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I don't understand as to why u have to bring ur child to ur house . A child needs both the parents care and love. U must try to understand ur wife's problem. Sometimes we don't try to understand the problem or situation of our partner . Once u r married u must prioritise ur partner. Keep ur mother and sisters out of ur day to day problems. U keep visiting them . U r a responsible father who must sit down n talk with ur wife. Don't deprive the child of mother's love

Consult a lawyer asap. And prepare for war. Hope for the best but don't be naive enough to expect it. Make one sincere effort to make things right. Really make an effort to understand where, who and what went wrong. Maybe your mom and sister said something when you were away. Visit a counsellor if needed. But prepare for the worst anyways.

What happened during the marriage between the families? I think that never got resolved and didn't get closure. That may be the actual reason for your wife carrying so much resentment that your in-laws and your wife didn't even attend your father's funeral.

If you want your wife, be calm, talk with her what is her problem, not simply mother and sister because you both are living separately. Tell what you are expecting from her like being a family and living happily. if she doesn't agree after all this, simply say sorry. Tell your mother and sister also in a polite way to not involve in every matter.

Abandoning one's parents is the ultimate wrong....gender irrespective. One must learn to balance and to accept balance. There is usually enough for everyone's need, but not for everyone's greed.

Without mentioning any background reason for disputes, simply blame gaming your wife as if you are saint. At 32, if you cannot prioritize your family, meaning your wife and kids.... not your amma and Akka., you are an incompetent man. Keep your parents off limits first. Ask your wife what to do so both of you can have a common ground to meet. If she insists on separation, be prepared. Don't know when all these adult boys will grow up.

First things first. Things that happen at weddings and how groom's side behave hurts bride more than you think. She never got closure for what was done. One after the other things are causing the issue to grow rather than reduce it. While reading it looks like the issue is from both. No one is ready to compromise. If your ego plays such a big role in this marriage it's better to take divorce. Staying together with so much ego will hurt your child. Both of you end up fighting regularly the child faces the consequences. It's better to stay away and give the child a better experience. One thing I want to reiterate it's your wife who gave birth to your child. Not you. So respect her for that. I am not saying what she did or reacted to was correct. Start respecting her for your child. Lower your ego then go for marriage counseling where even she will be taught how to behave or deal with things. Then you can dream of a family. If not better divorce for the sake of your child.

Immautrity n ego between both of you... parents and sisters brothers are important but there is a boundary. If they cross and you allow then this is going to be problem always

Have a mature discussion. Set your expectations about her behavior in your house and with your family (mom, sis et al). Similarly let her set expectations from your behavior with reference to herself and her family. If you both agree to the set expectations (preferably recorded or written) try to live together and ensure each will not overstep those expectations. Else separate from her. A peaceful life is better than living with a nagging wife lifelong

Don't involve your mom and sister in your family life. Bring back your wife and stay with your wife and daughter separately. You can do your duties to your mom and sister without ruining your life. All wives need an assurance that they are their husband 's first preference. This way you can save your daughter's future also.

Ensure DNA... It's your Production..?

Frankly the best option is to see a marriage counsellor who will give a neutral unbiased perspective. This should have been done a while ago but it's never too late. No use getting into all the arguments you have as it's never wnding

Writing here will jit work ...work with marriage counselor. Both side stories and feeling need to be addressed

Prioritize the family you created…that’s all.

If you both want to make à real start visit à marriage councellor and infront of councellor stay honest that's the must sensible advice I can give...if that is not working out meet à lawer asap

Seems your wife is narcissistic in nature. You can never keep her happy; she always finds a way to blame you, and people like this often prioritise themselves. I can understand your situation. Sometimes, they may not even care about their own child. Take care of your daughter. Sorry to say, but she may not change even after counselling. For better understanding of this situation you may visit a psychologist.

You want your in-laws to look after your baby and you look after your parents,when will you take care of your wife and child

Is your daughter actually yours ? DNA krwalo. Aur ab tk pta ni wo apna body count kitna kr chuki hogi. Dhyan se

Chod do mama

The relationship is done and dusted. Whoever fault it might be. Move on. Having a kid after all these, is the biggest blunder.

Lots of champions has already suggested to keep your family out of your life then why she needs her family . It better to stay in rented house in other city and keep ancestral property for your mother sister life . Never contact both your family and check the change in life but I believe she will then fight for other reason

Better both stay away from both of your parents, In a day go you meet ur parents and let her meet her parents. What ever help your parents need let you both handle respectively , and both of you share information about your parents to you both with keeping in mind just information no counter statements from both ends. Say if she says her mum is unwell , u tell take care let me know if u need any help thats it. Same should be the other side too. No need for both of you to do all service for other's parent. Just help as if ur friends parents are in trouble. Other than that no need to inform about ur respective family to anyone and fight or argue. Anything marriage or any function if either like attend or go alone say the other one is busy in work. No drama for anything.

Personally I feel sorry to say that yur wife's not a very good person or adjusting. At least she could have supported you wen yur father passed away. As it is yur parents were on 1st floor & yu were on ground floor. Still yur wife's behaviour was bad. Plus shez working & independent. So plz don't get me wrong if yur daughter grows up with her mother then she too may learn selfish & unkind behaviour. It will be hell for yu in future. If yur family blames her then they r not too wrong. It must be based on her behaviour too. Yu seem to be an emotionally sincere person as compared to her. So consult yur seniors & then decide yur course of action.

Many men do not understand the emotional trauma a woman faces when she gets married and soon after sees her family and herself getting humiliated by the so-called new family, first time in her life. This often never gets a closure and the anger only keeps increasing. Solution: ask your wife to meet you for once, try not to defend your mother and sister's behaviour and understand and acknowledge her pain. Tell her for once that what has happened with her was wrong and see how she will calm down .

Bhai, I feel for you. 2 saal me itna sab hua hai. But right now the main thing is your daughter. Don’t use her as leverage, and don’t keep her away from her mom for long. Set up a proper visitation schedule with your wife. For marriage: If both of you want to try, go for marriage counselling with a neutral third person. If not, then at least settle co-parenting peacefully. Beti dono ki hai. Blame game band karo, solution dhoondo.

if u had no compatibility why u brought your child in this world to suffer?

Enna solrathu theriyala. Rendu side pblm iruku. Unga kid than pavum. Even though intha mari niraya family nadalum. Kid kaga oruthar vittukodupanga appa than solve agum. Unga visayam epudi solve agapotha theriyala. Niraya vitla affair nala pblm vanthu marupadi sernthu vazhnthu pathirukaen but unga visayathula suthi ullavungalae ungala thaniya valavidanum. Rendu verum busy irunthathan sandai kurayum. Unga kid school pona matum. Appa sernthu vazhunga. Ethachu palasa pesuna sari sari vidupa ellathayum maranthutu vazhazham sollunga. Just try

I think this situation is much more complicated than simply saying the wife is “angry” or the husband is “supporting his family.” Both seem to have accumulated years of resentment, and neither side appears to have handled conflict particularly well. The biggest concern now is their daughter. Taking the child home without clearly communicating with the mother was likely to escalate an already fragile situation. At the same time, the wife's decision to stop communicating altogether is also not a healthy way to resolve a marital or parenting dispute. The husband also acknowledges that he wasn't sufficiently involved during the pregnancy, while the wife apparently felt repeatedly unsupported in conflicts involving his family. Those issues shouldn't be dismissed. Likewise, if there were genuinely false allegations, repeated disrespect, or unreasonable interference from either family, those concerns need to be addressed honestly rather than turning the marriage into a competition between families. At this point, both of them need to stop involving parents and siblings in every disagreement and focus on the marriage and their child. A neutral marriage counsellor would be far more useful than another round of arguments between the two families. Most importantly, neither parent should use the daughter as leverage or make unilateral decisions about her simply to hurt the other parent. They need a calm, mutually agreed parenting arrangement. If reconciliation is possible, it will require accountability from both sides, clear boundaries with extended families, and genuine communication. If it isn't, they should still prioritize co-parenting peacefully and protect their daughter from the conflict.

If u can take role of single father then separate from your wife

Seems wife's family are saint

She must be a cartoon villain to file a complaint agaiant a woman whose dad had just died. Unless your sister said something that awful

Talk to wife get councelling.Keep mom sis off the limit

my mother and sister CREATED drama, i ABANDONED my wife and child, but i will still blame my wife for REACTING to it 🙄🙄🙄 --- Your post is cautionary tale for men - if you want to have a peaceful life with (earning) wife and children; then keep your family (especially mother and sister) away.

Listening to just your side of the story without ur wifes side. It looks like ur the problem. Patriarchial socirty issues

She has some past trauma therefore she is toxic towards u and ur family

Bro i don't want to explain but you are the problem..

When mistakes are ok both side and your wife is always the one triggering it then problem is not with you... let her realise and come back, you dont give up your self respect any further as she is seriously causing trouble to you and your family... if you are going to convince her and make her come back again she is going to do more worse things only... just see what she does and if in case she send any legal notice also handle it legally and make sure she is caught with proof for all mental torture she did to you and your family

Your mom and sister are culprits. Can u pls be far from them.. They have thier own family.. Why poking there nose here.. U have your blood relation here.. Your daughter and your wife is your first family now.. Pls can u pls grow up little bit

Don't waste time with this useless woman. File for a divorce & carry on. It is a blessing that she is not communicating with you. Show proof in the court. Simple. Do you want to live like this till you die? Tomorrow your daughter will get married & go, then what you will do. You have already lost your father. Think about it.

U r a bad husband

Maaa chudaav biwi tu nayi pataa....beti aa gyi na tere pass...baat khatammm......just remember one thing women never love men...they are creatures that are unable to understand even by themselves also....so don't worry....as a men you should not worry this much for a lady who only blames others.......u have your daughter your world is with you....that's all matters.

Such a hypocrite!!! You lost your one sided story when you mentioned “I admit that I did not attend her regular pregnancy check-ups as I should have”. That line explains everything!! -Hope she finds someone better!!!!

Your life is gone buddy … you can’t leave ur wife because you have a gal baby and you will emotionally get attached and can’t leave the little one with ur wife .. you are going to live the miserable life

Sorry bruh, gave up in between ur wife-family rant. All can I say is should have decided before having a child if ur relation with ur wife was not good. Don't know how come u guys even had a child with so much circus.

Leave ur daughter with ur wife, u have fked up the marriage enough. File for divorce and live happily a single life where u can do all ur bakjodhi