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I am rejecting marriage proposals for a friend who is distancing himself

F27, unmarried. A few months ago, I met a guy on Instagram who is the same age as me. We became really good friends. Later, I started developing feelings for him, but I never expressed them because I knew he only saw me as a friend. So I kept my feelings to myself. Both of us work in good, reputed companies. I genuinely want to do so much for him and take good care of him. But I don't know what happened or whether it was just my bad time—suddenly, he started distancing himself from me. No matter how many times I asked him, he just says that he doesn't feel like talking the way we used to. He wants to maintain certain limits and boundaries. Even when I'm very expressive with him, his reaction is usually just normal. I haven't really seen much effort or excitement from his side either. Our communication is also very confusing. Sometimes we talk extremely well, like everything is perfectly normal, and at other times it's completely the opposite. Unfortunately, at the same time, my family has started looking for marriage alliances for me. We are a well-settled family, but I don't know why—I have absolutely zero interest in any of those proposals. My entire focus is on this person. I've asked him so many times if we could meet, but he says he won't come. Keeping all these feelings inside without expressing them is becoming very difficult for me. At the same time, I feel like he wouldn't accept my feelings even if I told him. He is also going through some financial stress, but that doesn't matter to me. I know I can take good care of him and support him. But I really don't know what to do. He doesn't talk to me the way he used to anymore. My feelings for him are increasing day by day, and I'm finding it very difficult to handle. At the very least, I want him to stay in my life as a friend, but he keeps distancing himself without clearly telling me why. I don't want to marry the guys my family is suggesting, but I also can't imagine losing this person. What should I do now? 🥺