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M, 33 I am a reasonably good-looking man with an athletic build, although over the last 4 years of working from home, I have gained some belly fat due to a mostly inactive lifestyle. I got married about 3 years ago through an arranged marriage setup. Before tying the knot, I had an active dating life and was in 7 relationships. My first girlfriend was reasonably attractive, though not exceptionally beautiful, while the other 6 were strikingly gorgeous. I had passionate physical relationships with all of them, and intimacy was never an issue in those relationships. My stamina has always been quite good, and a typical intimate session for me would comfortably last quite long. Coming to my wife, she is dusky and looks okayish, though she is genuinely kind-hearted and caring. She had two relationships before marriage and had been physically involved with one of them, which I learned after our wedding. I chose to marry her because my instincts told me her kind nature would make for a peaceful home, which was a major priority for my parents. Over time, I genuinely started loving her and cared for her. We both work in the IT industry and are financially stable. I have always tried to be a supportive husband, ensuring she feels valued and happy in the marriage. We travel frequently, both within India and internationally, and are generally seen as a happy couple. I enjoy buying gifts for her, and she has never objected when I spend heavily on myself either. However, our physical relationship has always been a concern for me. I rarely feel strong physical attraction towards her, and our intimacy has been very limited since marriage. I often struggle with arousal and sometimes fail to maintain an erection, which eventually made me believe I might have a medical or s*xual problem. Last month, while my wife was away for 3 days on an office trip, my anxiety pushed me to make a regrettable decision. I hired a young and beautiful escort for a night purely to figure out whether I truly had a s*xual problem. Despite the guilt, the experience gave me clarity. I had no difficulty with arousal, stamina, or performance, which made me realise the issue was not physical. Now I feel deeply conflicted. Our parents have started pressuring us a little to plan for a child, but I still do not feel genuine physical desire towards my wife. What troubles me even more is the drastic difference in my s*xual life before and after marriage. I am unsure how to deal with this situation and would sincerely appreciate some advice on what I should do next.