30 M 12 lpa working in gurugram So its more then a confession a serious concerning issue, So I'm bengali male living in gurguram from last 3 years working in a MNC , So what's actually the problem of bengali girls why they have became like this .. There is a girl in my office whom I know from last 3 years I liked her so much I respect her basically I wanted to marry her, but now the things that are problematic.. She don't care about me don't even talk to me properly, she calls herself a staunch feminist with a progressive modern mindset which I appreciate deep.. But on the other hand she hangs out with the local guys from the city who are deeply mysoginistic and regressive who speaks poorly constatntly passes blunt anti feminists remarks against the a specific gender I myself heard it on so many occasions... And still this bengali girl whom I likes spends her most of the time with them, travelling along with them going outside even going to their flats.. I warned her multiple times to not to engage with such guys as they are opposite of bengali culture but everytime she scolded and abused me and called me regressive and coward, on one hand she talks about how she dreams about feminine men with values on other hands she spents nights out with the men who are exact opposite of feminine traits.. Once I saw a big muscle guy lifted her up in public and she was laughing out loud and enjoying and teasing him to do more.. I remember when once I tried to gently hold her hand in office she took her hand away and gave me deadly look and said don't cross the line behave like a real men.. Remember the controversy of "370 rupee biryani guy" Few weeks back.. So this girl actually went to that shitty show with a local guy and even laughed to that shitty vulgar comment and enjoyed, but when came back she was posting the reels how this was embarrasimg as a women and sad state of society for women and concerning.. But she herself laughing that time and even posted the story of that vulgar show on her social media.. And this is not just one case some of my known guys from bengal living around in the city working also tell the same stories about bengali girls getting casual with local guys just by seeing there physical features instead of seeing their mind and morals.. It actually surprises me how bengali girls on one hand talks about respect , equality and progressiveness and then on other side they casually hooks up with the guys who are from deeply regressive and patriarchal society from haryana... Even the guys who are from other states and even from Southern states who are living and working around does not have a good image about bengali girls they themselves says that bengali girls are radical feminists with bad sociel habits.. And they"ll never want to marry them and the locals just want to hook up with them. . I request to all me bengali girls please came on track and don't go outside your liberal modern respected bengali culture or else bengali men will have no other option left then to became 'Musculine" Like other nornthern states..
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You can’t control her choices, and you don’t have to accept disrespect. Let it go and put your energy into living your own life.
I had one such girl in during my college. Only bengali girl in our batch. She was from Biotech. Actually, I got to know about her from my classmates and friends as you know the "image" of bengali girls have outside. During a college event, we got introduced to each other and I tried to warn her about the culture, mindset and all which was prevalent there. Note - I was not taking any chance on her, just didn't want her to fall prey to those guys. Result? She seemed disappointed and was talking like 'my life my choice'. Same attitude, oversmart behavior. But anyways, absolutely agreed with her. Never ever bothered her again. My friends used to pin me "dekh vo Pahadi usko pata le gaya, tu yahi betha hai". Heard she had multiple affairs, breakups, 5 bfs etc. etc. How much true? I don't know. Never cared. In the last year, heard she had a mental breakdown and matter was escalated till the Departmental head. On the last exam I saw her crying in front of a Prof. surrounded by her friends. Moral - Tor ki jae bhai? Let people live their life. Their life, their decisions, their consequences. Don't bother them else you will unnecessarily become a villain in their life. If u want to become a villain for her, ur choice. Mujhe koy shauk nhi kisi ki life ka villain banne ka
You're bengali so, you know that colloquial bengali saying right "Dheki sorge geleo dhan bhange" translation for Pan India audience "The manual Rice Husker will only keep De-Husking Rice even if it goes to heaven" meaning is even if you're in Gurgaon and that has no co-relation to Kolkata, you'll still do this side quest of judging people for useless, fruitless and unproductive reason. Advice is, please focus on yourself and your self-developement. No one has told you to become a messiah or start showing the path to Toxic Loving Pseudo Feminist Jokers, if it's their choice to get treated like a sludge barrel then let them be. As a man any woman who brings peace and constructive value in your life and is accepting of you, whatever and whoever you are should be approached as a potential wife. Not focusing on who is Bengali, who is Brahmin or who is from what caste and other nonsensical topics. If she accepts you and her parents are okay, then move forward with the same. And please don't advice or try to change society, cause it's a useless effort, smile and say that's amazing and always ALWAYS maintain professional decorum at work. You go to office for a job not to monitor people's ware abouts or seek out a GF or Wife. If a chance encounter occurs let it happen organically not focusing on caste, creed, religion. 🙂
The last line is very misleading. Bong men have to become 'musculine' , what does that even mean ?? What's stopping you to be whatever you feel like ?! In fact bong men are no pure spotless souls either. IMO whatever you've pointed out is an individual stand and tbh all of us are selectively sinning in different ways. I do not see why we have to drag everything to regional orientation / interests!
If you are still chasing her, you are deserving of the treatment.
Bro what people sells are different from what they actually buy 2. Looks and performance in bed with reasonable money monthly (not yearly)12 lakh money income with enough time to spend ...is more preferable
Only one thing I can say that don't waste your time and life on her as what I understood from your confession is that she has a different hypocrite mindset than you. In long run you won't be at peace with her no matter how much you like her.
Who are u to even control her ? Stop moral policing And please don't gently touch her hands again Isn't it clear she doesn't like you? Her life her choice
Dusri mil jayegi uske piche hé kyu pade ho
The message is strictly for the Non-bengali folks. Let it be very clear from the outset. The Bengali, specifically the Hindu Bengalis are of two types. 1) Bengalis who are indigenous of West Bengal 2) Bengalis who have migrated from the East Bengal (now Bangladesh) as refugees, their descendants, and the mixed-blood type. Today the majority of Hindu bongs who inhabit the West Bengal region are the refugees and the mixed-blood type who intermarried with the local west Bengalis over the decades since 1947. All these refugees are today disconnected to the homelands, their roots and their culture (whatever culture they practiced back in east bengal). Besides, these refugees have undergone massive trauma; many of them (if not most) have seen or heard their womanfolk being brutalized by muslims in East Bengal/pakistan. Being rootless, suffered from generational trauma have made them hollow inside, and delusion, self-hate and self-destructiveness become integral part of their nature. That's why they fell such easy prey to communist ideology and later on, feminism or whatever else, which are all offshots of that same radical communist ideology. That's why Bengali society were and still are a fortress of so-called communist intellectuals, who dominate every sphere of their lives today, from literature to cinema to public discourse. Remember, this trait of radical feminism which you witness among so-called urban, modern Bengali women is the direct result of rootlessness, lack of identity, sense of history, culture and heritage, and their generational trauma which never truly healed. Which, in a nutshell, is typical Bong refuge syndrome. Do NOT mix up with so-called Bengali girls if they act radical feminist or try to shove their "idea" upon you. Please note that over-smartness can always be a convenient mask to hide the deep inferiority complex inside. NOT ALL BENGALI GIRLS ARE LIKE THIS. Not all Bengali people are same. There are millions of Hindu Bengalis who are totally indigenous to West Bengali who are deeply rooted to their ancestral land, their folk culture and heritage. None of them know and care about feminism. Their men are masculine and women are feminine; neither machoist nor feminist. The guy who posted this is also a Bengali and exhibited his trait by calling Hariyana and Punjabi people "uncultured", "regressive", "parochial" and what not. These are actually popular jargons among the Kolkata intellectual class, in their college and university campuses, in the coffee house or club house places. He merely demonstrated what he had learnt in his college days in Kolkata. People of Hariyana and Punjab are not regressive, nor Bengali men are effiminate. Understand what is bengali. It does not reside in Kolkata presidency, college street or coffee house. Read my reply again. It will not clear your head, but it may give you a glimpse. Also, avoid Bengali girls (whom you may find around you) if they are not compatible with you. Sex is not everything. If they try to shove their "knowledge" upon you, keep them at an arms' length. The outward gesture of smartness or coolness is always a clever attempt to whitewash a dark, shameful past. Let them rot in the pit which they have created in the past 50 years.
You are the nice guy, but only the bad, ruthless, unpredictable guys can trigger her emotions. She might be talking about matured, stable relationships when she is logical but her lifestyle made it impossible for her to find peace in stability.
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U should not give advice ..better see other girl
Don't call that masculinity which you see in local boys of gurgaon ! That's basically jhantupanti and laundiya baazi
ভাই তুই মাকে বল মেয়ে দেখে দেবে গ্রাম থেকে।
There you go you said it yourself those men are good looking and muscular and probably good in bed .. that's why she's wagging behind them
First of all, do not generalise. 2nd not your circus not your monkey bro. It's their life, you live yours they live theirs.
Eto chap keno nichis khali ektai Mey ache neki… aro koto Mey ache … bhai punjabi Mey dekhe bite kor Ora Bhalo hoi
Brother if she is not interested in you, whats the purpose of analysing her personality trait or value system and investing your time and emotion. Man up take the rejection its just another part of life, Find your kind of person if that does not work try again life is too short to be stuck. All the best.
Keep yourself safe and distant
she's just not into you. accept it. why talk shit bout her?
Lol u re a nice guy
Bhai uska chakkar chhod aur nikal lo is se fatafat jitna ho sake Otherwise jhand ho jayegi
Bhai tushe kya takleef ho Rahi hain .. unless she is not your sister still why so worried
Stay away from all this. Focus on yourself and self-respect..
কত জান ভাই তুমি তাও কোনো গব্য নেই
Whats wrong in becoming appropriatly masculine?! Not the northern states masculine but to stand by Ur values and expectations and let go of those ppl n circumstances that don't value your presence. Let go bro!
Always a bengali simp 🤡. Bengalis are top tier simp.
Your last line sumps it up - "bengali men will have no other option left then to became 'Musculine" Like other northern states."
ও টুনির মা তোমার টুনি কথা শোনে না 🤣🤣 She doesn't like you. That's not a big deal. Nobody has signed a contract that they have to mandatorily like you. If you want to be 'masculine', go right ahead. We all know what that's code for.
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Dude if you’re still chasing her you deserve it!
Bro you deserve better why are you still putting your energy and it go ...you should try to get peace instead of getting these types of chaos
90 % Bengalis( boys+girls) actually need psychiatric treatment ASAP...it will not only save them from a pseudo-superiority complex ( in spite of being slaves for longest duration in Indian history), but it will also save people of other states who unfortunately come into contact with them somehow.
Many Young Women are more attracted towards chaos, the disrespect and those "without consent" ungentlemanly fellows. They'll say philosophical stuff like "women are attracted towards intelligence/we are sapiosexuals" but will select a BF who puts his finger under every word he reads. At the heart of the 370 issue, is a story of a boy. A boy who doesn't know the basics of respecting a woman or dating. Be it 370₹ or 100000₹, women deserve respect. On the other hand, is someone who publicly accepted Necrophilia. Seksual Assault on a dead person. It's SA on a dead body. A more than "unnatural act" Severely needs a psych eval. But the boy didn't kill or chop or grape. Instead he got terminated from work. But A confirmed Necrophile, is set to become a doctor tomorrow! Let that sink in. But the social media focus is on the 370₹. People have lost their marbles.
Some people seriously trying their best to spoil our culture. I saw many people who is from bengal working outside the state, disrespecting our culture as well.
BENGALI GIRLS............ you have worked hard to build the most famous(or notorious) image all over the universe. Don't send me hateful DM as it's off anyways. Mu Hahaha! :D
Im pretty sure this post is a fake post......didn't read the full post though 12 lakhs is pretty less for bengali or any guy when you are 30 and living in Delhi.....instead of writing all this nonsense post, work on switching companies. And if you don't have any game and just want s*x, pay and have s*x. Im Bengali ,32 stayed in pune and calcutta.....Im slightly shorter than 6-1"dark brown complexion and My body count is 27. I took a one year+ gap in career and even then at that time My body count increased by 3.....but first focus on making money but best suggestion is stop being love or s*x hungry....mdo semen retention it goes a long way
She wants it. She is asking for it. If you can give it to her then it's well and good, otherwise mind your own business.
Bengali girls r horniest nd slutiest
It's not about only bengali girls... it's woman nature. In india girls date good looking guys who can afford them and f*ck them vigorously and after that period they wanna marry a nice guy who pampers them like a princess and fulfill her wishes as he gets a goddess of his dream You can't change them u can change urself a little bit but can't go beyond genes Better try another girls or from different state girls ...let those bengali girls to be treated like a wh*re as they want and live peacefully
It's clear she is not interested in you. Keep looking for other.
It's her life, her choice. You should go watch Rocky aur Rani movie. You are behaving like that sheepish child who is sulking in a corner because another child ate the food you wanted! Please grow up and look at your ownself before judging other men and women.
Bro stay away from her. You are too innocent for her.
Are you naive?
Please stop chasing feminists and live peacefully. She will destroy your life like how termites destroy wood from inside. So throw her out of your life which you should have done way before
She does not like you, stop whining, get over it and move on!
Tu ja wapas bengal, us ladki ko bhul ja.
You don't know a shit about Haryana
Your case is simple bro just stay away from her .. she is not your type ignore her completely other wise she will ruined your life
Get a life. Looks like you are stalking her. She said no. Stop obsessing over her.
Bro is upset that girl likes everyone but his ugly ass.
Well..she wants to cuck u…be very afraid
Your bengali woman friend is a red flag who's using those poor dehatis for s£x and would never marry any of them. She is not concerned about those poor men who would not get good matches in future if people get to know they have been used and thrown. Stay clear of the duck girl or you might not get good matches in future .