing right now is DO NOT take the car loan for him and do not take any new loan or financial liability in his name or for his benefit. You are already earning around ₹30,000 per month and have rent, EMI and a ₹40 lakh property commitment. Please don’t put yourself into further debt because of him. Regarding the flat, immediately collect and safely keep every document: booking agreement, payment receipts, bank statements, loan documents, emails/WhatsApp messages where he promised to contribute to the EMI, and any proof showing that the purchase was planned with his involvement. Before paying any further amount, speak to a qualified property/family lawyer and a financial adviser. You need to understand exactly whose name is on the property, who is legally liable for the loan, and what your options are if you cannot continue the payments. Regarding the affair, you have already informed the other woman that he is married. You don’t need to keep calling or contacting her. She has blocked you, so continuing to contact her may only create more stress and could potentially create problems for you. Your primary issue is your husband and your marriage, not the other woman. You should also preserve the evidence you already have of your husband’s relationship, but do not hack his accounts, impersonate anyone, threaten anyone, publicly expose private photos/chats, or illegally obtain information. Keep only evidence that you have lawfully obtained. As for contacting their employers: I would strongly advise you not to contact either employer simply because they are having an affair. An extramarital relationship is generally a personal matter, and approaching someone’s workplace to expose them can escalate the situation and potentially create legal problems for you. If there is some separate issue involving fraud, misuse of company resources, harassment, conflict of interest, or another genuine workplace policy violation, that is different but speak to a lawyer before making any complaint. Most importantly, please consult a good family lawyer in your city as soon as possible. You don’t have to decide today whether to divorce him or stay with him. First understand your legal position, your rights as a wife, your rights/obligations regarding the flat and loans, and what options you have if he refuses to support you. And please take care of your immediate health. Three days without proper sleep and almost no food is not something you should ignore. Drink fluids, try to eat something light, and ask a trusted family member or friend to stay with you if possible. If you feel that you might hurt yourself, feel unable to stay safe, or your physical condition is becoming severe, please seek emergency medical help immediately. You don’t have to solve your entire marriage tonight. For now, stop taking new financial liabilities, stop chasing the other woman, preserve your evidence, secure your financial documents, and speak to a family lawyer. You loved him that doesn’t mean you have to financially destroy yourself to prove that love. Protecting yourself now is not giving up; it is taking control of your life.
Will u marry me please
Contact your Family pls. it's very important. Ask for help from some colleague or someone who deals in all these matters. God has been kind thst you didn't hsve a child between you both. Some are suffering silently because of child. God saved you, it's very difficult to understand at this point. It wil take time to survive again. Pls take care, god bless
Seek legal help. And u need therapy, from professional well trained person. Share your problem with close friend. And try to see if u can reconnect with your family(if possible) they can be a tremendous help. Everybody makes mistakes in their life and some family understands that and accept their family member back into the family if they are apologetic. Good Luck I hope your life gets better
Contact your parents asap & leave the marriage. Don take any financial burden for him . God bless..
Simply Divorce and take Alimony from him.
दिल है ये सोचता, फिर भी नहीं पता किस हक़ से कहूँ बता के मैं हूँ हीरो तेरा 😎😎 Msg me my baby 😜
Why to contact the girl and ask her to end the contact?? Your husband is an adult and he has equally done that crime. Don't be an emotional fool. This World is very critical. Learn to be dependent on yourself and not others. Confront him and then leave him. Stay happy and in the meantime focus on growth and development. Bad days teach us a lot of new things.
I feel sorry that this happened.So many suggestions has been poured out,you can try anyone of it..but,but ,but I really (I think all the others also who commented) would want to see what your husband looks like and what he does for living,I mean the guy has not only managed one but two girls to be dumbfounded and hopelessly in love to the point of abusing eachother but not actually abusing, beating the crap out of the husband...bravo husband,and you n that girl- woman have some dignity pls!
One suggestion please. DO NOT divorce him. I repeat Do not divorce him. Let them enjoy their physical life. Some people just take marriage so lightly. Once you divorce him, they will probably get married and live a happy life and you are left all alone. He married you and has no right to mess with your life. Do not contact him further or the girl. Let the girl live like a kip ,at least she can't be his wife. After nagging your husband for a while , finally she will get married to someone else. Just don't let them live happily ever after, destroying your life. Divorce or remarriage is never a solution. There's no guarantee that your next marriage (if it happens) will be a happy one, so stick to it, ignore your husband, take your time, eventually you will come out of this phase. Time is the best healer. Some people need to understand that you just can't walk out of marriage just because you got some new things to explore.
Ye jo wifes loyal nd comitted rehti h unke hi husband kyu kamine nikal jate h
Please take a couple of deep breaths. Go stand in the sun for 10 minutes. Come back and read what you have written. Then ask yourself what is the end goal? You think a husband who travels on vacation with other women will one day become 'pavitra pati'? Obviously he was and remains a RED FLAG. People lose entire family, children and still live. You will definitely live without him. You need to: a) Get in touch with either family or senior colleague you trust or a mentor b) Do some breathing exercises to calm yourself and think rationally c) Get int touch with professional finance planner and figure next steps d) Collect proof and file for legal separation. Last but the MOST important step. And stay away from requesting women your husband has relationships with to leave. He is the problem, they are not answerable to you. Hope you see better days.
Just leave him. File for a divorce, if he is willing to pay any alimony or maintenace then fine, otherwise leave that too.
Dear first take legal help. Your love and dependency everything is one sided. Practice some spirituality for mental peace and get a clarity of your thoughts Cancel the flat booked and start taking care of your health and focus on your career and then again you can always book another flat in future Don’t get into his trap and book a car with a loan in your name Stay disconnected from him and that another women Completely focus on your life!! If need seek medical help for mental health.
In which marriage people dont fight I really want to know. 2 people even if born together as twin siblings fight with each other. But I don't think someone will start saying the fights are because of vastu. It seems from the very beginning husband was trying to get rid of his wife so that he could live as he desired. I am not able to understand why does this confessor want to stay with a man who does not value her at all. Please get some self respect and start valuing yourself. Stop chasing your husband and figure out how you can improve your financial condition
Tu bewakuf hai aur vo tera fayeda utha raha h har tarike se. Police k pas jaa aur divorce package aata h ek vo daal de. Baaji palat jayegi
I am always against of taking alimony, but in this case he is completely fooling you. Play smart now. If you have evidences, file for divorce and demand for alimony. Use that for your flat when the case will complete. By that time manage the way you are managing today. Shift to shared accommodation. Don't take any car loan or anything further. Inform his parents and ur parents. It's okay u got married against your parents but they will definitely help you. Inform them about him.
Meet à good lawer... The man is gone for ever.
Do not opt for any loan. You have to take care of your finances first. File for divorce, he has already cheated on you, no need to waste your life on this kind of man,you are just 28. Don't think about what society or others will say. Take charge of your life, no amount of begging or lying a change a cheater. Karma will get back to him. Restart your life ,afresh. Be brave.
Feel so sorry for you . If the registration is not done all you can do is cancell the flat deal . Atleast u will get relief from the burden . Also you need to collect all the proof against him and file a police complaint and search for a lawyer who charges nominal and file a case . Do not expect him to come back in your life he is cheater and just make it clear he was with you only for his needs .
Police complaint is the best solution
Ikathe rh lo teeno
U r already living without him...he is not there in the marriage...sell the flat n car...get divorced ...don't contact the girl...its ur husband who is at fault...the girl is simply following husband lead cz he wants to stay with her...find some peace..
you know everything still want to be with him ....really ...you know what you have to do ....please take step now....
Report him. Get a lawyer. Divorce. Get therapy
I’m really sorry you’re going through this, but please pause and separate the emotional crisis from the financial and legal decisions. Right now, the priority is not winning him back or confronting the other woman, it is protecting yourself. First, do not take the car loan or any additional debt for your husband, and do not put any more money into his expenses. You are earning ₹30,000 a month, yet you have taken on a ₹40 lakh property obligation and rent. Please sit down with a financial adviser or someone you trust and calculate whether you can realistically afford this flat on your own. If the booking can legally be cancelled, transferred, or renegotiated, speak to the builder and a property lawyer immediately rather than waiting until January. Second, stop contacting the other woman. She has blocked you and continuing to call her will only increase your distress and could potentially create problems for you. Your husband's responsibility toward the marriage is primarily his, regardless of what she does. I would also strongly advise against contacting either person's employer merely to expose the affair. An employee's personal relationship is generally not an employer's concern unless there is some separate workplace misconduct or policy violation. Instead, preserve whatever evidence you already have, messages, financial transactions, admissions, relevant documents, and consult a family lawyer about your rights as a legally married spouse, including financial/property issues and the appropriate legal options if you decide to separate. Most importantly, three days without sleep and barely eating, along with shaking hands and feeling unable to cope, is not something to ignore. Please don't stay alone right now. Call a trusted parent, sibling or friend and ask them to stay with you. Get some food and fluids into yourself, and if you continue to be unable to sleep/eat or feel that you might harm yourself, seek urgent medical help. And please remember, forgiving him repeatedly doesn't obligate you to keep sacrificing yourself. You can love someone deeply and still decide that their behaviour is unacceptable. Don't make a permanent financial or legal decision while you're in the middle of this emotional shock. Stabilise yourself first, protect your money, get proper legal advice, and then decide what you want your future to look like.
Divorce le aage nikal. Why getting attached
Great story. Try something better
You are devi(goddess) born in this kalyug by mistaken. Even after doing so much for family ur hus still cheats on you, he is sinner. Send him divorce letter show evidence in court, living alone is far better than dying every day. May blessings upon you!
Woh ladki ko dhund ke uske area me hungama macha ke aao ke woh kahin muh nai dikha paye.. Bcz these type of girls they never leave married man.. Bcz unke sugar daddy unko paisa dete rehte hai biwi ka haq marke.. Social media pe viral kardo bandi ko.. Kuch nai se kuch hoga.. I hope jo flat aapne liya hai wo pati ke naam pe nai hai... Kyunki jab tak bandi ko nai pata marriage ka aapne pyar se baat kari.. Pyar se bhi naa mane toh badnami zaruri hai.. Pati ko b viral kardo... Law aajkal bohot weak ho gaya hai.. Jo innocent insaan hai law usko hi thaka deta hai.. Law ke through jaoge sab lawyers bhi paisa drain kar denge.. Lawyers case lete time badi baatein krte hai.... Fee le lene ke baad phone bhi nahi uthate.. Udhar b aapke paise lag jaenge...
Omg, why you killing yourself every day and by now it's like a chronic self-killing ... No other way, just find someone else and start a new life ..then so many issues wil be solved.....except your emotional status, which you can only tide over no matter how hard....it's possible and the only chance you have to regain your happiness and glory
Hey, im sorry to hear you're going through this all alone, but please remember you have your parents and family in whatever situation you are they are there for you. Talk to your family spend some time with them and I hope you will figure it out, if you want to talk to someone you can talk to me as a friend. More power to you, please take care of yourself, i hope destiny has better plans for you. Please don't lose hope and believe in yourself. Reach out to me if it is getting difficult for you and want to share things as a woman. Love you, girl
Stun his dick I mean use a stun gun and disperse electric shocks on his balls.. this way he will not have erections for two weeks and the mental trauma will force him to stay loyal…🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪👀👀 Isko kar daala to Life jhingalaaala
Make them suffer the way they have suffered you. If you have proof, divorce him and take alimony. Also, show both of their faces in social media so people can find out their affair. Girl, be bold in life. And please don't take that trash back. Once a trash, always a trash and it belongs in dustbin.
Simply Divorce and take Alimony from him. Sale the flat & car. First live peacefully
Surprisingly the one who should use law and punish the husband is crying. You are just 28 and no kid. Whole life is ahead of you. First clear your mind that he can't be anymore in your life. Tell your husband to compensate you financially and go for a mutual divorce. Consult a lawyer and take their advice.
"I can't leave him" This is your problem. Leave this asshole for good. But not before teaching him a lesson. File a case against him. As for your finances, Am sure there will be a solution to this like lesser EMI per month etc. Remember this, it is a good thing you don't have kids with this man and you are young. Run before time runs out.
Very simple. He is trash. Take him out of ur life and file a case of adultery, desertion and whatever nto teach him a good lesson. Get maintenance nd alimony too. All the best dear and God bless you. Hope u find a sincere person in life.
First reconcile with your parents. They will manage everything. You can approach police, hire a lawyer and do so many things but currently you need support of trustworthy people.
You said you have proof ? Where are they ?
Dm
Send me message ill help you to get out of this situation
Fake story,
File a police complaint and also apply for divorce and take alimony as he had ditched u after marriage and there is high chances that he will blackmail u emotionally as he knows that he is your weakness,don't fall for that and fight for your rights ..don't let him go easily!!
Divorce and take ALL his money
Divorce
Since beginning his intentions were not good. First gave you a vastu excuse, then flat, car...you are in a catch 20 situation. He is playing with your emotions. Keep all the evidence and take some legal advice. Try to emotionally disconnect with him. Be strong and take charge of your life. I am share free tips to deal with anxiety and fear https://www.steer-u.com/psychological-counselling/free-therapy Feel free to connect with me.
You are a slave , pls change your mindset. Remove him.from your life , keep proof of cheating, ask hefty alimony+ monthly support, Tell him to get lost then
Apply for divorce. Let that dog eat shit.
No one can help you unless you help yourself. This cheater of a man is cheating two women at the same time, and yet you say you can't live without him?? He must have told her that my wife is a toxic, mentally challenged person who beats me, that's why she has blocked you everywhere. Very smartly he is keeping two birds in hand and will eventually fly with a third one. Please stop fooling yourself. Remember the only person you can't live without is yourself. Everyone else is replaceable.
Call your parents, and tell them you made a blunder mistake by marrying that man. You need to leave him, take divorce and recover your money that you lost due to him. He took advantage of you and still taking it by asking you to take up all sorts of loans. A lot of women are so naive, innocent and stupid that they fall prey to such manipulative men.
What kind of creatures are these who are laughing at the plight of a helpless lady who's mentioning that she is shivering while writing this ? Fail to understand as to what extent we have become ruthless .
Are your doormat? Grow a spine..
He is just using u! U just divorce him! U will definitely get a person who loves you whole heartedly! Never ever beg anyone to stay in ur life! U deserve the best not some unfaithful trash!
If you have proof then viral that bitch and moron in social media. Fir Divorce lelo. Apni khushiya ki chabi kisi ko bhi mat do.... Love yourself sis.
You are absolutely stupíd, to the point of rětărdation. Now, keeping that aside, please file a police complain, divorce properly, then take whatever your lawyer can legally get from him. Use rational instead of emotions out there in real world. Emotions always leads to non-sense and bottomless pit.
You cant take any right decision in this situation contact your parents they will help you and leave that stupid husband
Are you dumb? Instead of crying here, consult a lawyer. You're financially independent, so you have no issues.
go to her office with proof and defame her there.she will withdraw.
I think you need to visiting psychiatrist soon ! You are educated and earning too but you don’t have brain and self respect too ! Do you really think he is going to stay with you or you guys have long term relationships between you! Take care of yourself but you definitely need some psychiatric help
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