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I filed for divorce and lost my home, father, and kids

Story forward of confession #C24124 Thank you all for sharing valuable advises. I had filed for divorce on ground of cruelty basis and in court 2 dates have been passed. Nothing is happening in court at the moment. Meanwhile she has filed police complaints couple of times of dowry harassment, domestic violence, physical assault etc. Since these things never happened and she had filed fake complaints, she withdrawn all complaints in police station. Things went so bad that wife and father takes kids with them to police station and tells kids that your father has taken us to police station. However in these 8 months I have lost everything in process. She had convinced my father that I shall not give anything to my children post divorce and got properties willed on my kids names for which I am paying home loan EMI. She convinced him that I am the one who wants divorce only and she wants to stay in this marriage. My father has broke all relations with me and my mother and kicked me and mother out of my house for which I am paying EMI. Both properties are registered on father's name as per his request but now I am out of my own house just because I have filed for divorce. He says to let me and mother inside house only if I withdraw my divorce case. Even he threatened to do sui**cide if I stop paying EMI which is currently more than 42% of my current income. I am also paying rent and taking care of kids school/tuition/medical/lifestyle expenses. I am in debt in just 4 months after applying for divorce in all these process. All of above mentioned points are recorded in CCTV or Call/Audio recordings. Wife is not agreed to go for mutual divorce. I have call recordings of her father and my father talking nonsense of my mother that she does not let me withdraw case which is not right, she is the only one person in this world supporting me currently in all this mess. In call recordings both fathers are discussing about transferring properties in name of minor kids which is not possible, to make will on name of minor kids, not allow me to touch any of the household items, to keep hiding keys of vehicle which is on my name, directly to give rental income and pension amount to my wife so she can support kids and father, advising father also to file case against me for his maintenance in senior citizen organisation. They say to my father that if he does not do all these things I will not back out and may not withdraw divorce case which my father blindly does. He is even talking on call with in-laws to accept give wrong statement in police station and court so I get feared and withdraw case. And whole system doesn't hear men's voice. In all this process I had to leave mother to relative's house for a week and I was left with no residence for a week. I was allowed to stay/sleep in office meanwhile I arranged my accomodation and brought mother back. Now in this whole process, connection between three generations have been over. Father has broken relation with me while kids do not talk like they did before. They run away from me. She still has the audacity to tell my friends to pay her alimony of 1.5 cr which is total networth of our properties if I want divorce. In police station also no one listens men, instead officer multiple times threatens to arrest me even though I have not done anything wrong in life. Wife and father will not allow me or mother to get into house, will keep keys hidden of vehicle. Like I have lost father, kids, properties, vehicle, mental health. Got into financial debt in whole process of legal litigations, finding accommodation, buying basic household items and still have to support family. Paying EMI for a property which is neither registered on my name nor I am allowed to stay. Paying education and medical health related costs, all these costs with EMI already occupying more than 66% and still wife and father are filing separate maintenance cases against me so I withdraw this divorce case. So I would advise to think at least 10 times to any men reading this before filing for divorce case. Orthodox parents don't look at their own son in this process and you may loose all things in a day which you earned throughout the lifetime. Orthodox father will not at all accept divorce case in this society even at the cost of losing his own son and wife. If you have to file for divorce transfer property only on name of mother as she will be the only person in this world who will support you whole heartedly and will think of you before so called society.