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1. Go to a good trauma informed psychotherapist. Take it seriously. You may need meds to flare down your depression initially. Once you get more energy, work on therapy seriously as painful and long winded it may feel. 2. Exercise regularly. It helps sooo much. 3. Be part of communities where expectations are low and you feel a sense of belonging and passion. 4. Ask for help at home. Say no to things that take a toll emotionally or physically. Practice disappointing people without guilt. 5. Cut Off from sources of your trauma till you get much much better, even if it's your parents. Know that people do heal and get much better over time. It's not linear but you can. I know it may feel meaningless but that's the challenge. Meaning comes back with time

Sister, first of all - you are not alone and you are very brave for writing this. Marriage can be a beautiful companionship but it cannot cure 10 years of depression and parental trauma alone. It's not your fault and it's not your husband's fault either. Please don't isolate yourself completely. Your husband of 7 years genuinely loves you - please talk to him openly about how you feel about your MIL and home pressure. Also please consider speaking to a therapist/counsellor, depression needs professional support, not just a change of place. Your dog loves you, your husband loves you - you have love around you. Running away will give temporary peace but healing needs support. You deserve peace and you deserve help. Please take help.

Marriage can be a source of love and support, but it cannot be expected to “cure” years of depression or childhood trauma. A good husband can stand beside you, but he cannot carry the entire weight of your mental health by himself. What you are describing sounds less like a failure of marriage and more like years of unresolved pain finally becoming impossible to suppress. The pressure of a new marriage and difficult family dynamics may be adding to that burden, but they don't mean that your relationship or your life is beyond repair. Please don't make a permanent decision while you're in the middle of an overwhelming emotional state. If you need space, taking some safe, temporary distance from the situation can be reasonable, but disappearing completely into isolation may not give you the healing you are hoping for. Please tell your husband honestly how badly you are struggling and consider reaching out to a qualified mental health professional. You deserve support that is specifically for you, rather than expecting marriage to be the treatment for everything you've endured. And if “running away” is starting to mean that you might hurt yourself or that you don't feel safe being alone, please stay with someone you trust and seek urgent professional help. You don't have to solve your entire life right now. The immediate goal is simply to get through this difficult period safely. Your husband may not be able to save you, and he shouldn't have to, but you also don't have to save yourself alone.

I will not write long,before taking any décision meet à psychiatrist take medicine for 3 months.i am à patient of depression and did blunders under the spell of depression, since one year I am taking medicine and in much better state of mind.Just one line when you are depressed what you feel most of things are not true.Jai durge

Are you working? Please go to a really good professional psychiatrist. Take al the help you need. Even at your worst time, even with all the dark clouds.. remember life is beautiful. Your life has a purpose. Seek help. And talk to your husband. Toxic parents & inlaws are our generation’s inheritance. Remember even sane normal people like me think like you sometimes. But then human bondages are what they are. How long will you run, how far will you run, where will you hide. You have the love of the man you trust.. thats your biggest blessing & hope for life ahead. Chin up. Nit every day is a dark day. Learn to find a spot of bright sunny light on gloomy day.

Marriage can give you love and support, but it can’t heal years of trauma by itself. ❤️ You’re not weak or ungrateful for feeling exhausted. Please don’t make any major decision while you’re overwhelmed—talk to your husband honestly and consider professional help. Take some space if you need it, but don’t face this darkness completely alone. 🌷

First what happened with parents. How was ur child hood You need inner child healing

Have you tried talking to your husband about it? Plz talk to him, 7 years of relation, seems like he will understand it. Communicate to him properly just like you wrote this post. Don't complicate. He is the only one who can help you.

So what are you waiting for, even the dog will soon get bored if you don't act, only just think. Vanish in thin air, but in a planned, safe & controlled manner, find a Ashram or a relative in some distant mountain State or who is just staying close to a forest or beach, stay alone ie reclusively for a few weeks, see what happens....or find a temple ashrama where stay is allowed , discuss with some ppl friends or just acquaintances, old or new, join FB forums and create new friends only for this purpose, don't get distracted; soon you will know if this is worse than previous lifestyle.... Better to teach or allow your mind a lesson, that running away isn't a solution, it's fighting and living (& loving) well wherever you are, which is the ultimate. Last not least: the years of parental abuse etc, is just in your mind, it's nothing which can't be overcomed, it won't have even happened, had you been filled with positive thoughts or your body cells flooded with alkaline stuff, or unless you had been depressed partially allready. You're now a full blown adult, take your destiny in your own hands, don't be a child blaming the past alone.

Go for counciling immediately it will help you

>> Depression has been my quiet companion since I was seventeen years old. It didn’t appear out of thin air; it was handed to me by my own parents, the very people who were supposed to protect my peace. Instead, they became the root cause of a long, exhausting mental battle that I have fought for nearly my entire life. >> You haven't mentioned what exactly issue with your parents is. Talk to psychotherapist. Heal.

You need therapy. Kindly look for a good psycho therapist.

Get diagnosed, medicated and go for therapy

Sounds like you need a relaxing week long vacation at a peaceful place to recover from your mental fatigue which has been piling up over the years.

You need medical help asap. Please take it seriously.

Healing is possible. As someone who has been through the same struggles, I can confidently say it is possible! Don't give up! I know how it feels personally. Meditation, creative hobbies, exercise and learning to love yourself is key! Don't seek external validation. Slowly learn to be proud of yourself. Be proud of little things. I personally know how hard it can be to make a cup of coffee while battling severe depression. I battled depression for roughly a quarter of a century. Healing is possible! Stop putting pressure and expectation on yourself. Don't let anyone put burdens on your shoulders, not your parents, not your MIL!

Ur english and the way u explained👌simply poetic. And yes i can feel u👌 even v r sailing in the same boat. Bt dont worry either evryone facing troubles in other ways. Its one of that. Jst b positive and move on. By being depressed v r spoiling our own health and nothing else. No one even cares.. If u cry someone there ll enjoy ur story and thts it!

So now the poor man is stuck with a woman who for some reason has mental health issues, How about you clean your head first, It is very much like or maybe worse than having STDs or prolonged illness and not disclosing it to the upcoming life partner. His presence is not supposed to fix things for you. Why did you think this way?

Whichever religion you are from, unless there is restrictions, I suggest you listen to Vishnu Sahasranama everyday. while taking your dog for a walk also you can listen. Try for 2 weeks or so.

Are you currently on treatment? Family/partner support and medications along with your own will and efforts to get better can only change the scenario.

Heyaaaa... hugs to you... first of all i would like to compliment you on your writing style... sorry for writing this totally out of the context thing but while reading, I actually had to move up again to see if I am reading any story or is it actually a confession page... once i was sure, I started reading again and that too from the start.. so coming to your issue.... * I doubt you would find any person in this world who right now is at peace.. so don't find yourself alone..... and dear running away is no solution at all, especially when it means leaving the person you love and who loves you too for someone(your mil) so unimportant in your life.... but yes, taking a break: going on solo trips, watching nature, doing yoga and meditation will help you a lot... * stop overthinking: usne aesa kaha, usne aesa kiya, wo mere baare mein ye sochti hai, wo aesa bolti hai: c'mon girl, face the reality of life... you can't shut others' way of thinking, acting, behaving and speaking... but you can keep yourself mentally strong: apna kaam banta; bhaad mein jaaye janta types.... hope you have heard the saying: let the dogs barked.. but when the dogs come to bite you, defend yourself... be strong * stop living in the past: jo beet gaya, that is not in your hands at all so stop replaying that in your mind and heart but jisne galat kiya , don't forget that person and be careful and cautious around them. Start keeping proofs of wrong they are doing and strike at the right time.... * Your childhood trauma has made you mentally weak and that's y, you are at your saturation point, in this case, a little medical help won't harm... so think about taking professional help... * join some classes: dance, singing or anything you love.. start taking part in activities that you love, follow your hobbies... and give little to less to no time to toxic people... * you are perfect with your words, start writing stories where you can vent out your inner turmoil.... At the end, I would like to say that its actually easier saying than doing, you know your situation the best, you know how much you have tried before writing here... so girl, start by just and just loving your own self, start giving yourself the importance your self needs from you... become selfish... think about yourself first..... ALL THE VERY BEST...