F 28 , Bangalore , 10 Lpa Dear my fellow young women under 25 , please stop listening to your feminist friends when it comes to dating and love life. I have done the biggest mistake of my life listening to their words. If you think you have enough options then pull the break asap because you apparently dont. I was a beautiful and vibrant girl before 25 with a large friend circle mostly females. Whichever guy I liked they disapproved saying that I deserved better but they themselves had boyfriends and kept them Inaccessible and away from the groups. There was this very handsome guy who liked me a lot... he literally chased me for 2 long years... Now on the day of new year 2023 he proposed me and I not only rejected him but also mocked him in the worst possible way. My entire friend group cheered when they heard it that I rejected a good handsome guy... I driven by Estrogen , Ego and peer pressure sabotaged every relationship that came in my way till end of 2025. Down to 2026 .. I am alone here in Bangalore and meanwhile I had a huge fight with my parents too when they bought arranged marriage proposals , Now they too have stopped talking to me ...... with my job at a startup... All those female friends I had are now happily married and now avoid me because I am single and kinda miserable . The guy whom I rejected also got selected at an MNC and last time I heard he married a very beautiful foreigner girl and now live happily in Zurich. The realisation causes me Immense pain that the ones I trusted did nothing but sabotaged me with wrong advices. I would do anything to fix my life... Its not like I have Increased my body count... I still am a Virgin ... but being 28 no guy wants to approach me ... What should I do ..???? Any suggestions ???
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Written by a man, it's right that the fridge always tries to interfere out of jealousy.... But most of the women don't accept their mistakes.... So nice try bro 😂😂
Pseudo feminism ruined a lot of good lives. First thing you don't fight with parents, might be something you don't like there though, but just ignore or think instead of fight. You are 28 , it's not too late you will get a lot good guys , in Bangalore as well,and also you will try from your side to approach some one if u like. Hopefully u will get sooner. 🍀✨
This is why never discuss your love life with friends. Most of them will only look to sabotage it.
It feels good to be alone until you're 25, but from 30 onwards, you start to feel like it was a mistake
You are just jealous, the men you rejected won in life and moved on with a beautiful swiss girl. If he lived like a devdas and lost his carrier, you would have pated your back and felt happy you made the right decesion. Anyway you may be the god sent angel to push forward his life. Unknowing you contibuted to someone else sucess.
The part where I learned that the attractive man was hired by a multinational corporation and moved to Zurich with a foreign wife. Howdy! 💥 Wo....!
Pls can u name the startup and is there any vacancy?
No advice... Just a suggestion... Good that you kept your purity... See little one... Life teaches us lessons in the strangest ways... What you've learnt has opened your eyes... So just be happy that you've learnt it... I used to be naive like you when I was your age..10 years back... But then realised the Red Car theory... In this world if you see only evil in people... Evil will always find its way to you... So from experience telling you this... Not everyone in this world is bad or evil... Just don't be gullible or desperate or try searching for Love and Companionship... If it's meant to happen it'll be... No one can stop it... Just focus on making yourself a high value woman.. And you might never know... You might just find someone who takes you and settles in Paris or Switzerland.... So don't listen to Jokers or Feminists or Mysogynists... Cause all they do is objectify people and blame the opposite gender for all of societies problems... Take Care and God bless you always... 🙂👍🏻
Nothing lost.. fortunately you never cheated .. so go for a new one with your new minds. Definitely there is A guy for you.. be sure to accept and adjustwith the one without any anticipation and unnecessary spirit to challenge your ex friends toa how that you are living a great life .
Marry a dude who doesn't have a job and show you learned anything.
It is ok to be single at 28. There are so many single guys looking for a suitable prospect. Once you get married, your responsibilities will increase multifold. You can find many guys expressing interest in you for this post, you may reach one of them. Why cant you be single for ever than getting married? Marry a guy, shorter than you and without job, respect him, treat him equally and allow him to be a house husband. Be a real feminist.
Go for an arranged marriage,date the guy for a few months and ensure to visit his family often.. get friendly with his family and ensure to visit the guy's home unannounced. You will understand eventually if you could bond with the family. When I dated,I became unavailable to my friends..lost too many of them. Now I'm married to my first love with a son with only single body count. I don't regret losing friends.
Lower your expectations according to your standards
It's not too late yet. You have realised it now that peer pressure is a very bad thing and you have already realised that you should appreciate those who love you or Care for you. All these so-called besties will disappear from your Life and your partner and family will only be there in the long run.
Please accept the arranged marriage proposals, stop thinking about what happened, move on. Don't talk to those so-called friends. You are still young, you need a partner to love and care for you. Don't stop talking to your parents, talk to them. Take care
Be approachable. Be available. Maintain yourself. Hope you can find your match. Also this confession is a great lesson for those in the same situation…
Approach the guy you want. It's 2026
Seems like u turned out to be the lucky charm for the guy who proposed to u and eventually got rejected. Please continue the same service, give many guys a bright, prosperous life, merely by showing ur face to them. But, just don't take the risk of looking into ur own reflection in the mirror. Trust me, it's not worth it. Come, let's make the lives better for the people around us, after identifying the purpose of our lives, i.e., to serve others in the most ethical ways possible.
Keep good relationship with your parents. Don't compare your life with friends. God has good groom for you. You will get him soon.
Aurat he aurat ki dushman hti hai. They never want anyone else to be happy .
28 is not old 🙄
Don't worry u will get a better match ,wait for ur turn, be positive,think positive,...
You’re going to be okay. You’re only 28, and there is still so much life ahead of you. Be patient with yourself, take things one step at a time, and try to stay hopeful about what’s coming. Having a boyfriend, getting married, and having kids can be parts of life, but they are not the only things that make life meaningful. Don’t compare yourself with others, and don’t keep thinking about what could have happened if you had done this or that differently. Try to live in the moment. Explore new things, take care of yourself, and trust that life can still surprise you in beautiful ways.
You can still find a good match. Past you can't change...don't blame anyone. This will not help you think rationally. Nowadays people are getting married at the age of 30. So don't worry. If you still want to know the day then go to WWW.STEER-U.COM and ask one free question about your marriage. Hope it helps. Good luck
Just go by the flow... You will get one
Restart, heal and then slowly take charge of your life.
You deserve it
Lesson of life learn after exam ended, result - u r failed, no one is the best, so adjust if u see anyone like u
Looks like written by a guy
When you need to do anything for you then do listen to anyone. Take your discussion yourself
Still trying to figure out how feminism failed you 😐
Oh come on . Grow up . Stop blaming feminism for your naive , gullible nature and lack of decision making capabilities. You were seeking advice and apparently received bad ones and decided to act on them . Its on you. Have you seen the plight of women in countries with no feminism ? Read Afghanistan . If you have received an education, able to work and seek equal opportunities and given a choice to choose a life partner, thank feminism for that. This reply is harsh , sure , but hope this will wake you up . Anyway, all is not lost . You are only 28 . Learn from your mistakes . Before you take any decisions, sit on it . Its ok to discuss your problem and seek advice but remember only you will bear the consequences and not the advisor . My advice, learn to forgive yourselves , change who and how much you can trust . Your problem is not that you are single , your problem is you don’t know what kind of a partner you want and how you yourself will contribute to a healthy relationship. Learn to understand and love yourself first. You seem to have pretty privilege , then know that many will try to woo you for physical attraction . Try to find a person that loves you for your true nature and will stick with you through good and bad times . May I recommend watching the movie “ someone like you “ 2001 . Teaches girls a lot about what a good partner is like .good luck.
Happily and married is a myth and your feminist friends are right. Grass is always greener on the other side. Ps am married. Hence would advise dont get matter unless you want to ruin you life
You are from Bangalore and u r virgin at 28... I would believe the existence of unicorns
Regret won't change the past, but it can shape your future if you let it teach you something. Stop comparing your life with your married friends or with the guy you rejected. At 28, you're really not late. It only feels that way because people around you have settled down, but that's not a universal timeline. These days, many people find the right partner in their late 20s or even 30s. Maybe the universe has been protecting you from connections that were never truly meant for you. Sometimes what feels like a delay is actually protection. Try looking at it from that perspective. From everything you've shared, it seems you've gained a lot of emotional maturity through these experiences. That maturity will help you make much better decisions going forward. Also, the fact that you've stayed true to your values and haven't been physically involved with anyone isn't something to be ashamed of. The right person will value your honesty, sincerity, and the way you've respected your own boundaries. I can relate to your story because my journey has been somewhat similar. Despite genuinely liking someone, I've never really been in a relationship either. Every time I felt a meaningful connection was developing, it somehow faded away often because of external influences and circumstances beyond my control. Experiences like these can be painful, but they also teach us patience, self-worth, and emotional resilience. That's why I understand how powerful peer pressure and social influence can be. At the same time, I've learned that the right relationship isn't just about timing it's also about two people choosing each other despite the noise around them. Don't lose hope. Keep working on yourself, stay open to meeting new people, and trust the timing of your life. Your best chapter may still be ahead of you. I genuinely wish you nothing but peace, happiness, and the kind of love that chooses you without hesitation.
So start initiating at your end . But flush that feminist crap frst no body want to entertain those fabricated & unnecessary thoughts. Apologise to your parents frst before anything. God bless
Nice try,man ....writing from a women's perspective...try directing,next🤣😂🤣 I know this is fake because no woman is a virgin especiall in Blore until late 20s...Maybe you are one No women tells a women to reject a guy ...infact they will add fuel to the fire that the guy himself doesnt know...Poda loosu
“Zurich” is hurting you and pinching very hard .. isn’t it ?? 🤠🤠
Youre only 28. More life lessons to come girly. Hang tight!
You are just 28, you still would have charm, pickup one good guy and don't ever bring naari mukti morcha type bakchodi with decent guys.
There is a crass poem in Bengali but matches with real life: Jokhon amar lichu lichu, sobai amar pichu pichu..... Jokhon amar dab dab, sobar sathe bhabe bhabe..... Jokhn amar jhule gelo.... Kha*ki chele bhule gelo....... Exact your situation didi 😂🤣
No woman will write this lol
Written by a MAN!
Congratulations. Assholes like you deserve this only. Now buy a vibrator and live happily until some middle age ugly so called successful man hold your hands and take vows
Girls always reject the good one 😊
28 is not too old to marry, Hope you find someone soon
In Bengaluru reality hurts when u see all around the peoples. Don't say it to ur colleagues and nearby that u r a virgin.. they will try to do bad things to u.. 😁 cause in Bengaluru this thing is out of syllabus
Just taste own medicine 💊
You can approach to my friend Radhey S. Suthar , he is just 82.
Well you are only feeling this because your circle left you. I do honestly hope you changed for the better and find a decent guy soon. Since you are still a virgin which is very rare these days, don't sleep with anyone random just to prove a point if you don't like them. Join some group activities where you can connect with more people and make better friends, and maybe you will find someone naturally.
That's why I don't have friends
Listen to Ur friends more n let u to be Aishwarya ..who teacher this is rong bla bla ..they all do same
Age is just a number... Work on your appearance.. be fit.... Talk to your parents...... You will get what you need....
OMG if this true, then I am also in this situation
DM for a quick chat and let see where it goes -M, never married
Dm for mental health consulting let's see where it goes
Try serious dating. Stop listening to podcasts. Start listening to music. A real soothing music. Register yourself on matrimony sites. When you match with a guy, don't judge him based on upper layer things but try to see if you can build a life with him. Stop calling yourself as miserable. Give yourself assurance everyday that your partner is right around the corner and you'll meet him soon. Everything will be okay. You got this!
Why you worring.. Durex introduced very good dildos in indian market... You can order online also.. 👍
I am single unmarried..... 39 years old. Living in Kolkata....
Love life is very personal, taking arvise from any one who does not have any skin in the game is foolish.
You seem to be confused between relationship and career; you can chase a career dream, etc., either alone or together in a relationship. However, stop chasing personal relationships as a career.
I suddenly feel so happy for the guy who ended up marrying a beautiful foreigner and is happily living in Zurich. 😅 Sorry, I'm not trying to rub salt in the wound. You're only 28 and still very young. You're also much wiser because of everything you've been through. Don't stay stuck in this misery. Go out, do things you enjoy, meet new people, and be your cheerful self again. Cut those old friends out of your life forever and make new ones. Mend things with your parents. They're the ones who truly love you and will always be there for you. Do all of that, and things will definitely get better. I wish you all the best. ❤️
Reset your body count by pouring water in Bali 😂😂😂
28 is Kid age. Start meeting interesting people and you will find your right match. Remember that Job, earnings and modern society shenanigans are a separate track (useless actually) and there is the real life track which has just Humans & relationships. Never mix these two and you will have success in your personal life as well as professional. Life track has certain deadlines for each decade of our lives and you have to respect those deadlines. Marriage on time and kids on time is looming in your case so fix your deadlines and complete the tasks on time. Sooner the better else the decisions you don't make now will come an bite 20 years down the line. Wanna meet interesting folks? Travel!
Still i would say you deserve better😀
Correct it you got the moral of the story now fix this before 30 or it will be too late
In dating there should only be one rule keep ur life private as much as possible.
You can do one thing. Stop being an a****** and use common sense. In everything, including relationship.
This was posted a few months before
Yes friends and also in-laws can ruin any relationship
Oh no, look look the obvious outcome of my actions.
You can also approach guys you like, oh wait EGO and ENTITLEMENT 🤡
It's not about your age..... It's your reputation.... Or it could be your feminine aura.... 🤐🤐 You asked what you should do..... That depends upon what you wanna achieve.... Do you wanna date, do you just wanna get married..... Do you wanna live an independent life.... What do you wanna do? Tell
Just in case, some marry at 26 and get divorced by 28. You are in your timeline. Just trust the process and keep your DOORS OPEN
life happens. you are still young. don't give up.
You can still find a good guy in arranged marriage setup. Keep good relationship with your parents and they will do the needful.
Can reach me 😂
You don't using ur own brain that's ur fault, Don't blame others for ur own fault
Another fake story written by a child. If you’re Truly 28 and living in Bangalore you would not call yourself old. People in Bangalore are building careers at this age and get married only after. Everyone I know got married much later than 28! And what deadlines are you talking about that apparently expire by 28?
Friendship any marriage group here please suggest me some marriage group I m Looking female friend for marriage or long term any alone female here who wants to be comfortable with benefits secret friendship full privacy dedicated ping me
Your age still less..you can search guys of age 28-34in matrimony who would be well settled..throw female egos..adjust with ur future hubby or lover...all the best...good u understood truth before age 35
Mem if u want boy friend maney people9are there in bangalore .u see best boy friend ,am al so their in bangalore.
This is karma
Fake story. Women never admit their mistakes 😂
Die
This is really sad. People think they have too many options at their feet and they can have luxury of rejecting others.
DM me your number
Karma
They were cheering because they saved that guy from a colossal idiot like you, not the other way around as you imagine In fact that’s what they were doing all along.
Karma
Pseudo feminism is on rise and threat to modern society 🙈🙈
And by the way, Didi, don't keep any female friends anymore. If you come across a good guy nearby, give it a try. Whatever you do, be completely honest about it. 👍🏻
Most good-looking girls tend to make these mistakes. I’ve seen it happen a lot.
Still in 28 and not approached by any guy?? Kind of strange though. Anyways, change the place, say sorry to your parents, and tell them you are ready for marriage now, it's not too late now.
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Why blaming feminism, feminists and estrogen? Op friend circle when in her early 20s were not feminists and their advice were not a product of feminism bc dating is not dis-powering. Humans are social beings and there is no such rule that feminists should isolate themselves from men and dating them. Everybody dates within their boundaries, values and limits with consent. As for the estrogen, estrogen will make a female very receptive towards a male. That powers the whole female reproductive system, attraction 🧲 and all. Just like men are powered by testosterone. If anything, estrogen will make you agreeable to the idea of dating. Her friends were just jealous. Lots are when they are younger. They can't see another Happily dating. And why is she talking as if she is menopausal at 28.
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