Hlo m 30f unmarried. I am.tired of searching for mrg. No past relationships. Recently talk to a guy who was a cma. He is innocent decent respectful guy. Introvert shy under confident. No girl as a frnd . No frnd during clg life. Only have some school frnds to whom he is close and has a group also. During preparation of cma also he has no frnds.no social media . Only linked in that too without pic. His wjtsapp dp is also missing.M an ambivert i talk to people make frnds enjoy my life. He is was more into chating m a call person. I tried initiating calls from side since he never called from his side for his shy introvert nature. After few days talk mostly chatting I thought of seeing his personality so I had to fix a meeting. He said he is shy and don't know wht to do since this is the first time in his life meeting a girl. And said it's saavn and we can meet after that. I understand that he is introvert but being under confident that too an adult man in his 30s !! I feel I will always have to push him for everything and teach him things. And how he will lead a mrg life.. a woman want to be in her feminine side when her man leads. For few times i can lead things but wht if it is for life time. There will be other complicated things, I doubt he can even take stand for me he has two sisters there will always be ll chaos for sure. Tell me any such people how are they in a mrg.!? Shouldn't a mrg be done equally matured confident people who can lead a better life . Pour your suggestions
Just because he is shy and introvert doesn't mean he can't be responsible. Those are two different things. But I would advice give it more time and meet multiple times. Only once he opens up with you then you can understand if he is ideal partner for you or not.
Being a shy introvert is one thing but not picking up calls only texting n finding excuses to avoid meeting all of this is creating a lot of doubts Its better to look for someone else I hope u get married soon Stay blessed
Don’t girl don’t ! ! I see all red flags don’t ruin your life . Nobody changes you only ruin yourself your happiness you can’t change none . No dp savan ka Mahina I have seen these same things don’t Make your life complicated
Explore various boys , why you remaining fixated with one, who seems not even yr type... If you are so outgoing/extrovert , what's this so much thinking about one... Keep meeting new , whoever occupies (i) your mind most, whoever is (ii) most opposite to your personality, choose him. (Mind you both qualities not just one).
Baki sab thik hai but ye savan me meet karne me kya problem hai bhai? 😭 Savan me non-veg na khana suna tha, but ye ladki se nahi milna pehli bar sunn raha hu 😭😭
You are overthinking. He is not a kid.. he will adult and learn fast enough to catch up with you. You need to keep your impressions away and see him as new place exploring newly.
Don’t make a decision yet. If possible wait for some more time. Don’t rush into anything. Keep your options open too. Maybe he will open up soon. Good luck !!!
Being introverted or shy doesn’t automatically mean someone is immature, incapable, or unable to be a good husband. Confidence and social skills can develop with time, especially when someone hasn’t had much experience interacting with women. That said, your concern about having to “lead” everything is valid. Marriage shouldn’t become a parent child dynamic where one person constantly pushes, teaches, decides and handles every difficult situation. The important thing is to understand why he is hesitant and whether he is willing to grow. Before rejecting him based on his personality, meet him a few times and observe how he handles responsibility, decisions, disagreements, family boundaries and difficult conversations. Is he simply shy, or does he genuinely avoid responsibility? There is a big difference. Also, being introverted doesn’t mean he cannot stand up for his wife or lead a family. Likewise, being confident and extroverted doesn’t guarantee that someone will be a supportive or responsible partner. And “feminine side” and “man should lead” are personal preferences, not universal rules. A healthy marriage can have both partners taking the lead at different times depending on the situation. Don’t marry him hoping to change him, but also don’t reject him solely because he doesn’t fit your preferred personality type after a few conversations. Take enough time to understand whether your values, expectations and partnership styles are actually compatible.
Trust Respect Communication and affection are basis for any relation. If the first 3 are there, go ahead.
I feel like don't rush and get married bcz I agree we female want someone to lead us and take the initiative first
As you mentioned is never had a female friend so he is not that open and once u get married you can make things right become his supporter and teach eventihe will learn
You got a gem .. never leave him.. every couple should be like that ..one extrovert and one introvert .. please don't leave him ..he will love you a lot ..just teach him ..how to care and all..as he don't have these experience...
Your priority shouldn't be marriage, priority should be a good health with happy life. And as you said you just had some chat with him and it cannot decide whether he is good for marriage or not! Well meet him , talk to him face to face for sometime and think about it little later! You'll get your answer automatically!
Girl... what's needed for life is totally missing in him. I agree he is good, no bad habits, no past, no gfs, etc etc. But he will be the most.complicated man you will ever live with if you marry him. I would say, let it go. He is binded very much in his own head, too much conditioning while growing up. I'm 100% sure he will project all these on to you and even start tantrums which you may not expect - the silent treatment, not stepping up to be a team when needed, not showing up to events as his ego will be playing a major role. Underconfident men can NEVER accept or treat their partners as equals. They will pull them down to their level guilt tripping you for everything. If you really want to live with him, you must be very strong in your boundaries, finances, self respect, individuality and career. If not, you will be doomed. Im not scaring you but this is the bitter truth with these kind of conditioned men.
Main kbi kisi ldki ko date nhi kiy but I m not shy or meet krn mai late bhi naa hou tumhr vala kuch jyada hi different h can't say anything
Maybe he's an AI under testing.
How did you come across this prospective groom? If it's through matrimonial site, then it's definitely fake. Stop wasting time on him.
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