M 25 Hi, I lost my mother in 2024. She was suffering from cancer, but she had no idea about it. She thought she was suffering from jaundice, which is curable. She'ad a lot of belief in me, which she always confessed in front of everyone. I feel guilty because I couldn't do anything, nd I didn't tell her what she was going through. Lately, I've been going through a heartbreaking struggle. Every single night, I'm trapped in the exact same nightmare, nd it leaves me terrified. I dream that my mother is suffering from a terminal illness. In the dream, she looks at me with eyes full of hope, silently trusting me to save hrrr and fix everything. I fight with all my might to change the outcome, but in the end, she slips away. I wake up in the morning sobbing, my pillow soaked with tears that I cannot stop. Even though she's no longer with me in this world, I'm forced to lose hrrr all over again every night. The pain of hrrr absence is heavy enough during the day, but reliving hrrr loss every night is shattering my heart.
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It's your mind bro... Control your brain... If you don't control it and it starts controlling you... Then you're f**ked... Do some yoga and practice breathing techniques... Also do some naam jaap... And consult a psychiatrist if needed. But don't let this control you.... Cause it's only going to snowball... Take care and God bless you 🙂
Dear son, your loss is irreplaceable, and your grief is well understood. But force yourself to come out of it. Remember your mom is watching you, she wants you to be happy and she will hate to see you always in grief. Only you think that your mom doesnt know her illness, but remember it was her body and she was much older than you are. She was just innocent and ignorant, that's all. She will be lot more happy to see you from up, you growing well, nurturing good manners, respecting your culture, your religion and elders. These are the good things that you do as a respect and return gifts to your mother. Wipe off your tears, accept the nature's cruel truth, believe in Hinduism and on what our Dharma says, and live your life. Stay strong my son!
Gareeb log ku khana khilao or pray karo k Apke mom ke aatma ko shanti mile..
Actually you love your mother a lot, so you cannot accept that your mother is no more. Everything is not in our hand, at that time you were unable to read that situation. There is a bengali proverb " জন্ম, মৃত্যু, বিয়ে তিন বিধাতা নিয়ে"
Consult a psychiatrist, they will help you control your thoughts in a better way before your own health gets impacted severely
Losing a parent is an inconsolable grief. The pain you are going through is natural don't add it with guilt. You did best for her treatment whatever was in your capacity, no one can control death. To come from your everyday pain take counselling. Their regular exercises will help you come out of the trouble. Don't pull back your mom's soul, accept that she will always be their in your good and bad times. I can still feel my father on all happy and sad occasions I had lost him at a very young age like you. You may write small small anecdotes , fond memories of your mother that you spent with her. Like when she scolded you, you fought with her, you bought gifts for her etc
Losing a mother at an early age is painful. You have seen her condition deteriorating everyday. Don't feel guilty and anxious. Few things are not in our control. You have done the best of your ability. Our thoughts have immense power. Think that your mother's blessings, her trust are there with you. You are not able to accept the loss and still in Trauma. As a psychologist & Hypnotherapist I can help you release your pain. Take care
Have a daughter soon. You will find your mother in her.
Its already 2 yrs and u have still not come out of the agony. BELIEVE ONE THING....NOT EVERYTHING IS UNDER YOUR CONTROL. Few years back ,I heard krishna kumar's daughter died of cancer. Think a millionaire who has all world luxury ,could not save his daughter. Because whatever it is written that has to happen..... U HAVE TO COME OUT OF THE FACT ,U CAN CONTROL EVERYTHING...u are young....take help from psychatrist or attend SRI SRI ravishankar sessions on ESSENCE OF LIFE. Let me tell you this are not good signs of seeing the dreams from past 2 years...so take expert help who understand life and can guide you well. ALL THE BEST
Please take bereavement support as early as possible. This will help you to deal with the grief. Reach out to the nearest Palliative care centre.
If there is any trauma healer in the group ...pls work on her to release the trauma.
If your single get married if your married plan for kids ...we have to move on in life the pain of losing parents only can go by having new one in our life so just plan things accordingly and make your self busy in your life
Please consult a clinical therapist you are dealing with grief, it's not easy for you but life moves on with it's harsh reality, just try to heal yourself
If u feel everything occurs not bec of us and that it is as per Krishna s wish based on one s karma u ll feel relaxed... Everything is given by God nothing belongs to us..including relationships..What He has given he has taken...Nothing is ur fault.. Leave everything to Him and be relaxed
Get grief therapy...
Buddy ... Every human comes with limitation... Pls take up councelling and move on
Brother, you need to accept first that she is no more. Help few poor mothers and you will feel better. God bless
It takes time to heal and you will definitely heal
Be brave to accept truth of life. Find good social connections who can mentally support you. It will heal
You are guilt stuck that's why this is happening..do social service when you see happiness in others face your problem will start to reduce..take care
I lost my father at 12 grade, im 28 now still it hurt me every time i think about him. But in that time i was like u crying most of the time and do some shitty distractions. Now im good i made one promise to myself, this life is given by my parents so the only thing they want from me is my happiness. So i did get up and do some self evolving works. Like whenever i feel pain i just started to do push ups and brain yoga, drawing and sit with myself and think about my future where i want to be in it. So every single thing is happen for a reason. So brother don't worry about anything. Ur mom is always with u.U decide she want to see ur successful and peaceful life, so work for it. I pray for you too. Lets start the new journey.
Going through same kind of guilt, couldn't save my father. He hoped that I will do anything to save him but I failed him.
Sorry bro to hear that you need to undergo counselling and forgive yourself. You are under guilt .
This bought tears in my eyes
I feel sorry for you… I really don’t know how can I help you. Plz help
calm ur mind & divert things
Goto Psychiatrist
Apne ko us kabil banao jis dard se tumhare maa gujri hai us dard se jo gujar raha hai unki help kro jitni bhi ho ske as per your convenience tab tum shyad chain se so pao jindagi jee pao
Visit a Counselr
this is so true i lost my father 1 years ago i cant sleep i listen his voice and my head start to spine whenever i tried to sleep and wakeup with very bad nightmare