28 F ..Met a guy through matrimony and instantly liked him in 2024 he too appeared like a nice guy ..we liked each other and we started dating for a while and both families met too meanwhile he started to become very controlling like asking me delete my Instagram not post any photos anywhere and not talk to male friends ..he even made me to delete my friends photos in my phone and made me call them and asked them to delete I did everything like a fool .he also won’t have his dp or photos anywhere ..so I thought he’s insecure and adjusted a lot .we also went out and got close and I got deeply attached ..he then asked about property that I will get from my parents and he wanted to know which all locations I get ..me and my parents told but he was not satisfied .he promised me to get engaged my November 2024 then pushed the date to jan 2025 giving some lame reasons ..in jan 2025 he asked about property again and even asked what property would my sister gets for which my parents got angry ..then he said he won’t ask about property again and said that he will fix in 2 months but he didn’t come he called my grandfather and had asked about property as my grandfather didn’t give shares yet to my father ..all this happened while he was constantly pressuring me to meet him which I did ..then in may 2025 he met a girl in matrimony and tried to talk to her while talking to me at the same time.. I found that out and I told that girl for which she left ..he then got angry and said u did all this now u need to marry me only so I waited again ..he came with his parents again. In end of 2025 to our house and has again asked abt property my parents and I told not to ask to my grandparents and they will give the property in future as they said but he didn’t believe that and asked and that became a problem ..he did all this while telling me he loved me and acted insanely obsessed telling I was the first girl he got so close too ..I kept waiting for him as he said ok I’ll engage u in one month then pushed the dates further his mother also called us and told we will do engagement in April and then when the date came they didn’t proceed it..he never let me use matrimony he would find and made me delete it every time and if not he will abuse me but he was having matrimony paid membership .i had already imagined future with him since he talked about engagement ..he also said that you didn’t meet me for a year so I lost feelings but I was afraid that I’ll get cheated and didn’t meet .. last month I met him in a theatre where I cried and he said Dont worry I’ll marry u now he has bought a land by keeping his house document in bank and says I have debt .he asked me if I can help I said ok I’ll ask my parents and let u know but dont have that much money right now we need to arrange by selling something and he was talking to me saying I’ll marry u but he had fixed another alliance without my knowledge..he finally says that alliance had given him money to settle his debt and get back his house document so he’s going to marry her only he also says that girl is not pretty as you yet I’m marrying her because of the money they give ..when I confronted him like why didn’t u tell me that u were talking to her he says if I say u would stop it so I fixed the alliance while talking to u .i waited since he said he will ask his uncle for money to cover his debt hoping if his uncle didn’t give then I can try my part but I never thought he will fix another match so soon ..he also says I was already meeting her and have gone to movies with her and now we are going to get engaged ..I begged him to accept me but he says no I have got money from them and I’m going to marry her only ..I feel betrayed very badly and ik traumatised to the core
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He only wanted money and a back up option which was you. Please move on and marry someone beyond materials and properties.
What's the point to get traumatized? Instead, be happy that you were lucky enough to escape a serious danger..
It’s seems that as per you.. he is the only last guy left on the earth..
>> he then asked about property that I will get from my parents and he wanted to know which all locations I get ..me and my parents told but he was not satisfied >> is this common in your location &/ community? So you+parents didn't think this as a red flag. It was pretty clear at that point that they are auctioning the guy. And highest bidder will get him.
Right now it's really difficult to go through... Read your post like an outsider, you can clearly see that guy was anything but a selfish and money minded man ... Take your time to heal and enter into the next relationship... but in the long run you will realise it's the best thing which happened to you... Focus on other things in life ... Travel .. work .. spend time with friends and family.. This too shall pass ...
You are super lucky.Pls stop feeling like you have been betrayed.Instead be happy that you escaped from him.He is a money minded person.Pls move on.
Knowing that he just want money u still want him? It was never love. Tell that to ur mind n move on
made up story 😂😂....
Are you for real? Koi itna dumb kaise ho sakta hai..In this whole confession i can only read he is asking for Property every now & then.Itne clear red flags dikhte hue ye ladkiyan Trap mai fasti hai aur na jane kitne crimes hote hai ..Plz wake up & Thank god you are saved.
Have u ever heard the word self respect?
U r very lucky not to have that kind bad boy... Be strong U will get good men
You are protected from a money minded person , u will find soon pious person.
Some day some other girl will offer him more money, he would leave his he saved u
I am amazed knowing all the red flags you still wanted to marry him. But happy your life got saved from that psycho
How can any woman be so dumb ! Don’t you know giving dowry is crime? Do you want to die ?
What sort of a girl you are. Can't you see that he is a cheater and a greedy man. How come are you going to marry such a ruched man. Have some self respect and care for dignity of your family. Leave him and gi and marry someone reliable
Hey u escaped... Have a treat
This guy will sell himself to the highest bidder. You have been saved.
Lucky that you know he is marrying someone for money
6 months or 1 year later u will thank the universe for saving you from this guy .
Nalla vela thappichinga
You still got saved. That guy was a monster. What a control freak.
U were saved, LOL
You escaped one of the biggest traumas. May you find your men sooner or later.
You dodged a bullet girl 🫠 Imagined future with him? Can’t you see there was no future to begin with.
Then they say women are gold diggers. Ha ha ha men ☕
Too many red flags and you still held onto him. Be glad that it happened before marriage. Try to move on and find a better partner
Don't be stupid by running behind a man. You was only an option in his life. Never be afraid to restart your life. Be financially independent and move on and enjoy your life.
He allowed you to be here
Saniyane..saavu
Lucky u bach gai
Move on fast...
Pls wake up and see the red flags… the guy is only interested in money and property… cant you and your family see it? Consider yourself lucky…block him everywhere and move on pls…
Court - waqeel , yeh sab suna h kabhi ?
Pagal ledki or bebkuf ledki
Usne tumhe control kiya, emotionally use kiya aur trust tod diya. Woh genuinely confused nahi tha, woh opportunistic tha. Tumhara pyaar real tha, uska behaviour manipulative tha. Ab usse completely cut off karke apni healing start karo
Jaisi tm jahil ho yehe hona.chahye tha
When he asked about property for the first time that itself was a big red flag. Why did you believe him again and again
If a boy is over possessive n hv any eye on Ur property that doesn't mean he is rong.. Hindu shastra me likha hai .. Sur ,nar muni sabki yeh reeti Swarth PAYE kare sab Preeti .. Matlab Bina fayda ke koi pass nhi hota
Cheat me once, shame on you.. cheat me twice shame on me !! You've should av figure out this saying quite early .. anyways move on
Hey be happy you escape earlier move on
Aur katna kisko bolte hei, tumhe toh kat gaya
Ek gana hai... Mai rou ya hasun. Wo suno
Don't be maudlin. He's gone, give a party.
Why the hell you are traumatized instead of celebrating 🤦♂️ that's a divine help gal
From self claimed pro feminist aunties views: its his choice
RUN
I guess the lady is too much desperate ....just leave that guy...simple as that
File 376 nd make his life hell 😡
Pigeons learn faster
He is getting married to settle his debts.. you should totally cut off or else he will come back to haunt you and inflict more pain.. He will even convince you to have terms even after getting married with another woman and you are likely to fall for yet another time
One word for u girl :: you are d biggest foolish crazy female who ignored red flags 🚩.. had someone been really sensible she wd hv kicked him off right on day one
It's a clear cut plan like cinema story and u believed like a dump.it us good that u r not part of his family and remove everything by saying u r safeguarded now.
Red flag ..
One thing y r u even talking to him or want to talk to him and marry this guy..plz God have saved u, don't marry him or even talk to him.
Someone pls tell me the ending.. couldn't spend more than 30 seconds on a bevkuf persons post
K
And men call women gold diggers 🙄🙄🙄
இனிய பிறந்த நாள் வாழ்த்துக்கள் ஐயா!!🎂💐
It will take time, so just move on. Here's the real deal - SCAM ALERT: Around you there are real-estate people watching you, your finances and savings. If you have large land-parcel, big house, big bank balance etc. They will send bride/groom into your family who will later cause trouble like family split, divorce, property split etc. They are there for part of your assets. Sometimes they will send multiple people - bride for brother, groom for sister etc. and your entire family is hijacked for property. What red flags to watch for ? - Isolating from family, restricting finances, asking to leave job, asking to mortage property, asking for property to be split and split portion to be transferred in theri name, causing trouble and filing divorce case followed by demand for alimony or one time settlement, asking In-laws to leave, asking you to leave parents, asking for your Debit/Credit card & controlling finances. These are just a few, if you find yourself in such situation then write down suspicious behaviors and red flag those. Please do your due diligence in love/arranged matrimony. Background and Police verification of entire family and alliance partner is a must.
Never seen an idiot like you... period
Pagal ladki jb pehli var tumhe usne property ka pucha smj jana cahiye tha tumhe usi wakt
Isn't there no other man on earth you can choose? Why are you begging this man to accept you? Your parents should take you to counselling
Confesser first don't you have self-respect secondly it was clearly a red flag from the beginning asking for properties details money etc. that guy i do not blame him he was very clear with his views and expectations it's you who did not understand and wasted your time. Hope u get over this and find a better life.
Some woman are just so stupid that they wanna voluntarily jump into fire or dig their own grave and this lady is one of that wants to jump or dig at any cost so stop preaching her.
maarna aise ladko ko chahiye or bali ketan jese ladke chadh re hai🥲
You are the gril who like like narcissistic and filthy men, There are lot of red signal still you belive him. If he ask to not talk to male friend, they on what basis you still taking to him? This is basic sence. Let him go and try to find out a good person to start with.
Red flag from top to bottom.. Remove him from your life..
Mad! Get out of the relationship!
Chutya Day 1 se wo red flag tha aur dikha nhi 😒
Are you dumb
It's good god make you apart from that such bullshit people and greedy one who can't afford themselves just need free cash on jackpot EVERYTIME YOU FELL DOWN ITS A NEW START SO DONT WORRY ABOUT A NEW START AND YOU NOT THAT MUCH DUMB THAT YOU WONT FIND SOMEONE ELSE ⭐💯 GOOD BLESS YOU BE BRAVE HAVE FAITH SOMEONE GONNA COME WHO'S GONNA STAY FOREVER ♾️
Your story looks fake No one can be such dumb like you ,the way you pretending 😂😭😂
Buy a dildo and fuck yourself
U can be stupid i can't understand how the your parents are insane....he always ask about property and u guys begs him to marry.....how ur parents accept that behaviour.....what if he marry u and kill u for asking more money....esc from the bastard by godgrace....thank God and move on
This girl seems to be mentally retarded
You are lucky that u didnt proceed with this and end up in living hell
I dont know at what point you are getting so much biased to get marry only to this gold digger man… its totally cleared that he doesnt love you he only loves your property and paisa.. its a god warning to not get married to this man because he knows if you than suffering is for lifetime
My God! Do you have any brain? First of all, you must not marry by giving dowry. Secondly, when he had asked about your family property and inheritances multiple times, you should have understood he is not interested in you but only cares about your wealth and property. You should have walked away right then. Thirdly, when you got to know he is talking to some other girl, you should have immediately blocked him out. Fourth, you begged him when he declined to marry!! Thank your stars that you dodged a bullet. Take this as a lesson and never repeat the mistake again.
Are you so stupid to carrying on with him so long ? He was only intrested in property and money uselss guy for you .i feel you should have ditched him long back when property and money matters came.
Good riddance from that ahole. You should be relieved that you dodged a gold digger.
Lol 😆
this is all a story and u have posted it too wasting our time
You begged him to accept you? Girl, you alright? He is a piece of shit. Run as fast you can!
Is he marrying you or your property?? How dumb are you? Girls will fall for these types of guys and then call out every guy..And then talk about Girl intuition ... Seriously!! 😑
Girl he is after money and cares a damn about you or your family. Why would you want to marry a beggar? Please take therapy, work on yourself and have some self respect. He is treating you like crap and you wasted 2 years waiting for him to marry you. Cut contact and never ever talk to this beggar again.
Are you nuts ? Run away with your life,
I dont know why this girl is selling herself with her ancestral property, the stupid girl needs some brains not all guys love you some love your property, period.
Are you on acid? Kindly read your post once again. How are people so dumb and blind? How?
Boin, tui ki gadhi?
yarrr tum pgl ho kya vo bar bar money mang rha h or tumne usko apna dil hi de dia use only pesa chahie pesa milne k bad vo sabko chhod skta h jisse pesa lia usko bhi chhod dega vo