M32 IT CTC 26lpa I recently got engaged to my gf of 1 year. We met through arranged marriage kind of set up. I told her about my past and she too shared everything about hers. We both were okay and then our dating started. Few days back I got an anonymous text message, the person asked me to check her phone randomly and check for dating apps. I did, she was literally fighting when I tried to take her phone, she threw away her glasses, was creating a scene in public, very embarrassing. But I did find a couple of dating apps and in all of them she was active and texted then literally minutes before meeting me that day. We had a huge fight, I threatened her that I’ll tell her family all about her. She then agreed to show me all the “harmless texts” she had sent on the apps, and that her friends were just having some fun, not meeting or doing anything nasty. When I saw the apps it was clear she had deleted most of the matches and only kept the ones where there was a single hi/ hello was shared. I checked her phone a bit thoroughly, she had cleaned it in a very good way. She had even deleted all her google maps history. I checked her upi payment history, she had made payments ranging from 500-2000 at morning at hotels. She told me all were breakfast bills, but these were hotels and not really restaurants. It was clear that even though these were not room payments but these were food bills payment that are done while check out. I am sure she goes to hotels with guys and she makes the food payments while check out, all the timings are 6am-8 am. Should I trust her and give her benefit of doubt? Give her a chance to explain herself? Or am I making too much of a deal because she insights that I am reading too much into things and making up things in my head.
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Run before you are in a drum !
Read your confession again and you will get your answer, but didn't understand why you have mentioned your CTC here.
Just trust her bro. She went to those hotels for breakfasts. She is clean I believe.
Trust your instincts. See the 🚩. Leave.
Run as fast as you can do Biggest red flag
Stay away, once trust is broken you cannot live peacefully. If she is having dating apps on the phone once marriage is fixed..she is clearly a red flag. Break this relationship and leave peacefully, you deserve better bro
Trust her bro , she was just donating money in hotels nothing wrong in it
Start Collecting proofs and then consult a lawyer
decide u want ride a new vehicle or 4th or 5th or 10th hand no one knows how many hands it was changed to kind of vehicle
She likes sleeping around. And as the feminists say that is her choice. If you are fine with being cheated upon, then give her a second chance. But if you prefer a parter that is monogamous, then move on. Telling her family is not much use. They are unlikely to believe you and that kind of escalation does not benefit anyone. Just break off and move on.
Run brother run
Check further and see if any bills exists on lunch and dinner as well
Any random guy doesn't message and warn you until and unless you are his friend,brother or he is connected with your fiancee in any possible way.If she is genuine,no need of deleting phone history. Just think once again.
Yes you do please refrain from spoiling someone's life as well as yours. If a relationship doesnt make you trust it will be a hell for both
Run bro Run
Benefit of the doubt in choosing your significant other HELL NO
bruh got saved on time but still asking if he shld leave !!
Making mistakes without proof.... Somehow everyone will get caught sure they will miss some loop wholes... So better .... Venam thambi odiru.... In future she will legalise her mistakes ... It will be a night mare
Shadi kar lo fir tum bhi breakfast karne hotel jana uske sath🤣🤣🤣 sab clear ho jaega madam ka business
Bro I thought my ex was bad! Iske aagey toh woh sati hain! 😂😂
मत परख रिश्ते को, परखने से कोई अपना नहीं रहता
Oh god..Is there more scope of Stupidity?..Sab kuch clear hai fir bhi bhai ko doubt hai... Current Situations dekhkar bhi inlogo ko Victim banna hai..Life se nahi pyaar hain toh please go ahead & Marry..All the Best
Bai yeh 26lpa wali job kha milti hai muje 10-12 lpa wali dilado🤣baki ur gf is not wyf material source trust me bro
If you feel like giving her a chance to explain, do that.. but it would be wise to delay the marriage for a couple of months. Do not rush into marriage for now.
I hope u don't fall into her tunnel during first night... I mean, if at all, u still decide to listen to ur horny 🍆 n marry her...
Keep all the records. Hire a detective and gather all the proofs. Then show it to her family and breakup.
Break up and don't look back.
Its time to run bro Wanna take advice Just leave her Or elsc some day some one will text you and tell you about a mole on her ass and no wonder wat all things 😂
Pune wali kahani itni jaldi bhul gaya
As someone said run before u are in a drum, I would add- or planning to celebrate her birthday that turns out to be your death anniversary. This is a TOTAL TOTAL BLOOD RED FLAG.
LEAVE, ASAP or AFTER WEDDING she will leave with alimony and 18lac of ur salary.
She is providing escort services to people. Dating apps + 6 am-8 am check out timings Check out timing is generally after 9 am. The escorts who provides night services to their clients checks out before that. That’s why her checkout is 6am-8am . + dating app history confirms that she is providing s£x services to people 😂 High end escorts provide services to clients staying in Hotel rooms. That’s why she only paid for the food, not hotel rooms.
500 to 2k breakfast bills
Trust…..! What is that!
Katega bhai baad me... Sb pr bharosha karna lekin roti Hui ladki par kabhi mt krna
Run
If after becoming sherlock holmes you still have doubts on your own investigation and you looking for answers or validation on social media then Please stop becoming Sherlock holmes 😂 and get psychiatric consult
Runnnnnnnnnnn never even look back
I will enjoy with Bad guys but marry a good guy type. If her past doesn't matter and if you have confidence and trust even after knowing her. Go for it.
Do you have any choice of Forts?Then let her know.
Leave her bro, right now she is finding a stable partner like u 😂
Question isnow will she trust u now on
Bhai tujhe answer pta hai..
Bro bus kisi pahard par mat jana
Trust only builds a relationship strong. Nd with you the first step itself is Doubt 🤨...so it's going to be a tough journey over the days nd years. Better you move out of the relationship now itself.
If you don't run now, next time she will ask you to pay her hotel bills (with someone's enjoyment)
hire a good detective! this is red flag
You know how to block her on all apps!
please trust her brother
She is as clean as a blackboard
She is pure virgin. You have got a dream girl. Go for her. But buy a big blue drum for yourself. Just in case
Take a double bed room flat, one bed room for you and other bed room 😆😆
Choose the correct option A) Blue drum 🛢️ B) mountains C) Fridge D) New option
Na Kar Lala na Kar
Bach gaya tu
She is an escort service lady. Mat kar lala warna life kharab ho jayegi
Red flags galore 🚩
Bhaag Milka Bhaag
Don't ever trust RUN FOR YOUR LIFE ELSE BLUE DRUM OR FORT AWAITS YOU
Test drive that used ol cnt n leave ...
Is your wife from Kolkata, or is she one of those Bengali baddies? 🤣🤣 If so, then yeah, that's pretty normal.
U r an IT guy now dont be an IDIOT GUY
Red flag bro... Escape
Trust your gut feeling, it is matter of whole life. Better do a background check before marraige, gather all proofs and then proceed for seperation, if you find her unfaithful
Just trust her bro. She went to those hotels for breakfasts. She is clean I believe.(2)
and why does she pay in hotels? The one who accompanies her should pay right?
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Pagal wagal hain kya tu? Give her a chance after everything you saw? Bhai kulhadi maarna hain kya khudke paido pe? You ain't overthinking, you are trying to trivialise the issue. Run for your life dude, ajkal k scene toh pata hoga.
Run, bro!
LEAVE while you can
Run
Why she is paying for every breakfast? That too 500-2000? Itne ka breakfast roz? I guess you should know the answer before asking to others.
Leave
Just leave her ASAP
Leave please.
LEAVE!!
Leave asap
Red flag bro
Nope, please break up
let go
Run run run
Leave her bro 😂😂😂😂
leave asap
Couple of years down the line after having kids, you will still find her in someone else’s house or in close proximity with male colleagues and what not. Take this as a signal and walk away gracefully. There are lot of red flags. To begin with : 1. After getting engaged, why have dating apps on phone 2. Why clean the phone 3. If someone is texting and it is true / chances are you may find more dirt shall you dig deeper 4. Moreover, girl doesn’t seem honest, committed and serious about marriage Kindly walk away after reasoning out with family. Best wishes buddy / better to end things now than be sorry later. Nowadays with false cases, alimony and murder situations better to be careful as well.
Break up. Loyalty is everything.
Runn...
Run away. She is for the streets.
She is a whore and you'll probably still get married to her. Coz u wouldn't be posting her and looking for opinions. A real man would have dumped her long ago.
You're a fool.. nothing else ☺️
You need to break up ASAP and just tell her family about her behaviour then it's going to be easier rather than being with her. You can either be a free soul or choose a life you want with a messy divorce and a cheating psychopath for life.
Why do u want to marry a cheater? Leave her
Instead of salary package you should have mentioned your location we would have guessed how are are going to die .
Dude has all the evidence of a literal whore, and is still asking the internet "should I give her another chance" lmao 😂 Simps like you are asking to be deleted by these hoes
Congrats u married a whore
lol u foool ah was leaving the hotel after the night stay u r keeping ur dick in a pit
Red flag bro leave her