Hello I am a 27 year old woman. Last year my marriage was arranged by my parents with a 34 year old man. He had a government job , lives in the same city as I do, so everything was fine .I agreed for the marriage. On 3 rd Feb 2026 we got married and on 5 th Feb was our reception. On that day both of us were very tired so we slept. In marriage it's common to have physical relation but in our case we are not having it. 1 week passed 1 month passed but no physical relation. Earlier I thought that he was tired so not able to do, but later I came to know that he has some problem due to which not able to do S*X. When I came to know I cried a lot but there was no one whom I can tell . After two months I told my mother. Which my mother in law and my husband came to know and they scolded me a lot ,that I should not have told my parents. After two months he went to doctor.He is taking medicines but still no improvement.its been 4 months. I am really very stressed and depressed.i don't know what to do please tell me what should I do should I live with my husband without being physical or should I leave him and go to my parents home?
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Apart from some useless advices here, its ethically wrong on his side to have hidden this fact before marriage. He would have definitely known that he had this problem and should have taken treatment long back. Not at the expense of your life. You can seriously have a direct conversation with his treating doctor and understand the seriousness. If its going to take a long time, i would suggest mutual separation . Or if you have a magnanimous heart, you can wait
It was absolutely wrong of him to hide that fact before marriage. Ask yourself: Aside from this issue, how is your relationship with him? Intimacy is a very important part of life. Can you live without it? Seek a second or third medical opinion to see if there’s room for improvement. Then decide what to do.
Chhodo aage badho.. this road has no pleasant end, you can just delay the misery moreover you won't just be delaying but deepening it. So just get the rid of him. No need to be sympathetic towards him because his being impotent was a news to you, not to him which also means he deliberately hid this fact. That man deserves it
He and his family had hidden this problem from your family. So this is a clear case of cheating. If the problem can be medically cured - try that. If not - divorce with mutual consent is only option.
That's why test drives are more important than the hymen layer 😀
Give a ...low.job.. you may know he is potent or not... if not divorce.
You decide what's more important for you having sex or love of your life
If you don't feel love for him, what is the point of staying together? Physical intimacy is essential in a marriage, and it will become difficult to leave this relationship later on.
Give it some time...try to consult with some specialists...
Hugs to u luv...No point crying over spilt milk.Have a heart to heart conversation. Do not pose as hurtful or have demeaning comments.Whether he admits or not he must be feeling awful in his own skin.Let u not make him feel worse. Physical intimacy is as important to a woman.Its just human.Dont deny urself sensous contentment. U deserve to be made luv to by ur partner.If he is incurable do not wait.Go ahead n seek breath taking romance..🫰🫰
Why did you cry? Is sex so important to you in life? Sex isn't everything in life. If he's a good man and loves you otherwise then ignore this one small issue.
Madam u should consult u r parents and elders and mutually take decision as soon as possible, and best part is take a divorce and remarry
छोड़ देना विकल्प नहीं होता है , प्रॉपर चेकअप करवाकर अच्छा ईलाज व अच्छे डाइट से इंप्रूवमेंट हो सकते हैं । बस किसी फर्जी नीम हकीम बाबा के चक्कर में n पड़कर अच्छे डॉक्टर से सलाह मशविरा करें । समस्या तब होती जब पार्टनर की सेक्सुअल चॉइस अलग हो ,उस स्थिति में असामान्य पार्टनर के साथ रहना उचित नहीं था लेकिन यहां समस्या दूसरी है जिसका इलाज उपलब्ध है ।शादी दो लोगों के बीच सहयोग का नाम है कमियां हैं तो आप दोनों को मिलकर दूर करना होगा । बाकी प्रैक्टिकली अगर आप अलग होती हैं तो समाज द्वारा एक दाग लग ही जाएगा , ऐसे में आपको ज्यादा स्ट्रगल करना पड़ सकता है । क्योंकि ज्यादातर दूसरे विवाह वाले रिश्ते पहले रिश्ते की अपेक्षा ज्यादा कटु होते हैं ।
Depends what are your expectations. If intimacy matters to you as a women in marriage , then I guess it will only frustrate you because intimacy is lacking. If you are ok living with him in s** less marriage then carry on as couples . Yes there are medicines 💊 to improve testosterone hormones for men . Any hormonal improvement takes time to give effect in body 3 to 5 months , depends on person to person. Even after taking medicines If it doesn't improve it means it's karmic thing. There might be issue some illness like diabetes which also affects s** life . So need to check whether it's hormonal issue or illness issue . Even after a year it s the same . It simply means yes it can't get better . In such a case it's your call what to do , apply for divorce on the grounds of s** less marriage or stay it's your decision. It was not right on his part to marry if he was knowing there was a problem with him regarding s*** Sorry to hear about your condition. If u can't stay without intimacy better to depart. So you decide. Try to go on trips together sometimes it might be tension . Try evrry thing to see if he is able to give you intimacy happiness for a year. If he gets morning wood then everything ok . It's just some other thing . If morning wood also doesn't happen once or many times in one entire week then there is some issue . Penile erections are primarily controlled by the nervous system (nerves in the brain and spine) and blood flow. The pituitary gland does not directly trigger erections, but it acts as a "master regulator" that controls the hormones (like testosterone) needed to maintain normal sexual desire, arousal, and tissue function Try alternate nostril breathing to nourish brain cells and glands.
either you leave him ...or seek proper medical intervention....but in proper knowledge of your parents...do not hide anything....
But Ladkia toh jism se nahi rooh se mohabbat karti hain na 🌚
Simply you have to take the decision. Make a decision & make it happen no matter what cost. Keep your parents in loop as they are your cushion to fall back. The less said to in-laws it is better
This needs patience, impotence has cures but again, I am not a doctor, only the doctor can diagnose and prescribe appropriate medication. Your sadness and frustration are understandable, take a step back and think about the situation, let your emotions out and then be clear how you want to move ahead. He did not tell you about this condition of his and this is hiding such an important fact from his to be wife and you should at some point talk this out, that you're hurt that he hid such a major issues from you, and then make it clear that no secrets should be there and of course, continue treatment and both need to support each other.
You can leave,it should have discussed. Also see what doctor tells
You do not have to make a permanent decision tonight. If the environment at your husband's house is making you deeply depressed, go to your parents' house for a short while to rest and heal. Once you are in a safe, loving environment, you can look at the situation clearly and decide if his medical progress and emotional treatment of you warrant returning, or if it is time to move forward with your life. You deserve happiness, intimacy, and respect.
Be patience and do support him for treatment.. every thing has curable now a days don't go for divorce early.. divorce is last option if you love him then support him aa well if he ready to take all the steps he need to solve if he is not ready then go for divorce..
Consult a good doctor and go for marriage counseling. Everything will be fine.
Well if u care for him then Give him time medicine will make things better.there’s a thing called p*nnis pump u can use that to help him get it up . it was wrong of him to not share that before marriage nd all this could’ve dealt with if he took medical help earlier.Now its about how much u care for him or how attached ur with him . If its serious kind of attachment then give him time he will get better . Further more dont soley rely on medicine try ayurvedic remedies as well I know people people who saw good results even better then in their prime so There are many options its not end of the world However its Up to u how much u care or attached to
he shud have told u this before marriage...u r young enough for what u want and this is kind of a cheating too...u both go to doctor and get a clear picture from doctor if it is curable or not that too within months not after years...if u can wait then fine else u discuss with ur parents and decide what to do
sorry to say nothing gonna happens
Rooh wala pyar mila hai apko aur kya chahiye.. sex wala pyar to ladkiyo ko pasnd hi nhi hai aaj kal🤣🤣🤣🤣
Please please please take a picture of his doctors prescription and collect as much evidence because at the end they are not going to divorce you and you will be stuck forever.. trust me it will work for you in future .. if whatever you are saying is the truth and if you are just making up stories to part ways don’t cuz karma doesn’t spare anyone….!!!!
sorry to hear this, at least you are a loyal to him hats off to you. and here many brainless fellows made useless comments when a woman try to seek a guidance this is what their culture and this is what their parents taught them since childhood shame on u guys this could have happened in anyone'sife even your own sister or friends or relatives if you people are matured enough to give an advice then you can but making a non sense here doesn't make any sense madam you have two options either to live with him or take a divorce and lead your life happily as far i as know every woman wants to become a mother one fine day so if there will be no chance for that even after proper medication then choose your path wisely by seperating from him my best advice is don't bend to anyone until you decide about your future because once you bend to anyone it may ruin your entire life this society is fully filled with many Bastards so control your emotions till you get a right path
If u can discuss the problem to an homeo or ayurvedic nadi vaidya..he wil turn normal...find some nadi vaidya.. or else dm me wil help u with a one
After divorce wil you get husband?
If he had this problem before marriage and he didn't tell you then that's betrayal....talk to doctor if his problem is treatable, talk to him and understand if you could mentally adjust with him, if he is a good husband in other aspects of life then decide..if possible for you then give few more months, if it mentally burdens you separate.... Intimacy is a big part of married life.. Most men leave wife or go for extra marital affairs when they dont get intimacy at home..
Treatment lo sabar rakho...sab achha hoga
You should divorce him at this stage of marriage. Life will be difficult, not happy type. You will feel something missing always.
Do not think about the past , try to make him healthy , I can give some advise DM me
Maybe he is not attracted to u Or u are not seducing him properly. Try revealing dresses and roleplay, give him good head then he will surely aroused, without foreplay very difficult to get hard for a 34 year old man.
Wait for a medication course to complete for six months to complete if there is no result then ask him for divorce and alimony because if got treated then u will be the looser
अगर यही दिक्कत तुम्हरे साथ होती और तुम्हरा हसबैंड यही सोचता तो तुम क्या करती जवाब खुद मे ढूंढो
It's a ground for divorce. Definitely you hv faced injustice. 3mths is enough to wait or know if he can get normalcy , no point waiting more; unless living a sadhvi life is fine with you After 3-4 mths , opt for divorce & alimony, obtain a lump sum, go for second marriage using tht money, not causing strain on yr family. The new husband won't mind, as via court papers also it will show a unconsummated marriage
U can try or have someone frnd for that things But for natural sex I have some natural diet things which I have try in my life it's work for me
Just post the same thing as a man.. then u will see results soon women...
Govt job ka side effect
But But women doesn’t care about Se*... But but Men are full of lusts 🥴
सरकारी नहीं सरकार बदलनी होगी।।
Ping me I can suggest further
Govt job, they never look they need only government job that's all your parents, your parents told adjust adjust it because he got government job life security so don't expect anything else. Just adjust it.😆😆😆😆😆😆
Chill kro
Well, I think, it's your and your family issues and you all have to solve, but if you are deciding for the separation then take all the proof of his impotency, while saying this, I am not saying that, you disclose this things before this world or humiliate him but this will helps you in future that why you leave him.
Divorce him marry another guy
Parents ke ghar jakr life time rhna good decision nii hai . Better hai divorce lekr second marriage kr lijie ya fir child adopt kr lijie.
Madam use his mouth till he gets better it takes time to heal
Next time test drive the car before buying. This Is not about cars
Come to me.. I'll satisfy you..
Married for government job ,you should face this
Truely a big problem, if you leave or stay ultimately you would be blamed. Speak to the doctor along with him and then ask whether it can be cured or not.
You didn't say which city you are from. File a case in court for making marriage as annulled and void immediately. If he troubles make complaint in police station and get your things and also money. Ping in case of any doubts.
Sooo sad story🥹
Why u married 34 year guy
Girls, be aware of government job uncles. 😛
Based on you mental maturity, it seems like child marriage which is successfully done by brokers(parents). Grow as woman or get help from brokers.
Then what you want
Es k elwa AP k husband main or koi boraiy hai? Agar nhi to es ka ilaz mumkin Hai. AP chahiyn to main AP ki help bhi kar Sakta hn no issue you can contact
If it is functional it cam be treated..Talk to his doctor and find wat actually is the problem.. Yhen decide
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Testosterone deficiency...male harmone But did he even touch you.. undress you and himself . Sleep on the same bed.. ?
It is curable 100%
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Her husband should take Manforce Staylong tablet, all things would be sorted out
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Why is this group turning more into Matrimonial Confessions than Corporate? Where have all the Bad Bosses and PoSH matters gone? Anyway, as for you confessor - The marriage has not yet been consumated. Move out Asap. File for Annulment (not divorce) protects you from 'Divorcee' tag and if they create nuisance, let them know that you will file a case of Cheating and Fraud. Make sure they return the streedhan, marriage expenses, if all done by u, try & recover. If 50-50 and not much then let it be. After Annulment (Not before) u can warn them to get their son treated first and not to dare commit such marital fraud again.
Sleep with someone else
It's a ground for divorce
IVF
Don't visit for Dr it's waste for time @ money Only thing is do good food @ some diet I will share u best diet plan for 10 k It will take 1 to 2 month or 3 month to get natural sex drive depend on body but it will work
This is common from a man who lives by tax payers money in our country. Divorce him and grab money and assets as much as possible from him.
quit.
Exit the marriage
He hid such a serious problem is not acceptable .Let's just assume you had hid something , would he and ur in laws forgive you??? I would say file for divorce coz in future when and if you are not able to bear a child due to his medical condition he and ur Mil will blame u and spread rumours that u r infertile . Best to walk out
What he did to you is injustice and cheating. He has no right to spoil a woman's natural expectation and her life. He is very aware already, he has spoiled your life. There is nothing to feel ashamed of. Divorce him. And get a new life you deserve with your parents support. If they are expecting you to adjust and live, throw their thoughts away and approach a female lawyer and seek support.
File a complaint against him
He was not fit for marriage and now they are blaming you Discuss with your family and don't prolong this trauma
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U r wasting time he cheated u leave him move on
WRONG WRONG WRONG
Is it possible for a human being to survive without eating, drinking or sleeping? Never because these are basic needs. Similarly, it is impossible to maintain a relationship without it.
Complaint against him, collect the evidence of doctor visit , u have age pls move on
Divorce
He and his family has cheated willing fully. No point in this relationship. Sex is the base of marriage. Leave it.
Divorce. Hiding this important thing is fraud and it is a right for divorce
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Tell him to visit a psychiatrist
இதே நமக்கு இப்படி ஒரு குறை இருந்து, உடல் உறவில் விருப்பம் இல்லாமல், சில குறை இருந்து நம்மை கணவர் உடல் உறவு நாட்டம் இல்லாத காரணத்தை சொல்லி விவாகரத்து கேட்டால், என்ன செய்து இருப்பீர்கள். ஒருவர் மீது ஒருவருக்கு ஆசை இருப்பின் எல்லாம் நலமாக நடக்கவும். விருப்பம், ஈர்ப்பு இல்லையேல் வாய்ப்பு இல்லை.
Don't listen to any shitty doctor advice.Your husband has wasted a lot of semen in his youth so as final result the body systems have started fracturing.Reproductives nerves have been affected due to extreme vata What has to be done is simple the semen energy has to be conserved for 9 months which is 4 to 5 mandalams (1mandalam is 40 days).Make sure your husband doesn't even have a voluntary Erection during this time.A voluntary Erection even few secods during time will reset the 40 day clock and life force production will start from first.Voluantary Erection will move life force down and will cause emission as nightfall.So very strict bramacharya is needed the life energy will fill up and finally once it's full it will start healing all issues in body including penis nerve and tissue issues.He has to sleep by 9 wake up at 5 as night is pitta cycle and too much heat will interfere.Eat only satvic food as tamasic,rajastic food will trigger sexual urges.In nine months max he should be fully ready.When he starts bramacharya you have to walk out of his life fully for 9 months no phone calls,no talks your presence will trigger Erection and reset the cycle.So you have to wait.Dont go to allopathy and destroy your money.Nothing has worked,nothing will.Permanent cure is something you have to take from world's tradional medicine system for free.This is the ony way out there is no other way.
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Divorce him
Government job wale ladke ka aur lalach karo..tum logo ke sath Esa hi hona chahiye..tum logo ko bas paisa important hai aur kuch nhin
Hey ..most govt employee hav this disease. Bcos like their job they need bribe even for libido.. Give him under table money and ask to fck you.. He will get cured
Better divorce and re married with someone else