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M29, want to share a real life incident as this might help unmarried guys to be cautious during arranged marriage process. My parents started looking for a bride from last year. And we got a match with a girl from south who also comes under distant relatives. So parents made arrangements to see both in a common function. I went there with zero expectations with all worst case scenarios prepared. But that girl instantly said OK to me. I was surprised even then I confirmed it again. From the from first she acted she was really attracted towards me. And later we came back to city and other process were planned. Meanwhile we spoke Abt eachother thru phone and occasional dates. I confessed Abt my past of having some crushes but nothing went to full-fledged. But that time also she didn't said anything Abt her past. After some days went she rushed with fear and said she had a past love but it was past. I said its ok if it remained as past. Then we moved on to engagement works. But slowly she started to reduce the contact times, information sharing by stating that she was busy with office works and i believed that too. Two days before engagement date, my family started from city to south. When we almost reached the south Town, we got a phone call that the girl got possed with ghostic behaviour and saying she is not interested to marry me and she was interested in marrying her "paternal Aunt son". My family members got scared after hearing this bcoz her paternal Aunt family is already known for these ghostic activities in that town. So we returned back without a word against the family and also we feared all the laws are in support of women in this country. Even if we did anything against there will means it will result in arrest so left the town to city. This whole process costed a heavy financial losses to my family and huge respect loss. But then we got to know that recently that she has left her Paternal aunt son also stating that she had a physical relationship with someone for 6+ yrs from her clg times. After hearing this that family just dropped her in her house. And now I saw a random post that this girl has married her old boyfriend with whom he had a long term physical relationship. And they are settled in foreign country(ASEAN). Now why I am concerned was I was more feeling sorry for her current husband bcoz she was ready to do anything with me even involved in physical contact during that short time period. And to escape from me and arrange marriage setup she used her paternal Aunt son life and gave him a huge name damage. And how this girl can be trustable as a wife to any men. And i really feel sorry for her current husband. And moreover than me and my family's name damage, a huge name damage was incurred to her paternal Aunt family who got a name of possesing a girl with a ghostic thing without knowing the actual things in her mind. I really feel sorry for that boy. She has used three men's life in span of three months just to succeed what she want to have it in her life. And all laws are in favour of women in this country. This laws are given to ensure the safety of women in this country but some like this are misusing this. Can a man file a case against this kind of women and mental agony caused by her? And for me due to that one bad decision I took on accepting her made me around a year to recover mentally. And i just want to make all my fellow bachelor boys "Please be cautious with this kind of girls" and it's nothing wrong to do extended bgv in this GenZ era. And for Girls out there if you love someone "Please tell your parents well before they start arrange marriage process" bcoz this will damage another men's life. For you just you came out of clg or freshers but men who were into arrange marriage process are already in middle of ocean who were already in plans to settle his life. Your one stupid decision makes his life also sink.