I am 41M male currently abroad having 2 kids 11 and 3. I have 2 sisters in India. My mother passed away when I was 15 and my father remarried. I don’t share good relationships with step mom. She doesn’t like anything about me. My father loves me but he doesn’t speak anything against his wife. My step - mother had a kid from her previous marriage and she wants all properties from my father in her name somehow. I don’t want to settle abroad as I miss my father and sisters. Living in India comes with all this family tension whereas at abroad I don’t face any of this tension. As kids are growing now, I am not able to decide if I should move back or settle here. If I don’t move in next1-2 years then it will become difficult to move later. I have stable job here and can have a similar good job in India.
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Focus on your career wherever u are ,and be with ur father always whenever he needs u
Don't hamper ur career. People changes with time.
You can shift to India but keep limited contact with the people who create ruckus in your life. Have boundaries. Give limited access to selected people. Stay away from dramas of families. It’s possible to have peaceful life even around extended family, provided you know how to do it.
Sometime you must be practical
Nobody is yours in this world except god. Feel grateful that you have a good life there. Your father does not care about you and cares more about his second wife and her kids. Enjoy your life wherever you are and try go into spirituality. It will help you to overcome the attachments.
Please settle there itself
Why don’t you move to India but stay at some distance to your family. You can meet them when you feel like but they won’t trouble you everyday.
Stay abroad!
Peace of mind is far far important and valuable than piece of land.
CONCENTRATE on ur career. keepnin touch with father. be for him when needed
Enjoy life in abroad
focus on your immediate family (kids and spouse), career. and stay where it's best. no need to feel attached. you can always retire in india, as many do. best wishes.
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Stay abroad and let your dad take a call on property related decisions and it’s his property
Kissa paiso ka hai what is the value of ur dad ka estate and how much ur share wud be???understand and in long term if u can make that much amt of propefor ur kids wud that be enuf calculate as u said u have a stable job india has no guarantee of stability if ur step mom wanna cheat n b greedy then let the karma do their work in time
Stay there. Its good for ur and ur family mental health. Don’t come to india. If u come here, u will regret later.
Don't come to India, you are good where you are, if you miss your father ask him to visit you or you can visit him but don't come back and settle here, you will regret if you come here