Hi, Not sure how to take this forward please guide me. Female married with one kid in early 30’s we are living abroad everything going well till some point but my husband is very much attached to his family when living in abroad it’s common to feel guilty and more attached so I didn’t take it as big issue but my daughter birth even where do I stay at the time of birth everything he did according to his parents wish I didn’t took it seriously as I was very much into him. Slowly long hour calls with them on all weekends detachment started from us and whenever I go India I was allowed a limited days to meet my family though my mom is completely depending on us. I started my career back with so much of excitement but 0 support from him most of his focus to get his parents here and go world tour with them we covered many places only when they are present I feel detached in this relationship which I cannot make him understand now he started noticing the detachment and start doubting on me checking me often restricting even the modest dresses I’m not interested in anyone and slowly start hating this relationship as well. One time he created huge issue and asked divorce but I refused by keeping in mind about my kid from that day onwards he became more dominant he thinks he can keep threatening me like this. I’m trying to save money on this job so that I can handle if I go back as I don’t have father and no financial support from family, dono it’s worth a reason to stay away all I need is genuine effort to rebuild instead he s making me like a slave each and everyday I stopped fighting I stopped raising voices I’m taking care of his family even in abroad but lost myself in this journey I’m not same anymore what are my options
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Only two options 1. Make him understand your problems and get back to normal marital relationship 2. If option 1 doesn’t work.. you know the obvious Just fyi.. marriages are hard so are divorces.. make a wise decision
Why you hv to feel you are insignificant..... Improve your personality , make friends, develop more hobbies and be a little more outgoing and jolly and versatile, all wil be much better, his parents wil like you more, which will pull your husband too in your grips more and more....
Why are you feeling that you are lost? You are the reason to make him a father.. without you he is incomplete...family means you both with kids... don't feel depressed. Some situations make us feel like this... don't get depressed...they will give importance until we don't speak, once we speak they show more importance to their parents...take care of your kid, be happy, you should forget everything when you see the smile of your baby...take videos of your baby...change your mind..be positive..let him talk..you also talk..tell some work of baby to him..
Girl U need to talk to ur husband n discuss whatever is going on in ur mind Tell him clearly what u expect from him n if he threatening u about divorce then stay separate for few days if u think tht wud work
Madam sadi ke bad ladki ke asli Mata pita ladke ke ma bap hote hai ye aap samaz lijiye ..agar wo apki mom ki parwah nhi karhe to he cannot be said rong U hv to think how can u manage from anywhere ..u can hire a maid for ur mother n provide financial assistance from anywhere If u think u can go n take care Ur mom to sadi kyu ki gharjamai se karti
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Make sure you threaten him as well. He can't get away with such unacceptable behavior. Laws in India are for women. Don't forget alimony. You need to secure your child's future. He's definitely not a good human being or a good father. And a terrible husband for sure. If he loves his family so much why did he spoil your life? Both must live away from their respective families and focus on family life with your child.
Very very pathetic situation. I am surprised even today people like your husband and his family treats you very badly. Why did he marry you with all his nonsense of too much attachment with his family. Wait for sometime and if he does not change his attitude go for a final decision. Women have more courage to tackle the worst situation
Get divorce, you are not made for marriage