M 32 (CTC 20 lpa) I come from a simple lower-middle-class family. My father has been bedridden for many years because of a serious medical condition, and a large part of my life has revolved around balancing family responsibilities with my own dreams and aspirations. In 2020, I fell in love with a girl who worked with me in Pune. We started as colleagues, but over time we became much more than that. Even after both of us left the organization and joined different companies, our relationship continued to grow stronger. For the next three years, we shared a beautiful bond filled with love, care, companionship, and countless memories. We were deeply attached to each other and genuinely believed that we would spend the rest of our lives together. She would often travel long distances just to spend time with me. We supported each other through good times and difficult moments. We were emotionally connected and understood each other in ways that few people ever do. Naturally, marriage became the next step that both of us looked forward to. In 2023, I met her mother to discuss our future. At that time, she seemed to like me as a person and appeared open to the possibility of our marriage. Encouraged by this, I started similar discussions with my own family. However, convincing my parents was extremely difficult. They strongly opposed the relationship in the beginning due to various concerns. Despite their opposition, I did not give up. For nearly one and a half years, I continuously tried to make them understand my feelings and the seriousness of our relationship. Eventually, after a lot of effort and emotional struggle, my family agreed to consider our marriage. Once both families met, things took an unexpected turn. Her mother was not happy with my family's financial condition and was particularly dissatisfied after seeing our home and living circumstances. From that point onward, discussions about marriage started getting delayed repeatedly. There was always some reason to postpone things. My girlfriend continued trying to convince her family, but progress was very slow. As months passed, the uncertainty began affecting our relationship. We started having frequent arguments. The pressure on me was increasing because of my father's deteriorating health and my family's growing concern that I should get married soon. Although we continued meeting almost every weekend, our relationship was no longer the same. The excitement, warmth, and happiness that once defined us slowly faded. We still cared for each other, but the emotional connection was no longer as strong as it had been during the initial years of our relationship. We were exhausted from fighting the same battle over and over again without any clear outcome. Eventually, I reached a point where I felt I could not continue living in uncertainty. Believing that our future together was no longer possible, I decided to move on. Last year, my marriage was arranged with another girl through my family. When I informed my girlfriend about my decision, it was one of the most heartbreaking moments of my life. Both of us broke down emotionally. She cried uncontrollably, and so did I. During that conversation, she told me that her family was finally ready and that if I ended my engagement, she would marry me as soon as possible. At that moment, I allowed my emotions to overpower my judgment. I still loved her deeply, and hearing those words gave me hope. Believing her completely, I decided to break the alliance that had been fixed for my marriage. To make that happen, I even made false allegations against the girl and her family, something that I deeply regret today. After the engagement was broken, I believed that all obstacles between us had finally been removed and that we would soon be together. Unfortunately, within a month, things started changing again. Her family once again became hesitant, and her behavior towards me began to change. The confidence and commitment she had shown earlier slowly disappeared. Today, she tells me that she no longer feels the same way about me and does not want to marry me. This has left me devastated. I sacrificed a secure future because I trusted her words. I took a major decision that affected not only my life but also the lives of others involved. I believed that after all our years together, after all the promises, struggles, sacrifices, and love we shared, she would stand by me when it mattered most. Instead, I now find myself alone, confused, and heartbroken. I do not know whether she truly stopped loving me, whether family pressure changed her mind, or whether she simply lost faith in our future together. What hurts the most is not just losing the relationship but realizing that I made one of the biggest decisions of my life based entirely on trust, only to find that the person I trusted no longer wants the future we once dreamed about. This is all about my situation. Looking for genuine suggestions.
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Never trust crocodile tears
Emotions made her feel she can get back into mariage, never take words n promises made during emotional traumatic times, as truthful or practical She is obviously wanting a better materialistic life, her Parents alone could not have held this view for such long, without her complicity. In the end materialism won. Love was not strong enough to hold on and face everything. Now you better make your own life again, no point looking back only.
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Move on in Life ...some thing or some body better is for your life ...she was not meant for you .
See Here U Have Ignored Red Flags Coz Of That U Got This Situation. Her Words And Her Actions Were Not Aligned. Still U Had Trusted Her.
Love marriage in India is for independent humans. Not for the closed circuit family members.
Rahi ka toh kaam h, Chalta hi jawe.... Move on
You already gave a chance, if that doesn't happen, leave it and move on...
Bhai finally accept this that she had kicked you. . Just for sake of convince ask her very last time, if she is ready to marry you?? If answer is yes or confusing ask her to do court marriage.. And if not then...Just focus on your work and marry a good companion girl who knows ur family and background.. , Shaadi usi se karo jo tumhare saath footpath par bhi zindagi bitaye..
Whatever happens, always happens for the best. Please move on and soon you will find a spouse better than any of these girls. What your girlfriend did was certainly wrong so don't blame yourself. Move on brother, life is much larger than this.
Dont waitvfor this family approval bullshit if yoir bonding is sttong. U could have just taken her to the Registraf office and got your marriage registered and would have done a mandir marriage in presence of ur trusted friends alone.... Reat of the things will settle automatically.
Breaking off your engagement was actually a good thing, because clearly you didn't move on and marrying someone else without moving on is bad for both you and the girl you are going to marry. Always be certain that you have completely moved on and never going back before marrying someone else, otherwise you have no right to ruin someone else's life. However, making false allegations while breaking the marriage was a bad thing, maybe you can apologise to that family now if you have scope, you will probably be humiliated by them in return, but you probably deserve it. About your current relationship, meet her and ask her if she is willing to marry you in the next 6 months WITHOUT her family's approval, because you will never get her family's approval even after marriage, and you have to accept it and stop expecting their approval or respect. If she agrees, then marry her within the next 6 months, if she doesn't agree, then end this relationship completely, if she agrees and then keeps you hanging after 6 months, then end it after 6 months, and make every effort to disconnect with her emotionally, because then you know that she won't marry you, she is just keeping you around till her parents find her a suitable groom. But remember not to marry a someone else before you are completely over with your past relationship.
20lpa and lower middle class? How?
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If she really wanted to be with u by now u both would have had kids. Once moved on, u should have simply got married to the other girl rather than behaving like a monkey from tree to tree. U ruined a beautiful engagement by falsely allegations on that innocent girl, did I read that correctly? If that is true, then What u are facing now by ur girlfriend, u deserve it very well🙌🏻
Learn one thing girls times love but they become bend on their family ..it happens n girls change
Karma bro karma . You can't establish relationship with destroying someone's reputation.
You wanted genuine suggestions so here it is - 1. Looks like your family is at lower level (economical, social, health) than girls. STILL they objected to your marriage. And you ALLOWED them to waste your+her time. 2. You got engaged without informing her BEFOREHAND. 3. You made false allegations against your fiancee+her family, so they will break engagement. YOU are not reliable 🤷
When you told her about your engagement without consulting her or taking her permission, how does she feel? You loved honestly but handled it badly. Nor you neither she are bad by nature, but you are no more a team. You could not convince your family to wait or her family to go ahead. Slowly situation takes over your love, Now you are playing for the situation, in the situation. Move ahead if possible, make a last try to talk to her. If she says no, go ahead in your life. One more biggest crime, that broken engagement, that too with false allegations.. so immature. Never do same in the future. Be a man. Control situation.
Karma is a boomerang. You dropped your plan B to continue your plan A. But you are not in the plan A of the person who was part of your plan A. Even if you get married you will keep thinking about your ex and illtreat your wife. You are not a trustworthy person. You are a toxic personality. You may even black mail your GF if she says no and moves on. You have assasinated the character of a girl just because she was ok to get married to you. If any one loves you or ok to get married to you she is doomed and must have undergo pain and heart break. Delete all the photos, videos and chats of your GF and let her be free. Why are you letting your parents live in poor condition when you earn 20 LPA? Are you selfish too? Why cant you stay single for few more years? Why should you get married now?
Gand marwalo bhai, jiske saath shaadi fix hui thi uspe allegations lagaya, ussi ka karma laga hai tumko.
kisi alone housewife ko dosti kerni ho to msg kero
So in short a looser who couldn't manage his love and family, blamed and abused another girl and lied that she is characterless etc and got karma where his girl rejected him as well lol..
If you made false allegations against that girl instead of manning up an speaking the truth, then you deserve whats coming to you. You were not wrong to break your engagement. That was a matter of the heart. You were wrong in how you did it. That was a matter of character. And yours was low. Really low.
What a clown 🤡 Deserved. Not only becoz u both were coward clowns but what was the need to make false allegations against the girl with whom ur marriage was fixed? Could have simply denied it. Well deserved.