Gender: MaleSubmitted on 21 June 2026 at 9:42 pm
I'm a 44-year-old man, and my wife is 39. The last 3-4 years have been extremely difficult for us financially. We had very little support from friends or family on either side. I've always been the primary earner, but my wife also started working about three years ago. Her income is roughly a quarter of mine. During this period, I was laid off from two companies and remained unemployed for almost 2.5 years. I recently found a job, but it's in another state, so we're currently living apart due to work commitments. Here's where I need genuine advice. My wife has a much higher s*x drive than I do. We have always had a healthy and active intimate life whenever we're together, and she's very open with me about her needs when we're apart. I trust her completely and have absolutely no doubts about her loyalty. I suggested that she could consider self-pleasure or even using toys to cope with the long periods of separation, but she's firmly against the idea. She says she wasn't brought up "that way" and feels uncomfortable with it. I don't want to pressure her into anything. I simply want her to understand that self-pleasure is quite common and that there's nothing shameful or wrong about it. How do I approach this conversation sensitively? I'd especially appreciate hearing from couples in long-distance marriages or women who may have been in a similar situation.
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Anonymous27 June 2026 at 4:01 pm
As you mentioned that you are earning 3x times more than your wife so I don't think she should continue working and she can simply move out to your city where you are currently living and giving this idea to your wife is truly not ideal and it's temporary and not gonna do anything for your wife. She needs you all the time so just be with your wife and kids. Wishing you nothing but the very best in your life. I hope you have a happiest married life ahead filled with lots of joy and happiness.
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Anonymous27 June 2026 at 10:18 pm
Wrong suggestions from you regarding your 4th paragraph, when you have lost interest in her and when she is not used and brought up in that way. There is nothing wrong about her expectations from you as a husband, but you trying to escape from her is not fair. Wherever you go and whatever you do, stay together as a family in thick and thin. Long distance relationship or marriages does not survive longer!!
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Anonymous28 June 2026 at 7:33 am
Don't worry she will find someone. You decide what to do. Job or wife.
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Anonymous27 June 2026 at 5:05 pm
Get her to a medic and a counsellor so that you can make her understand different thrills of doing things together virtually or introduce her to a different world of self pleasure.It's important that you have some communication everyday and be with her emotionally.
Anonymous27 June 2026 at 4:08 pm
At 44 you should be worrying about ur retirement man
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Anonymous27 June 2026 at 4:16 pm
All these girls with high six drive I see online only š
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Anonymous27 June 2026 at 8:19 pm
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Anonymous27 June 2026 at 6:59 pm
I think putting her on religious things would divert her ..rest I don't think any think can work..body heat cannot be controlled easy ..yes if women is shy it may work ..but she is full open u said ..š
Anonymous28 June 2026 at 5:02 pm
Imagine the stupidity , living in 2 cities , giving rent at 2 places but not earning much š
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