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It's a hard time for you, ye samjh aa raha hai. Akele deal mat kariye, ya to kisi frind ko apni baat bataiye, aur khud bhi apni baat ko suniye,. Bina judge kiye. Sath hi kayi tarah ki therapy hai, NLP , eft ,ya shadow work ,inme se koi ek modality jo aap ko acha lage aur samjh aaye unko use kar ke self aware hote hue aage badhiye. Filhaal kisi relationship me jaane se bachiye, aur kewal khud ko samay dijiye. Aksar hum dusro ke liye hi sab kuch karte hai, aur khud ko dhyaan nhi dete. But truth thoda alag hota hai, pehle khud pe dhayan de diye, itna saksham ban gaye ki kuch bhi handle kiya jaa sakta hai, fir usme se kuch dusro k liye bhi kiye, tb wo efforts humesha sucessful rahega.

Follow your hobbies, do not look for any connections for few time , deep dive into you and learn what you actually are. Read, travel, work hard, learn new things and make yourself happy.

Two failed marriages do not mean you failed. Sometimes they mean you had the courage to leave situations that were unhealthy and unsustainable. Focus on rebuilding yourself before rebuilding another relationship. Reconnect with family, friends, hobbies, and goals that make you feel like yourself again. Therapy, a supportive community, and creating a stable routine can help more than changing cities alone. Your 30s are not too late to start over. Many people find their happiest and healthiest chapter after leaving the wrong relationships behind. Be patient with yourself, heal properly, and don't let stigma define your future.

Be strong, wait for a perfect one Before getting married, share ur problems, share ur wishes too , don't be in a hurry

I have experienced same situations

Focus on your work, have some good activities, and try to date many. You will rock.

Zinda ho haat pair salamat hai toh sab thik hai...go back n restart ur career...u might get someone in dis journey called life...nothing to b sad about get busy as a 🐝 bee

Keep yourself busy...give some time for yourself, do yoga and try to get some inner peace... don't rush for any commitments when you get a new guy and don't trust anyone especially at this moment...try to learn new skills like sports, technical or anything you're interested in and travel to Hyderabad if you haven't been here 😎

• How did you rebuild your life and confidence? Shift focus to you .... Health ,wealth, happiness & family • How did you deal with feelings of failure, stigma, or loneliness? Acceptance ...Accept it , wherever u fcked up being blind or over giving or to naive ... accept it ..do not commit the same mistakes , like remarrying .... be shrewd as u can be .. do not take or give free lunches .. always look for wats in it for you in every possible ways .... • Did changing cities or environments help? It can .. bt changing citiies doesnt mean you fall for other guys and look for marriage , fnt fall for the societal trap and pressure of marriags , every man will call out your past and hold you responsible , they will only make sure u suffer more , give a chance bt hold the rope .. • What practical steps helped you heal and move forward? There is nothing as healing .... if you give oxygen to fire it will burn, cut out the oxygen , since u have already gone thru a lot ... what worst can happen more ... do not please others ... • What advice would you give someone starting over at this stage of life? Itss You and only you who holds the power that lets other destruct You.

How do you filter and rightly choose wrong number as your life partner

Take trauma counselling .. trauma counselor should be good who has experience in Neuropathy

1. You need to heal urself completely before even THINKING of seeing anyone new. 2. You need proper counselling. That is a deep readin that I won't be mentioning in public as often times people can read into female posters vulnerabilities and try to target/honeytrap them. Feel free to DM. ATB

• How did you rebuild your life and confidence? I lost my belief in the institution of marriage but never lost confidence in myself. I immersed myself in work, fitness and taking care of my aging parents. Work kept me sane • How did you deal with feelings of failure, stigma, or loneliness? Failure: Initially it was tough. But then, i surrendered to the Almighty's will. HE gave me more than most in all other spheres of life so if HE chose not to give me a life partner, i surrendered to HIS will. Stigma: i had to develop a thicker skin and ignore all the gossip behind my back. I still deal with it every single time I am 'seen' with a lady even if she is a work acquaintance or a colleague or a friend. Loneliness: is unavoidable. It is my shadow, permanently present...not always visible but always present. • Did changing cities or environments help? No, it did not and I did change my city, my place of work. But it is all 'within' the outside doesn't help. • What practical steps helped you heal and move forward? Not sure if I will ever heal completely. Moving forward in life isn't optional....it will happen whether we like it or not. But moving on in terms of a 'love relationship' is complicated....I have still not found the one and I am 50 now. • What advice would you give someone starting over at this stage of life? Life cannot be planned, it can only be lived, one step at a time. Just go with the flow. Whatever is meant for you will find you inevitably. About me: Marriage failed twice. Second time, I was 35. Still single.

I suggest you to please visit a mental trauma councellor and move on, we cannot change the past, better to make peace with present.

I feel sorry for you Go to therapy and heal fully. Also reevaluate what went wrong and see where you can make changes if necessary. Lowering expectations or giving to the relationship as needed or etc

Same situation. Let's connect.

My best wishes

Dont be so disappoint or discourage Zindagi har khadam ek nayi Jung hai. Allah aap ki zindagi me aasani paida kare You can start again newlife 🤘

My childhood was hard it takes a lot but don't be shattered Feel free to dm

It is a very hell situation mentally. But if you want to live a joyful life you have to choose spiritual awakening only that thing has the power to heal any wound. Marrige is a part of life but not everything.

You’ve shown incredible strength surviving two hard marriages — that’s not failure, that’s resilience. Give yourself grace, lean on people who truly value you, and trust that you can rebuild a life that’s actually yours.

No one's life is completely perfect everyone experiences ups and downs. With mutual understanding and compromise, people can move forward. If you decide to remarry, I would suggest considering someone slightly older, as they are often more likely to have greater patience, maturity, and understanding

ஒரு பெரிய கோடு பக்கத்துல அதை விட பெரிய கோடு வரைஞ்சா, ஏற்கனவே இருந்த பெரிய கோடு சிறுசா ஆகிடும் சொல்வாங்க. உங்கள் கவலை, துன்பம் எல்லாவற்றிற்கும் ஒரே மருந்து உங்கள் மனதிற்கு பிடித்ததை நேசிக்க தொடங்குங்கள், உங்கள் மனம் விரும்புவதை செய்ய ஆரம்பியுங்கள். பிடித்த உடை உடுத்துங்கள். உன் மனதில் இருக்கும் ஏற்கனவே திருமணம் ஆன பெண் என் சங்கிலியை உடைத்து இளமையான, மகிழ்ச்சியான, பசுமையான மனதோடு எல்லாவற்றையும் பாருங்கள். உலகம் பெரியது, நாம் அதில் சிறு கடுகளவு. அடுத்தவர் பார்வை, அடுத்தவர் எண்ணம், மற்றவர்கள் பற்றி யோசிக்காமல், உங்கள் மனம் சொல்வதை நேசித்து வாழ்கையை நகர்த்துங்கள். இனிமையான வாழ்க்கைக்கு வாழ்த்துக்கள்.

Marry third person

We gave up arrogance says a someone on reddit

first Clam your mind go for the vacation there with good environment after the you just focused on your career wait for some time to get in any relationship

Better die in peace ✌️