I want to share something deeply personal that has shaped the last few years of my life. I am originally from Bihar, India, and I lost my father in 2019. Losing him created a void that I still carry with me. After his death, I moved to London to pursue my Master’s in Engineering Management. I was far from home, dealing with family disputes, emotional struggles, and trying to build a future on my own. During that time, I met a priest at a temple in Southall. He knew about my father’s death and how much I missed having that support in my life. In the beginning, he made me feel safe and cared for. He would often tell me that he would look after me like a father and that I would never have to face life alone. As time passed, our connection became much deeper. We were together for almost two years. I trusted him completely. I believed his words, his promises, and the future I thought we were building together. Then, without warning, everything ended. The breakup shattered me. I found myself completely alone, trying to understand how someone who knew my deepest wounds could walk away so suddenly. During that period, I experienced some of the darkest moments of my life. I struggled with suicidal thoughts, and I also went through a pregnancy and an abortion alone. There were days when I genuinely did not know how I would survive emotionally. Yet somehow, I did. It has been three months now. I am healing. I am moving forward. I smile again, I work, I function, and I continue building my life. But healing is not the same as forgetting. I still miss him every day. I miss the conversations, the memories, the comfort, and the person I believed he was. What makes it harder is that he was not just someone I loved. He was someone I trusted spiritually and emotionally. The loss felt bigger than a relationship—it felt like losing faith, trust, and safety all at once. And after everything, there is one question that still stays with me: Why do some people enter the lives of those who are already carrying so much pain, make them feel safe, loved, and protected, and then leave as if none of it mattered? If someone knows your deepest wounds, your fears, your vulnerabilities, and still chooses to earn your trust, why is it so easy for them to break it? If you never intended to stay, why make someone feel that they had finally found a home? I am not sharing this for sympathy. I am sharing it because I know many people carry invisible pain behind their smiles. Sometimes the strongest thing we can do is speak honestly about our experiences. I am still searching for answers, still learning to trust again, and still healing. But despite everything I have been through, I am here. I am standing. I am moving forward. And I would genuinely like to ask: Has anyone else ever struggled to understand why people do this, and how did you find peace with the unanswered questions?
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When you make other person completely aware of your weakness, there your fall starts. People are always trying to utilise a person's emotional weakness. Learn to be strong .. unless the person is known to you or close to you, don't share any of your problems with anyone. Those who know your wounds only scratch it more. Beware of that. If you show your strong side, no one will dare to cheat you. Take it as a lesson, you came out of that pain now. Build your future in a bright way. All the best for your future.
When its not blood , the connection between 2 opposite sex turns different , Also since he is a Priest , He must have felt awaken and realized something far more important , no goodbyes nothing to keep it cold
Yes I have experienced this U won't get closure U won't even get an answer some times even on openly asking them. Reality is ur priest friend too has a hidden version in him. A good human will always explain and leave Coz it requires a lot of guts and mental strength to reject someone and owe upto it. I have seen such people too. So close the chapter. He is not worth ur tears.
When someone knows our deepest wounds and becomes a source of comfort, the loss can feel much bigger than a breakup. It can reopen old grief, old fears, and the longing to feel safe again. That is why the pain can be so overwhelming. Finding peace did not come from getting all the answers. It came from accepting that I might never fully understand why someone did what they did. Some questions simply do not have satisfying answers. Healing began when I stopped asking why they left and started asking what I needed to do to take care of myself.
Har ling shivling nahi hota... soch samajh kar baitha karo!
What was the reason for break up?
Time is healer..
When you make a mistake you should accept it, instead you are blaming others. For your comfort you choose him for his comfort he choosed you, there is nothing wrong in it. Change your way of thinking..In this relationship you both comforted then why you only should suffer. Think about it and move on with your life.
Move on, if you have a good career, improve your health, just stay in spiritual beliefs, and get back to your native and take their help, your peace and health is most important, go to work, earn and move forward, be busy
Please keep an open mind and open eyes. Sadly, the world doesn't mind playing with emotions of simple people.
Your story touched me deeply. While every situation is different, I have come to believe that not every relationship is meant to last forever. People enter our lives for a reason and when that purpose is fulfilled, they move on. But every relationship teaches us something and shapes who we become. My daughter lost her mother to cancer after a four year battle when she was just eight years old. She accepted the reality but emotionally she withdrew and built a hard shell around herself, afraid of loving and losing someone again. A year later, I entered her life as her new mother. Today, she is 20 years old and has grown into a young woman of remarkable integrity, kindness and trustworthiness. Somewhere along the way, she let go of the bitterness and found hope again. She has brought immense joy into my life and I was able to bring stability, love and a sense of security into hers. We don’t always get answers to why someone leaves or hurts us. Sometimes, those answers only become clear much later through new experiences and the people who enter our lives afterward. I hope that, with time, you find peace.
Mujhe ye nhi samaz aya priest ke saath sex hua ya bas he was guider
How can you miss the person who left you in lurch after making you pregnant. Take it as a lesson and move forward.
There are no answers to Why and How Can in relationships. People simply behave weird. See what you can learn from this experience? It will give you some lessons. Never enter into a relationship when you are emotionally down. Bounce back powerfully. Do not let someone ruin your life. Don’t drown in guilt shame or regret.
God and time only help. Rest are all only use and throw .
for our mental health and happiness stay away from things that distrub our internal peace
मिडल क्लास बंदा हु मै, करोगी मुझसे शादी? Engineer hu.
He took advantage of you. He emotionally cheated you. They are bad people. Stay away from them.
It's difficult to even believe, but the manipulators/ selfish people consciously choose the vulnerable people or anyone in vulnerable moments because it's so easy to impress them... It's so easy to get what they want... They might be simply selfish or narcissistic.... Also there is one possibility,where someone genuinely took care of you , been there for you, but once you start becoming stronger self ,they feel like you have changed... They are comfortable only when you are dependent on them... If you think spiritually, bad things don't come alone... It's a series of lessons lined up for you in the bad season...
The simplest truth is - there are all kinds of people. And unfortunately, you are more likely to encounter men like this priest than a genuine man......the same logic applies to women....men will exploit you emotionally and s**ually.....women are more likely to exploit you emotionally and financially. BUT the important thing is to know is..... none of this will/can happen unless YOU allow it to. Your peace is within you...don't look for it elsewhere ...the same applies to your strength