Hi, I need some advice. I got married 4 years ago when I was 33 years. I never had a gf ever and was a virgin. It was an arranged marriage through a matrimonial website. She was working in a different country and I was in a different county. Both are Indian National. Wife’s parents wanted to get her married soon so I met her briefly and we got married within a month as my visa was also going to expire so I had to come back. She left her job and came back on dependent visa to my place. Since then, on and off we used to fight over silly matters. She made me leave talking to all my girl colleagues and fought over all the girls I had messaged while during matrimonial connection. We didn't share much interests but I supported her all I could so she found a good job, pursued her hobbies. I have a busy job not the usual 9-5 and occasional weekend work. But all she wanted me to spend time watching desi serials and complaint I was not giving enough time to her. I liked outdoor activities but I left all that and tried to give as much time after my work to her. She talked to her parents back in India for hours and missed them and used to pressure me to move back. Our s*x life was miserable. Naturally I wanted a lot as I was virgin but I had to beg and may be got once in a few months. First she used to say she dosnt want to have kids but I said I loved kids. Since last one year we were trying to have kids but could not and I got myself tested and there was nothing wrong with my spearm, she had to go but dis not…. we used to make food once or twice a week or so and eat for rest of the week. Last few weeks she started behaving unlike her character.. She never exercised, hated it, never got up early but last few weeks she got very active.. Started going on long walks and whenever I came home she used to go out. Today I came home from office and assumed she must have gone for a walk when I didn't find at home. But after some time I get a message that she is going to India and she needs space and her phone is not reachable. She was very careful and methodical in packing all she wanted to take. I called her parents and they are behaving strangely saying they will talk after she reaches home. Now, I am not sure what to do.. Hearing and reading about all the cases I am a bit afraid. What should I do? I am worried about my aged parents in India and any false cases etc.
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Divorce in cards . Be ready for shock
Alimony loading Brace for the impact !
You can file a anticipatory complaint . ⚠️ This is commonly referred to as an anticipatory complaint or a preventive complaint. It involves preemptively notifying the police or the court that someone is threatening to file a false case or blackmailing you, essentially establishing a paper trail to protect yourself in advance.
1st if you are the only child of your parents transfer your bank balance and to your parents if you have property transfer to there name. According to me it is not very easy to give you a domestic violence case as it is outside India.
"Got married within a month" wtf ???
Doesn't sound believable at all, I won't comment before knowing the other side of this tale
Did you consider taking help if marital councellors .
Maybe look after yourself ....accept the reality ..move on !!! It takes time ..
Get a lawyer first and take the first steps from your side.
She knows very well how the indian judiciary is, dont lose ur hope anna 💔
First, avoid going to india for now, and try deal With high. EQ. Seek professional help, get anticipatory bail fkr parents, rest lawyer would take care
First of all, transfer all your wealth on you mother-father name ASAP. And don't do anything. Keep collecting evidences. Don't call them, send messages to have the proof. Or even if you call, keep recording each and every call. And jina hai to bas chupchap evidences collect krte rho. Talk with lawyer for preparation of possible separation and the money she will ask. Jab bhi lge ki you have enough details, check with lawyer wether you should file separation request or wait for her. Lekin sbse phle apni sari saving ya jo bhi hai sab parents ke name pe kr do. And next time agar wo bhul se aa bhi jaye to laat mar ke niklna ghar se. Duniya me achhi ldkiya bhi hai, dusri achhi mil jayegee.
Time to create a family trust
Please be calm and careful while making a decision on your life
Don't worry, keep calm don't panic
Meet a Lawyer(Family court).Be ready to face all false allegations,including Domestic violence . Initiate Divorce proceedings from your side ASAP,do not wait for her legal move.
You absolutely never ever did any physical, verbal or financial abuse to her? This looks like she is running away from an abuser. And she has proof.
“Koi mil gaya hai” everyone blaming women but actual culprit is man 🧍♂️. She got some poop 💩 person, who spends some time with her and talk goody goody. Now she thinks everything bad to you. Be ready for 498a , DV and force sex and even multiple cases Just take citizenship and don’t go to 🇮🇳 , protect yours parents via advance bail. Hire detectives to expose her. Talk all ppl as much as possible to her relatives. Always remember, her realivetive will pay key role to spreading news to her all places. Now she is gone don’t bring her home any cost, Now fight fight fight fight.
Immediately Reach out to SaveIndianFamily (no money taken or given) NGO
What should you do? Transfer whatever amount you have in your mom's account. Get light years away from her. She is already gone. Keep your fingers crossed that you are not dragged in court
First transfer all assets in your country to a trust and in home land to parent's name, keep some lumpsum amount ready for alimony whatever least you can afford, divorce is coming so brace for impact and be prepared in mind and don't hesitate do it on first call, go for mutual divorce if possible on non compatible ground and non child bearing capabilities ground .
Consult a good lawyer sir
I think good riddance
To phir kamane wali se Sadi kyu Kiya jab mabap ki itni parwah thi..
Don't go to lawer, they eat money, discuss directly with she respect relative, exit from this girl, safe , otherwise wait , soon life shock will comes
woh tumhe test krti rhi , tum fail hote gye .
Please take professional help
Her chemistry would have worked with someone else .. betrayal
Sorry to say your fielding is set get a lawyer asap and protect your assets and mental health if any remained
1. She must be a lesbian. 2. She is having an affair.
Won't be shocked if she files a domestic abuse and marital neglect against you. Women these days!
You should be having a party instead.
Question is why are you afraid, if you didn't do anything ? Have you been abusing her ? Does she have proof of your abuse ?
DM for all your legal requirements
This is a complete red flag. This girl will never be suitable for you. Life with her will be nothing but hell. Her parents will always get involved in your personal problems and may treat you badly. They will never realize or acknowledge even a small mistake made by their daughter. Please save yourself and protect your future. Living with this kind of behavior for four years is a remarkable achievement. The only reason the relationship survived for so long is because of your patience, understanding, and willingness to endure.
Find ànother leave dat beach
Good you are out of the country. Tell you parents also to go into hiding. Let her intiate the proceedings, send notices after notices but do not budge, she will give up.
Got married within a month?? Naturally want a lot of sex because you were a virgin?? You guys didn't talk about kids?? She watches serials and you are outdoorsy? She resigned to come live with you after working overseas and then just sat at home? Like man, explain how you are holding on to the job you're doing currently. You don't seem very bright honestly! My concern is not even with this marriage, this one is over. What about the next girl you're going to marry?
Don't listen to anything. Send her a court notice to respond withinh 10 days. If she doesn't, don't file divorce. Sue her parents for slandering and money mismanagement. Push all the buttons in a way that she becomes the ultimate perpetrator in the eyes of the court. And just when things settler ask for divorce. Mentally anguish her and her parents so much that they don't even think of being stooges. Good luck.
Wait for 498 A notice. You will get screwed
Be prepared.... With Good lawyer
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You seem very immature. There are no problems as such. It also seems you don't know how to communicate. Seek help from marriage counselor not random people online.
Their plan is to extract money from u ...m sure she having affair. Be calm talk to your good lawyer and get rid off that woman.
Why u wanna lead a this kind of miserable life bro.... just go for divorce