Hi all F30. I got married 4years ago through arranged marriage and recently I have baby. My husband said he didn't have previous relationship and he only chat with girls as friends and showed so much love for me and I believed that.After delivery one day I found out that he had relationship in past. He saved their chats and he secretly hidden their phots.He kept her belongings till now.When I asked about it he simply told that the chat was group chat of friends.But it clearly shows messages sent from him. There were dirty and romantic chats also.But he kept saying he didn't have previous relationships.And he forcefully deleted their chat and her contact no from his phone and kept in his mail.I don't know they were still in contact or not.After that my mind was not stable.And i am thinking like may be they should married but I came between them.I am crying like I have done mistake.Acutally I never had relationship.They both are enjoying their life but what I have done mistake to suffer this much.I can't bear this pain.
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It was his past if you thinking abouth that continuously so you are ruining your present just give him some time and try to handel situation with love and effect sure he will come to tell you everything
Just sit and talk with him how much pain you are feeling and forget after that because you should feel good for the sake of your baby...it takes time to accept this, but you should not make yourself down
I think you are suffering from postpartum depression... I suggest you to go to therapy as soon as possible... Please take this seriously and get professional help first and get well soon before making any decision... Hope this helps...
Know your partners past only if you can handle it..
You are overthinking. Its just his escape route from reality. Nothing serious. Talk to him that it has hurt you but nothing more. Dont take it too seriously to disturb your peace of mind. These things are kept for long to just show his friends and boast about it after 2 pegs. Calm down and dont ruin your peaceful life.
PPD. Consult your doctor plz.
No need to feel pity. Ask him to cut all connections, delete everything and remove all the belongings. Fight for your right.
It was his past so don't think much and just move on
Every one hav past in there life but never ever bring in present married life it's take to hell boy or girl anyone Better talk to ur parents n his parents if it's countinue I will hav to take legal action on this
tum bhi apna roop badalto ....live dual life husband ke liye sati vaitri and social media per savita bhabhi kyu tumhara husband toh sudharne wala nahi