Hello, pls post this! F29, I had been into relationship with my ex bf, he promised that we will get married but his mother did not approve the marriage however she always knew about our relationship. Now he is happily married to another girl. During our relationship, I met his friend who became my friend too, he knew about us everything and we always been good friends. Now after years since I broke up with my ex, but his friend now interested to marry me, despite knowing everything about my past with his friend. My friend seems to be a genuine guy, but I am not able to think about him in certain way so that I can marry him, considering he knows everything about me. Somehow I am not comfortable with this fact, I always consider him as my good friend. Due to the betrayal of my ex, it’s hard for me to trust a man and I am not ready for marriage, neither with my friend nor anyone else. I am girl who is independent and doing everything absolutely fine with everything like taking care of family, finances, job, having business, secured my future and mostly will take financial retirement in few years, except the personal life which doesn’t make sense to me that I should get married. Please advise genuinely!
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Please do not marry that friend since you are not comfortable.now he behaves good, but in future he might behave differently and hurt you with words. So wait for some time, God will give you the best life partner
Simpel anwesr is no bcoz he know everything about you and your ex so in future you have to face so many taunts and your past talk if you are independent just take your time heal yourself when you ready then take a desicion
If you are not comfortable, don't marry him. You need to heal first. Take care of yourself. Live your life.
Just be an independent girl as why to face te consequences of family and others in India many women with children lives independent and live a happy life
First of heal fully. As you are financially set and independent give a life to a man of your choice and flaunt about it and spread the same to other women like you.. Best of luck 🤝
Have some love making sessions with that friend of yours . Either you will end up marrying or end up enjoying 😭😭😭😂😂🤣🤣🤣😜😜😜
Not comfortable...Don't marry. As simple as that. Do not overthink and complicate.
Marriage is not an achievement,so u can go for it
I would advise you to take some time and heal.. Enjoy your life.. the friend seems to be fishy, probability that his behaviour changes after marriage is very high.. Think well before taking any decision concerning the friend..
It’s completely okay to feel this way. Trust takes time to rebuild after betrayal, and marriage should never be rushed or forced. If you only see him as a friend, don’t pressure yourself into changing that. You’re already independent, secure, and doing well — marriage is a choice, not a necessity. Focus on your peace and healing, and only consider marriage when your heart truly feels ready. 🌸
Don't take decision wrongly. Bf cheated but his friend ready. Don't marry him but u will get a new good person. For that don't take decisof not to marry anyone
Since you are discussing here, means you are somewhat interested or want to explore. So try a fling, where does mariage come in; without commitment or go for a live in. In a year or two you will know enough to distance naturally, if it turns out otherwise it'll be a pleasant surprise to you
Be happy don't get married have good frind in life enjoy ur life
एक समय के बाद लड़की और लड़का सोचते है, शादी कर लेनी चाहिए थी, मेरे भी आज बच्चे होते, ओरो कि तरह थोड़ा सुख थोड़ा दुख लगा रहता। हम भी सांसारिक जिम्मेदारी निभा जाते। जीवन मे सही समय कभी नही आता, कुछ ना कुछ लगा ही रहता है, सही जीवन साथी मिले तो निपट लेना चाहिए।
That's a good decision...... Please don't get married and ruin a man's life......
Why do girls always fall f boys?
It's up to you
Don't worry, u r already 29, no one ll be willing to marry u. U r kicking out the only guy who is willing to marry u. 🤣🤣🤣 stay single n enjoy ur life with regret
so u r going to marry someone and cheat him by hiding ur past...how comfortable u r to cheat someone chi...stay single or marry that frnd...dont spoil some other guy's life
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U decided already then why U ask in public... The comments will confuse U.. so move forward with Ur decisions and enjoy the life as U like.. but be safe and secure.. good luck.
Dont maryy the FRIend
your life , your choice ... why you asking to world ?
Your ex-bf friend is looking for an opp. to bang you🤣