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Lust After Loss: Am I Responsible for Her Marital Crisis?

Need suggestion! Male 30.unmarried.Its all started during my Father's demise. Most of the family members from both of my parents were united during that hard day.Mathini (murai ponnu)36f comforted me when i cried a lot after done my father's last rites during night and taking care of me and i slept on her lap. (That's the triggering spark). She is married (eloped)at 18 having 1 teen girl and 10 y boy.she is most beautiful in our family. We were talking like vaa poo with no honor words.But after our family unite, i initiate chats with her calling d, darling, and some affectionately convo.she stayed with us for all my Dad's rituals for 1 month .At first when i ask what u wear, surprisingly she replied all her wearings with colour. Later it turned into sexting. Another day she voluntarily came and slept near. I couldn't control myself. She rested her head on my arms.i kissed her cheeks and cuddling. But she didn't resist and slept like nothing happening. Other than intimate nothing else went wrong.Again i initiated her Liplock in some another day in noon she didn't react. I took advantage and I did for nearly 2mints and she stopped when i asked for intercourse. I don't know about her family situation. She suddenly left her house and fight with her husband family then stay with her sister house that she has no desire to live with her husband anymore because he is incapable to earn and her father in law is supporting financially for more than 6-7 years and he is verbally abusing her daily. Yes the reason for her sudden decision to quit marriage life is true.now she is taking independent rental house and living with her children. I told my friend (girl)everything that had happened— now my friend is accusing me that I was one of the reasons she is living alone now. That plunged me into a state of severe depression.You are also one of the reasons why she has suddenly developed such strong self-respect—to the point where she says she doesn't want a husband anymore and wants a divorce—after all these years. We (both) also clarified and discussed about,its just an infactuation and matter of lust . Her sister strongly blamed me for her situation right now. None of our family knew about what happened between us except her sister.(someknow she found) DearFriends, please tell me if I am also a reason for this? If so, I will try my best to bring them back together, no matter what it takes. Please, tell me a solution for this. Her sister strongly blamed me for her situation right now.