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If there is anything at all between your husband and his colleague , firing her won't help also because it may continue outside work too and you can't stop. Rather having an open and transparent dialogue with your husband and sharing your perspective and insecurity could help you make an informed decision.

You’re not wrong for feeling uncomfortable, but focusing on getting her fired may only create more problems. The real issue is trust and boundaries with your husband. Have a calm, honest conversation with him and set clear boundaries together. If he respects your concerns, the situation can improve without destroying someone’s career.

Investigate before you make any claims or have doubts so that you can verify if it's true that your husband is having an affair or its something related to work.

I understand why this situation is emotionally disturbing, but I think it is important to separate discomfort, suspicion and evidence. The employee spending considerable time in the CEO’s cabin may look inappropriate, especially from a spouse’s perspective, but it doesn't automatically establish that there is an affair or that she has improper intentions. Colleagues' opinions and workplace gossip are also not necessarily reliable evidence. At the same time, her husband cannot simply be removed from accountability. The primary responsibility for maintaining appropriate boundaries in a marriage lies with the spouse, not with the third person. If he is encouraging unnecessary closeness, hiding conversations, giving her preferential treatment or crossing boundaries, firing her won't solve the underlying problem. Another person could eventually occupy the same space. Wanting her gone may provide temporary emotional relief, but peace built by controlling another person's employment is unlikely to last. A better starting point would be an honest conversation with the husband, What exactly is their relationship? Why does she spend so much time with him? Are there legitimate work reasons? What boundaries does he think are appropriate? And, most importantly, is he willing to establish boundaries that make his wife feel respected and secure? She doesn't have to befriend the employee or pretend to be comfortable with her. But neither should she accuse or punish someone without evidence. She can acknowledge her feelings without turning those feelings into conclusions. Ultimately, if the husband is trustworthy and maintains clear professional boundaries, the employee's presence becomes much less significant. If he isn't, then the real problem is inside the marriage, not in the employee's cabin visits.

For easy promotion. Many times you’ll have colleagues who’ll do nothing but still get promotion etc cuz of buttering and stuff and she’s doing the same and use the most powerful tool she has - her sexuality

Instead of doubting her intention why not talk to your husband u will know the status and feeling of ur husband towards u. Don't ficus on other person but towards immediate person also nobody can give perfect solution. U have to sort yourself. Just two people close not mean always that only .

Your feelings are 100% valid. Anyone in your position would feel uncomfortable. But as you said, firing her won't solve the root. If a CEO allows an employee to spend hours in his cabin daily, that's a boundary issue he needs to fix. You are financially stable, so talk to him as an equal partner. Tell him how this looks to other colleagues and how it makes you feel. A good husband will set professional boundaries himself without you having to ask for someone's job. Stay strong.