I am in a relationship with a girl for more than 5 years now, and we were a well-known college sweethearts. I was a year senior to her, and I got placed in a reputed company and had to migrate there. We still managed to do long distance and used to visit her sometimes while she was completing her final year. Even during long distance everything went well. There were ups and downs during the relationship but somehow we managed to steady the ship. That's when after many tries she was left unplaced and had to drop a year. She stayed at her home, toiled hard and cracked into a reputed IIT where she got into a barely decent branch as well to pursue her master's. I continued with my job and had steady lifestyle owing to good salary, expense management, and financial background. I even used to support her financially to support her studies. I was the primary motivator and guide that helped crack the IITs for her master's. Everything went haywire after she joined the IIT. She changed, she changed very fast. She was no longer the sweet lovely girl I fell for. She changed. We started having disagreements. She didn't like the way I moved, dressed, and even looked. She kept asking me to change. I tried my best to change and asked her for more time and support which she mocked. During this time, she cheated thrice, one where she was semi-n*de on video call, two where she continued friendship with a friend who tried to have an affair with her. I forgave her for both these incidents. The third one is where I was broken. She had an affair with a fellow student for nearly an year. They kissed, hugged, did foreplay, and almost everything. They got intimate once, and she got pr**nant and she ab*r*ed the baby. The guy relocated after job and she continued her master's. Mind you, we were still in the relationship, so she was two-timing us. He knew about me while I had my doubts and kept asking for confession. She finally confessed after he left her. The reason she confessed really baffles me. The guilt in her may have done it, but I have been a loyal guy throughout even though I was asked by my female friends. In return, I got was a cheating partner. I am in a dilemma. She says she always wanted me but was physically unsatisfied and he was probably I am assuming a good looking guy according to her and she felt that it was right for her to cheat and satisfy her needs. Now, she wants me to continue in the relationship. I genuinely love her but isn't it unacceptable if someone cheats for such a long period and only comes back because they left. I am in a deep agony and pain. After 5+ years of loyalty, all I get is a cheating partner, that's it. If don't know what to do. I hope Mahadev shows me the right path ahead.
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Bro, you know the answer, we know the answer ! Plz process don’t get stuck !
If you sit in wrong train, better leave early otherwise it will become more far from your destinantion .... There are 8 bl people in this planet you will find someone like you !!
Leave her simple 😂 .. what to do matlab kya 😂.. if cheated on you then end the relationship simple .. you go your way and she will find some body other
Leave her now for never ending future regrets… you already know the answer
I wonder how come an IITian getting so much time to cheat 🙂 jokes apart Bro never lick the spit once you thrown it out! Relax and kick her out! If you kick her out keeping everything aside mahadev will help you to reduce your pain✊
Bro, it is not complicated. What to do means what ?? She cheated, double dated, got physical, pregnant, ab-rted and many more.. there should not be second thought. LEAVE AND MOVE FORWARD.
Bro, leave her at any cost don’t take her back or if you need to partner go for arranged marriage
What you are now experiencing is known as ‘Sunk Cost effect’ - you have invested so much emotions, time & finances. However, she is no good for you.
Macha, a small story. A guy was a pure vegetarian all his life. One day, he accidentally tasted chicken—and he loved it. But because of his family's values, he had to hide it, even though he wanted to eat it again. Moral: Once you've tasted something you truly love, it's hard to forget it. And no... this story isn't about chicken. 🤣🥲🤡 .
Five years of love and support matter, but repeated cheating, a year-long affair, deception, and returning only after being left are serious trust breaks. Love alone cannot sustain a relationship without respect and honesty. Don’t decide from pain alone. Take time, prioritize self-respect, and ask whether trust can realistically be rebuilt.
There is no going back on a cheating partner irrespective of gender period.
There are many Mahadevs in comment section showing you right path.... I see some Mahadevis also.. All have same thought...
Save your self respect, leave, rebuild and be happy.
If you can't change her, change her.
You were consciously deceived, not accidentally hurt. This was not a one time mistake or a moment of weakness. It was a series of deliberate choices made over a long period. Every lie, every hidden meeting, and every day of living a double life was a decision. Trust is the foundation of any relationship, and once it is broken to this extent, love alone is rarely enough to rebuild it. For the sake of your self respect and peace of mind, walking away is the healthier choice.
Leave her at any cost ..love needs loyalty . And she is not loyal ..she will do it again
End emotional attachment, just do the same what she is doing, don't marry her
Bhai “Kutte ki dum kabhi sidhi nehi hoti”.. Baki I think so aap enough samajhdar ho..
Jus leave her, it will take some time to forget & dfntly pain vl be there bcz it’s your 5 yrs precious feelings & time but you have to manage, start your new life u vl get good girl who match’s u.
Find a right woman and move ahead and for her, if she cheats you once twice and then again thrice she wont think twice before cheating you again
You may forgive her one day, but you will probably never be able to trust her completely again. Looking at everything that has happened since she got into IIT, the chances of genuine change seem slim. Please choose yourself this time. Saying this with personal experience, life will become hell. Don’t torture yourself. Bahut ladkiya mil jaengi who will give you the love and trust that you deserve.
Have some self respect and move on.
You know the answer. You are looking for comments to validate your decision. Mind you, accepting her back now is more or less like accepting her cheating character as well. Brace yourself to go through several of such experiences in future.
If you want her back then do marry or forget her completely. Don't regret later.
Run Asap ! Be kind to yourself. 'YOU' are the first and most important person in your life. Not anyone else!
You are not in a dilemma about whether she cheated, that part is already clear. The real dilemma is whether you can genuinely rebuild trust after what happened. This was not a one time mistake made in a moment of weakness. There were multiple instances of betrayal over a long period, emotional involvement with others, hiding things from you, a year long affair, and only confessing after the other person left. That pattern matters because it speaks to repeated choices rather than a single lapse in judgment. Her explanation is also concerning. Saying she cheated because she was "physically unsatisfied" is not taking full responsibility for her actions. In a committed relationship, dissatisfaction should lead to honest conversations, counseling, or even a breakup, not deception and a parallel relationship. You seem to be focusing on the 5+ years you invested in her, the support you gave her emotionally, financially, and academically. While those years were real, they should not become a reason to accept behavior that deeply violates your boundaries. Past investment cannot guarantee a healthy future. Before deciding whether to stay, ask yourself a simple question, if this story had happened to your brother or best friend, would you advise him to marry this person? Your answer will probably reveal what you already know. Love alone is not enough for a successful relationship. Trust, respect, honesty, and accountability matter just as much. Right now, trust appears completely broken, and rebuilding it would require extraordinary effort, transparency, and genuine remorse from her, not just fear of losing you after the other relationship ended. Take your time. Don't make a decision out of loneliness, guilt, or nostalgia. Make it based on whether you believe you can truly trust her again and whether her actions going forward give you a reason to do so. Without trust, even the strongest love eventually turns into pain and resentment.
Don't think emotionally. It is hard to make the right decision. Initially it will be painful for you. Move on...if you need any emotional healing and support plz feel free to read free therapy tips based on your symptoms you want to address. https://www.steer-u.com/psychological-counselling/free-therapy
Once a cheater,always a cheater .. no amount of justification and othe goody words will change that. Practically after marriage We want a loyal person who stays with us through thick and think ,in sickness and health. Love and all looks good for sometime but when life's practicality hits us hard .. its the loyal partner who will always be our side. And there is a quote in hindi.. " agar koi pyar kare to hum jaise hain waise pyar kare.. koi hame badalke pyar kare to vo pyar nai sauda hai saheba and pyar me sauda nai hota".. she asking you to change and look good to the guy who helped her in education and financially also is the biggest red flag.. so please make a wise decision and say good bye ,Tata 👋 may Mahadev show you the right path.. Om namaha shivay 🙏
Take a break.. Think calmly.. Then decide... Actually we all know the answer you too will know that..
How could you continue your relationship even though she kept on cheating, and even got pregnant? A relationship works both ways, not just one. I feel sorry for you, as you sound like a good person and committed throughout; however, I'm afraid you've fallen for the wrong person. She couldn't have cheated on you if she really loved you. Now that she hasn't got any other options and she knows very well you've a soft corner for her. Hence, she's trying to abuse you again. Please don't fall in this trap. There's a big difference between love and lust! If real love is there, it stays forever; it doesn't fade with time!
Once a cheater is always a cheater
Even if you kill yourself please don’t go after the girl . Just because you love her that doesn’t mean she loves you back . A person in love can never do what she did - getting pregnant with another guy !! She is not a tree to pollinate . She knew all along . You deserve someone better 1000% . Pray to come out of these . Please take a print out and read this when you are confused . Please don’t screw your life with a cheat
If she has cheated once, thr is always a possibility that it could happen again. The answer seems quite clear n choosing to walk away is ultimately a decision only you can make, no one else can do it for you except your own strength and determination. Do not invest more years in a relationship when deep down you know that it will eventually end or cause you more pain in the future…
She uses you and you love her She's loyal to her physical hawas not to your sacrifices.
Jhan trust na ho udhr relation bnakr kya fayda bro,,better to leave her immediately,,you will leave in peace,,lakidya bhut jldi manipulate ho jati hai
You are with a snake. Stay away. Get a different partner
Bhai kyu suicide karne pe tula hai
As a girl, I would suggest MOVE ON, RUN AND NEVER TURN BACK. You are her backup option. Never ever even think about talking to her, let alone continuing the relationship. Good luck!
It's better the close the five years and not make it 10.or more
What a loser.
Bro you are worrying about wasting the last 5 years investing in a relationship for nothing. But if you stay then you will lose all your future. Bite the bullet and block her from your life before she finds someone better than you and does the same. It may hurt you but soon you will recover
Mahadev already showed you the path but you're denying to see it. End whatever left with her immediately collecting proofs that she cheated on you and you caught her else she may file a fake rape on pretext of marriage case on you
Bhag milkha bhaag
You know what is right and wrong, who is wrong here too, then why are you calling God, he has already showed you what kind of person she is, pl move on
Only one word for you brother -- RUN
Go! Run She is not fit for you !
Ab to bhag milkha
Leave... She belongs to the street
Lol, just say you are going to walk away and start a business, she will run.
Don't let the same snake bite you twice , Flush off her from your life and end this relationship without a second thought.
Run for your life
Bhaag dkbose jitni speed mein bhaag sakta hai bhaag 😁😁
Bro kuch farak nahin pardta. Think about, if you did not know what happened when you were not there. I think you should try to find if she is now in love with you or just out of desperation. Then you will get correct answer from Mahadev.
You just didn't want to accept the truth. That's it my friend , you will eventually
I came back again searching your post. I cannot forget what had happened to you and it makes me sad that even now after all this, u dunno what to do... Bro you are a successful guy.Marry someone who values you,respects you.she doesnt deserve any more chance.Initially it gonna feel tought but you will get better with time..Time will heal everything..you might be thinking that she changed .lemme tell u she wont give a second thought .will cheat on u again if the other guy returns back in her life..Move on, you will find someone with whom you can be at peace and happy and even you dont than it is not the end.but that doesnt mean you should go back or hold on toxic relationship..
Cheating is choice not a mistake! Run she will cheat again
1. Love is weakness 2.leave her completely 3.thus,u will Save yourself from further heart ache
C----a banaaya...
Just leave her bro. U deserve better. As u said lord shiva will show u the right one on the right time.
She will cheat again, please move on, rebuild ur life..
Someone that dares cheat repeatedly is not to be with. You will find your type outside. Leave her, do not fall for her sweet words.
Trust her one more time and let her cheat for one last time,you come and write one more confession..we all Waiting 🍿
Kabir singh part 1 and part 2
Run
Run as fast you can
You lost the moment you started helping her financially with her studies or in any other way did she not have parents to take care of that It’s a simple, straightforward rule brother never give financial aid to a girl or girlfriend until she becomes your wife spending money while hanging out, traveling, or dining together is a different matter entirely. The incidents you described make it obvious that she was just using you and took you for a complete ride. So, just forget about her and enjoy your life.
Before you found yourself in a blue drum lifeless better runaway from her
Loyalty is the bare minimum thing should be expected in a relationship. If it's not there then why you're in that relationship? Run..
Take a two or three bed room flat one bed room for you and the other bed rooms for her ….hope u understand
Ask her later she will tell after few days of marriage tum ab smart nhi lagte then again the cycle ask ds to her.. Bcoz later only alimony N yes before marriage 2_3 relations hote to insan samjhdar bhi banta hai ..so be positive also
Leave her iss trap ma mat fasoo ap option ho aus ka liya kal shadi ka baid agr aus ko ap se bether mila tou aus waqt be cheat kra gi so move on
Leave her at any cost bro
Is any one naming #MAHADEV here ? Please guide this pure soul onto a divine path !!!!
Bro don't continue with her at any cost,she satisfied her desires now she wants you as a backup plan for a secure future, today 90% girl's are same like her,bro if you will continue with her, you're no longer a men , your simp.i hope you will got understand.
For the goodness of you both please stay away from each other
Naah... Never every leave her. You need her. Yeah, get married to another good girl. But dont leave her.
She changed
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Run. Save youself. Cut all contact. Else, continue to live in the trauma. Healing is possible only if you stay away from the fire.
Dibyo Chakraborty
Leave her bro ...he just need the good future after enjoying whole life
She told you she did one time with him... Seriously. In a year relationship a year has 365 days and a Man like me can do 4-6 times a day. So if they didn't meet everyday suppose 150 days then at least 2 times a day So that's comes out to 200 times she got f*c*ed.
Itna sab hone k baad bhi doubt m ho ki kya karna hai?
Bro this is the time to explore ur feeling and move on no need to worry about this kind of worst female because only to satisfy her self whn she's not loyal thn ull again get trapped so liv her free she's not fit fr ur life this kind of women r lik Street dogs who ever feed thm they'll show thr ass to b loyal so don't feel that's she's going to be good again ones she's cheating behind ur back and if u giv her a chance tomorrow it'll n repeated again n again wr u lose ur own self respect n ur family respect also more thn her u hv a family to care so move on bro best of luck just enjoy ur life to b vry frankly b single n enjoy ur life that's better for this generation 👍👍👍👍
Please leave her....what if she cheat again in future?or after your wedding or after having your child?? I think you must leave and try to build a better life
Don't marry her brother thats all
It will be difficult to leave but pls leave her. you will move on soon and it is good for you
Once a cheater is always a cheater, Runn bro Runn
If i were you, i would have definitely left her
Move on..
she's in IIT? she is entitled to more meat. be safe, friend. she is planning to go abroad.
Leave her .
Run Run!!!
U r still in a relationship with her? Even Mahadev can't help you then
Leave her and move on. She is not worth this long a confession .
Once a cheater always a cheater.
Leave her and have some self respect. Never go back to her.