We were in a long-distance relationship. For almost a year, we had constant arguments because I felt that my boyfriend was not standing up for me or supporting me when it mattered. In January, he completely ghosted me and blocked me everywhere without any explanation. I tried contacting him many times, and out of anxiety, I eventually called his home. Because of that, his sister and mother found out about me. They insulted me, called me characterless, and made hurtful comments about my family's financial background and caste. I was crying on the phone while listening to all of that. Just two hours later, my boyfriend called me and blamed me for everything. He called me toxic and said a lot of hurtful things, even though he was the one who had suddenly ghosted me without any explanation. After that, I never contacted him again. Six months passed. Yesterday, I had a terrible nightmare, and unconsciously I started calling him. My number was blocked. I secretly called him from my brother's phone as well, and he blocked that number too. After nearly 300–400 calls, he finally called me back. He laughed while talking to me and said that he had deleted my number and that it would be better for me to forget him. All of this has hurt me deeply. I gave five years of my life to this relationship. I rejected many good marriage and relationship proposals because I trusted that he would stand by me one day. Now I feel like I am no longer at an age where I want to get married, and honestly, I do not even feel like marrying anyone. I find it difficult to trust people, and I am constantly afraid of being hurt again. I experience panic attacks almost every day.
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Get therapy and forget about him. The world is beautiful and has so many things to offer. Get new hobbies. Just for one man it is not worth giving your life away! See a Counselr
it was long distance ... Long distance have fate ... You made the fate . so move out ... Rest MARRIAGE is in Divine hand ... if its destined it will happen .
If the thought of marriage & any new relationships bring trauma & nightmares for you then don't get married & don't haste to jump into a relationship in future. Don't give so much importance to marriage. One can live happily without getting married. Pursue other interests, nurture your favourite hobbies eg. listen to music, teach needy children, read books & magazines, experiment on cooking new dishes, watch movies, travel, be creative & divert ur attention to other things. Life is not only about marriage or relationships. This universe offers us thousands of beautiful things to enjoy, pick the correct ones & enjoy life, have fun. Best of luck!
What happened to you is extremely painful, but it is important to separate two things, the loss of the relationship and the way you are responding to that loss. Your ex-boyfriend's actions were hurtful. Ghosting a partner of five years, blocking all communication without a conversation, allowing family members to insult you, and then blaming you instead of addressing the issues respectfully shows a lack of maturity and accountability. Whatever problems existed in the relationship, you deserved a proper conversation and closure. At the same time, making 300 to 400 calls to someone who has clearly blocked contact is a sign that the emotional pain has become overwhelming and is affecting your ability to cope. This is not a judgment, it is a sign that you are struggling and need support. The panic attacks, anxiety, nightmares, and inability to move on suggest that this has become more than just heartbreak. Right now, the most important thing is not whether he was right or wrong, or whether he will ever come back. His actions have already given you an answer: he does not want to continue the relationship. Continuing to seek answers from him will only reopen the wound. Please don't convince yourself that your life is over because you invested five years in someone. Many people find healthy relationships and marriages after painful breakups, even later in life than they expected. The trust you gave him was not wasted, it taught you what you need and deserve in a partner, respect, communication, emotional support, and someone who stands by you during difficult times. Since you're experiencing daily panic attacks, I would strongly encourage you to seek help from a mental health professional. Heartbreak can trigger anxiety disorders, depression, and trauma like symptoms, and there is no shame in getting support. A therapist can help you process the rejection, rebuild your self worth, and break the cycle of obsessive thoughts about the relationship. For now, focus on one goal, complete no contact. Delete old conversations, stop checking for updates, block any avenues that tempt you to reach out, and redirect your energy toward healing. Closure rarely comes from the person who hurt us, it comes from accepting that their actions already revealed who they are. You lost a relationship, but you have not lost your future. The fact that you are hurting this deeply shows how sincerely you loved. One day, when the pain is no longer controlling your life, that ability to love will become your strength rather than your weakness.
I would like to advise u on this. But not a public response - It is sensitive information and a possible resolution. You may DM. But apart from winning and regaining ur self-respect trust me - It is good riddance to bad rubbish.
You need to work on yrself, do yoga and read books, change your perspectives and knowledge base, enter into world of spirituality to become more calm, placid, peaceful, matured, joyful.... Several better BF's will come your way, you will be a magnet, every experience can teach you a lot, bad experiences do that better and more, so learn and imbibe and move on....
Thank god that you’re saved from that nightmare of a relationship, you will find someone better, your ex has no spine you’re better off without him , give yourself some time , you will be ok
Sis move on. Stop wasting your life on people.
All is well. You will get a good person soon
Text me i will help you to get out of it surely
Get marry
Most probably he had a second better option and he went for it. What you need to do is stop taking impulsive decisions of calling him... You need to accept that he had been a cheater and he's gone.. Block everywhere, remove every object and photo video that makes you remember him. Move on and build your career.. that's the most important part. And the matter of relationship and marriage, you'll get the right person at the right time..just build a god damn career.