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Ask your husband if you can have a partner too .. if he say yes, then what is the problem as your husband support you financially

Why you have to sacrifice for the person who cheated by hiding the truth before marriage

Friendship and staying together is more important than physical intimacy...if he's a good person, spending your life with him is not a problem

Firstly he got married even though he was gay and did not tell everything before not right . Secondly you got to decide what to do . Rather than asking the world out there. So from my point if his mother say live 100 years and only after 100 yamraj comes for her mother . Will you stay with him in loveless and s** less marriage till old age ? As a women you might be feeling the desire that your hubby loves you and makes you happy s** ually in the union of marriage and both enjoy romantic moments together happily. Romance is just not talking chatting holding hands. S*** is an integral part of happy married life. Where both partners mutually decide when , how . Enjoy those beautiful moments of togetherness after marriage. He doesn't have anything for you feelings s*** attraction then why he got married under pressure . Is he not a man enough to decline marriage and enjoy his gay life in discreet mode forever. He could have just rejected before marriage . But he went ahead and made your life mess too. Even if you get divorced tell him his sister will get married if destined to get married , why should you should paint that nice daughter in law picture for the society? Tell him to tell the society his marriage did not worked out due to some issue . Final decision with you girl. I am not against gays and lesbian everyone has a right to be happy in life. But that should not come at the cost of destroying someone else life .

He hid the truth and married you. Now he wants you to stay so his secret doesn’t get exposed to his family and society. He wants you to stay until his sister gets married. Here, everything is about *him* — his convenience, what *he* wants. But where are *you* in all of this? Your feelings? Your respect as a wife? If you feel he helped you with your father, supports you financially, and treats you well, then the choice is totally yours. It's your decision to make.

Be compassionate about his situation, especially his mother’s illness, but don’t sacrifice your entire life for it. His sexuality isn’t his fault, but entering marriage without being honest about it has deeply affected you. You deserve a marriage where both partners can genuinely consent and be fulfilled. Talk to a counsellor and a family lawyer, and decide based on what is right for your future, not only his family’s circumstances.

Continue marriage.. Look for sex outside (happens all the time, so nothing new).

Change him into straight

Cheating is cheating 😑

He is open mind with you so don't leave him. Kus is kind person for you.

He should have admitted it before marriage or you should have tested the waters. This present generation are very smart both men and women validate before commitment. However I believe your would have been proposed or arranged. We are all human and generally we have feelings I don't blame you if you have extra maritial pleasure but try to be discreet. I am not encouraging you or cuasing any disturbance to your marriage but as he has confessed to you latter I guess then he should be ready for an open relationship. Anyway at some point you on your own would do it. Sex is a beautiful pleasure its more like an art but if done with love and not lust it bonds two people together. Once a couple engages there's no secrets in their relationship the bond develops that hard that everything between couples life is transparent. I don't know how it will play on your family life as both your parents and your in laws will look forward to welcoming a grand child. I suggest you both consult a specialist and try to see if he could become straight. I feel your disappointed but thats destiny and am sure at the end you will over comes these obstacles and be a happily married couple. Don't get encouraged by you're husband to meet his other half or friends they must be all aware of it and now wait patiently till you make the first move some might even pass hints or send anonymous letters don't react to any just use your concise and move ahead. God bless you

You stay with him for security or as a friend.

Leave... Leave right now... Being gay or not is his choice but cheating you by not telling this before marriage is Lying... And never trust liars... During marriage for every details there must be total transparency... If anyone is avoiding that, then it's best to throw him/her out of your life and never look in that general direction.

Unknowingly or knowingly, You both are doing transaction with each other. Once yours (both) needs are over, this relation will automatically collapse.

What is your opinion on his suggestion... If you are ok with his terms it means you can have a partner and have the fun you wanted... And who should marry you after your current relationship came to close

You can be his good friend. I know you would have had dreams and your life is also ruined. But sometimes everything happens for a reason. You will find a good partner in your journey who will understand your situation. Good bless.

You are not someone's else's shortcut to life. Respect yourself. Get out of the marriage , irrespective of finances or anything. Also he is neither your husband , nor your lover. If you feel he is a good friend and have proven to be a great friend and support to you , something you don't have otherwise in life , only then think and decide. Else get out and end this. His sexual orientation is not a fault. His LIE is. A liar and a cheater doesn't deserve sympathy. I am saying this as a DEI champion in personal life, respect everyone. Be humble to everyone. Do not take their burdens and problems and make it your own. P.S: Financial help during your emergency is a way to compensate for the cheating he did by entering the marriage in bad faith. Don't let it hold against your psyche. Lavender marriages are great and have absolutely no issue - only if done with complete honesty.

Take a legal opinion… you can get your marriage annulled. You don’t have to share the reason with his family. But you and him amicably separate

See every thing is not physical...If someone loves u truly and he wants to spend the rest of the life with u...you two can adopt a baby..To find a true loyal partner is difficult now adays..Marriage doesn't mean physical needs only..to fall in love with each other s small habits is marriage..that's real love..

I read most comments and everyone is talking negative of her husband of course even she knows about it and thats why she's here. Instead of reasoning out or addressing this lady situation everyone keeps talk of 'cheating' tell him in today's life doesn't a wife or husband cheat? Everyone does so don't judge your standards but the rest be reasonable and give her suggestion she's here trying to get some kind of advice or suggestion not receive rubbish from others. Please be decent in your comments she talking of her husband not about her lover. Common guys you can be more mature. She seems an innocent person trapped within her own world

This is very difficult even legally ... But yes you can ask for a partner ...from him

किसी की बीवी लेस्बियन हो तो , वो कभी नहीं बोलेगा मुझे टेंशन हो रही है🥴

You need some kind of legal protection so he can't just abandon you after mom's demise and sister's wedding.

He cheated you first thing is that because he already had partner

1. Will he continue being with you after his sister's marriage and mother's death?if no then no second question,if yes,what will be your part in his life ,are you also allowed /have right to choose a partner who can give you what he is looking from his partner? 2.what you want,if meeting financial need for your family is ok to you for a happy life or you too have personal,physical ,emotional need,first figure it out 3.May be I sound harsh ,but what is you stayed in tough time,he leaves after sister and mother are gone?so first have everything documented over stamp paper the terms and clause ,secure ur position in life and money,warna kal ko na ghar ki rhogi na ghar ki.... 4.confront him,why he lied or hid it,if he can't think once of you before marriage ,why you are thing,ask all question your mind have

if u dont care abt sux u shud stay else if u are greatful to him u may stay. if u care for sux , u are free to leave him but since u said the family is good and supportive and he himself is good u can look for other options with permission coz even he mite b involved snwhere or other for needs 🤣 u can override this with some bad event of your life for eg. husband died after marriage, husband got ED after marriage, husband got heart operation after marriage...

Look he cheated with you by marrying you. He was aware of his condition. Even if he is a nice person, your life will be spoiled. If you are good to spoil your life, stay with him. He will not have feelings for you and eventually you will be depressed. If you feel, his mother has less time, you need to support him then stay till his mother is alive. But if mother will be alive for 4-5 yrs, then also your important years of life will be gone. Ask him what will you get by being in this marriage? His condition is also natural but he should have not married. My advice is take mutual divorce without drama so that his mother will nt hv to see bad phase.

What's ur problem. U can enjoy ur life in ur ways. Stay with him as he is good person. He can hv BFs

One best solution is what you intution and you heart accepts,makes you feel happy and healthy go accordingly and lead happy life.

You should appreciate the help he gave your family but gratitude should not become an obligation to sacrifice your entire future.... His mother’s illness and his sister’s wedding are important but they cannot be the reason you remain in a marriage you may not be able to live with.... Take some time, speak privately with someone you trust and get proper counselling/legal advice before making your decision.... Whatever you decide, make sure it is your decision, not one made out of guilt or pressure.

This is lavendar marriage it's common no need to worry

It's very difficult to get a good compatible partner . It's better to discuss expectations of both of you sitting together.

Girl! Why should you be the only one making the sacrifice, he is obviously happy with his partner while you are alone knowing the fact that one day the marriage will end and also, after his mother's death he will move on with his partner but can you? He has already made up his mind. It's great that he helped your family financially when in need but it's just a part of a responsibility from his side, I mean there are many straight men who will do the same. So! Think it through! The reason you are so nonchalant is because he is gay but would you react the same way if there was a woman involved in it?

it’s very complicated things to advice … Right or Wrong , you are too young , better find your life . Either way u stay or leave him , might have a severe consequences

It’s your personal choice. You gotta make a decision by yourself.

Consult a cycolgy Dr. He might need counselling sometimes things go well

Don't stay as what is date of his mom expiry can he tell selfish men after years what about your life

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Woh consummate hota hai behen

Take him to a psychiatric hospital.”

He is self centred

Are you a 'Bali ka Bakra'?? Sue him my dear! It's a cheating.

What u will do if he leave you without any financial support after some years. Ur age will be problem for your second marriage. If u want to stay in this relationship ask him to give some property for your safety

While his financial support during your father’s surgery shows great kindness, gratitude shouldn't cost you your own future and emotional well-being. Pretending everything is fine at just 25 years old puts way too much pressure on you, and living a lie will only lead to long-term resentment and heartache. You can honor his kindness with compassion and confidentiality, but you must prioritize your mental health by consulting a counselor, setting clear boundaries, and planning a clean, dignified exit strategy.

I can help u out physically

Had you been a lesbian, would he have stayed with you just because your father has had heart surgery? Koi ladka na rehta yet they expect understanding from women. Divorce him and take alimony. He cheated you. Don't be an emotional fool. What if tomorrow he brings his gay partner home? Tum sab best friends ban ke rahoge?

Why did it take so much time to find out that ur husband is gay?After finding out staying in this marriage is a waste of time He is asking u to stay in the marriage for his own benefit U should discuss this with ur family asap they will give u better advice

Would suggest to remarry another one instead of illegal intimacy..... Don't think temporary plan for longrun and decide your future accordingly

Behen ye consulate nahi consummate Hota Hai....uski behen ki shadi tak to ruk hi sakti ho as he has done so much for ur family ...uske baad tumhari marzi

Help him as a friend

i can help you to fill the lacuna...sweetheart.

Tricky question, but I would advice a mutual divorce.

Good chance. Make a relat

come to pune u stay in marriage , we wud enjoy both

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Consummate ❌ Consulate ✅ Thank God she didn't say Insulate

You can easily get an annulment. Since you didn't know he is gay, so it is technically a case of fraud, no matter what the help was, he cannot ask for more favours, if you keep staying with him, you would lose time to find the right one. If he is at least bi sexual then you should stay with him if both like each other, otherwise don't waste your time. Tell his mom some lie that you have to stay at your parents place for some issue like your studies or job or any emergency u can think of.

Gays have high risk of STD. Stay away from sexual intercourse with him, even 0ral.

What exactly is that you want? Be frank and practical? Don't complcate your life. Sexual urge and companionship is the basic needs of a human however much one denys. Sympathy and kindness should not be mixed with companionship and human biological urges. One thing is he is only trying to gain sympathy by giving his mother and sister as a reason. An ailing mother is not going to survive for ever and a to be married sister will definitely get married when her time comes if she is destined to get married. Can you live without a bed partner and is there a need is the question you need to answer.?

Very bad. Think u r not married and get out after 6 months

Out immediately

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Good chance. make a relationship with your husband friend and hav a threesomes

Its not an easy solution DM me ill give you best solution

He is not helping money to your family,he cheated u nd ur family... emotionally, financially n socially...1st u take care of your father, it is very much shocking to your father, then leave him .. hoping for a better future for u..

Commit to his wish

Stay till then. Get his gut tested his body is not able to digest extra estrogen and convert it to testosterone thats the reason his genes are resonating in a different way. Fix gut fix mindset. I am not hating any lgbtq community they are suffering they dont know whats happening with them and they are being used. Best is to leave the house and have a divorce and ask him to pay total amount whatever you spend in the marriage. Take some time off and then find someone. Payback whatever he paid for your fathers surgery.He shouldn’t have got married to you. First got his sister married then should have done what he desired. He is destroying your life and cheating. He didn’t had the courage thats why. He need phsycological help and medical. You can google studies how gut estrogen relation is affecting the moods. Also how to fix it. Many studies are kept hidden too. You need to find them. If he agrees to fix himself then its fine if not then leave him and divorce. Dont go on the cheating route take right decisions so that no points finger at you. Do not cheat or find a partner while staying in marriage it will create problems for you. He can use that against you in court of law. As you dont have any proofs. Be smart now. Dont be emotional and stupid.

Tell his family each and everything and leave him asap. He is using you only. You don't know about his mother's when she will be recovered or not. So don't waste your time and file a case of fraud against him.

It's ur choice totally... He cheated you without any loss.. You are not caretaker of such a person's family.. At the end u will have to bear tag of divorcee for no mistake of yours...after april he will say plz stay or my sister's wedding will be in danger, then some new excuse just to hide his identity...

Better move out of this marriage. Otherwise there could be serious consequences between the family

The purpose of marriage is setting up a family. Take him for counceling and if it does not work out, peacefully divorce. The reason is biologically sex is important and you need children to take care of both at elder age Are you financially independent, if not first stand on your legs before taking rest of steps

Hello… pls keep recording/ texts of his confession. Then first option: You both can file for Mutual Divorce. If he doesn’t agree then Second option: You can file for Contested Divorce with the evidence of his confession. To know your legal rights and options under these circumstances you can connect with me on 9990100070

Good person but sucks kock

hi

Leave that gay immediately

Divorce him immediately. He has to sort out his family issues. He can't use you. This is a typical toxic relationship. He wants to make you feel guilty so that he can keep using you for his comfort. He is not an honest guy. Dump him immediately. But ensure he pays a fat alimony. Nothing in this world is free

How's your and your parents' financial situation? Are you earning? Did he 'help' during your father's surgery ONLY because you didn't have any savings/ your family had a cash crunch? Or you guys are really poor? Just can afford food, clothes and meager shelter? If you are earning, take divorce ASAP. If you are not earning currently and don't have any future prospects of earning or finding as rich husband as him; Then Ask him to deposit 1L per month in your+father's joint account till he wants you to maintain this facade. You will atleast get money while loosing married life and youth. That's what corporate life is doing to many of us as it is....

Divorce him at all cost

Divorce him

Run !!! You have been backstabbed and cheated.

That's literally cheating and destroying someone's entire life by hiding a sensitive thing of sexuality, just because he didn't have the guts to stand against his family for himself. Leave ASAP.

Staying until his mother is alive is selfishness, he using u for his family's sake. Please divorce him. He might have helped your family financially but what he has done to you is unforgivable. Maybe you can stay until his sister gets married

He is "not" a nice person. He clearly manipulated you. He has basically spoiled your life for his own good. He is coward and a manipulator. There is nothing nice about this. He stood by you when your mother was ill because he was going to use that in future & he already did by asking you to stay in this loveless marriage. What are you? A sacrificial lamb for a man who can not face his own family. Leave this man ASAP, the more you stay in this marriage the deeper you will be trapped. Their is nothing for you in this marriage.Society ka mat socho, jab tak Yeh Baat realize karogi tab tak bahut kuch barbaad kar chuki hogi,tum apna. Parents ko batao and file for annulment of marriage

What do you want? Do you want to have a family or not? If yes, u need to plan ur exit. It's understandable his mother has cancer and everything is nice, but he invited all these troubles by hiding and lying after lying from his very own family.