Gender: MaleSubmitted on 24 June 2026 at 11:38 am
Male, 32. Married for 1 year after being in a relationship for 4 years. During our relationship, we were physically affectionate, but my partner was uncomfortable with taking the relationship further before marriage. I respected her wishes and never pressured her. After marriage, we expected things to become easier, but she continued to experience significant fear and anxiety regarding physical intimacy. Over time, I learned that she may have a phobia related to it. We have tried various approaches, including consulting a gynecologist. However, even routine examinations made her very anxious. The doctor suggested lubricants and gradual exercises using dilators, but she has not been very consistent with the recommended practice. This situation has been emotionally stressful for both of us. I care deeply about my wife and want to support her, but I also feel confused, lonely, and unsure how to move forward. I cannot comfortably discuss this with friends or family, so I am seeking advice from people who may have faced something similar. Has anyone dealt with a situation like this? What approaches, therapies, or conversations helped you and your partner work through it?
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Anonymous27 June 2026 at 9:15 pm
Be very gentle and empathetic towards her. She might have some childhood trauma or some other related issue. She needs support from a good psychotherapist. The one who is experienced and has dealt with similar kind of case. Also ignore rubbishy comments like one given by some Yashpal Singh here.
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Anonymous27 June 2026 at 10:12 pm
I can see many people have suggested visiting psychologist also please check if there was any traumatic experience in past with her be open to hear the response and make sure that you won't judge her by it
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Anonymous27 June 2026 at 9:45 pm
Vaginismus is troublesome and women fear much more than they can express, you need to be extremely gentle, make her feel comfortable and probably go for couple therapy. Ask her to talk to her girl friends and take suggestions and lubricants are really helpful.
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Anonymous27 June 2026 at 9:01 pm
Probably she is suffering from vaginismus and anxiety or even phobia from what you have described, best is you and your wife need to meet a psychologist.. a few sessions and it will be resolved.. And its fairly common.. It can be cured too
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Anonymous27 June 2026 at 9:12 pm
Yaha zyada log s¥x overdose wale aate hei... Yeh scarcity wala toh anokha hei iss group mei There are programmes in Mexico, bali, costa rica, Thailand, which are all about couple sexual therapies in group settings (individual couples)...some ppl learn and imbibe quickly when they see other couples around, anxiety may lessen..
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Anonymous27 June 2026 at 10:49 pm
Please try connecting marriage counsellors at CMC Vellore in Tamil Nadu.. Afaik, they do have 21 days therapy for these marital issues..
Anonymous27 June 2026 at 9:04 pm
If you're decent looking, work on yourself, get fit and flirt with other women infront of her. Women don't understand the value of what they have till they face the threat of losing it.
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Anonymous27 June 2026 at 10:06 pm
Marriage without intimacy is nothing but a fraud. Intimacy only thint you can't buy like groceries or like house help services becoz this what both partners agreed for .
Anonymous27 June 2026 at 10:12 pm
Pls contact Dr Taru Jindal
Anonymous27 June 2026 at 10:32 pm
So sad, I pity you.
Anonymous28 June 2026 at 4:56 am
Bro..today time is different ..she may be planning to marry body else ..n u will no it later after this phobia drama ... It cud be lesbo..etc ..find out ..
Anonymous29 June 2026 at 3:05 pm
Friendship any marriage group here please suggest me some marriage group I m Looking female friend for marriage or long term any alone female here who wants to be comfortable with benefits secret friendship full privacy dedicated ping me.
Anonymous27 June 2026 at 11:42 pm
Give her viagra
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