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*"पुरूष समुद्र से भी गहरा प्रेम कर सकता है, यदि स्त्री उसमें पूरी तरह से डूब जाए"* 🌊❤️ #ओशोप्रेमनमन महेंदर जी, ओशो के नाम पर आपने बहुत सुंदर बात लिखी है। तस्वीर में समुद्र और ये शब्द एक साथ मिलकर प्रेम की गहराई दिखा रहे हैं। ### *ओशो के इस कथन का एक पहलू:* आपने बहुत अच्छे से समझाया - जब दोनों तरफ से समर्पण हो, जब अहंकार हट जाए और प्रेम में "मैं" की जगह "हम" आ जाए, तो प्रेम सच में अनंत हो जाता है। "डूब जाना" मतलब विश्वास, अपनापन, और एक दूसरे के लिए खुल जाना। ### *पर ओशो का असली संदेश थोड़ा और गहरा है:* ओशो अक्सर कहते थे कि *सच्चा प्रेम बंधन नहीं, आज़ादी है।* "डूबना" का मतलब खुद को मिटा देना नहीं। ओशो का प्रेम = *"मैं पूरा हूँ, तुम पूरे हो, और फिर भी हम एक दूसरे में खिलते हैं।"* न स्त्री को अपनी स्वतंत्रता खोनी है, न पुरुष को। जब दो पूरे लोग मिलते हैं बिना एक दूसरे पर निर्भर हुए, तभी प्रेम समुद्र जैसा गहरा होता है। ### *सार एक लाइन में:* *प्रेम में डूबो, पर खुद को मत डुबोओ।* समर्पण हो, पर गुलामी नहीं। आसक्ति नहीं, स्वतंत्रता के साथ साथ हो। ### *तस्वीर का भाव:* समुद्र के किनारे खड़ी आप, पीछे लहरें। जैसे प्रेम भी ऐसा ही है - शांत भी और गहरा भी। "OSHO" लिखा दिल भी यही कह रहा है - प्रेम दिल से होना चाहिए। बहुत खूबसूरत विचार साझा किया आपने। आपको क्या लगता है, आज के समय में प्रेम में "समर्पण" और "स्वतंत्रता" के बीच बैलेंस रखना सबसे मुश्किल क्यों है? आप सभी दोस्तों का भी ख्याल रखिएगा 🙏

Reverse the genders. If your parents live with you, that is okay. But if the girl's parents live with you both, then problem 😀

Married in Nov 2024 means just 8-9 months. First year me in-laws ka aana jana thoda zyada hota hi hai. Solution: Ek joint budget banao aur usme guest expenses ka limit fix karo. Aur wife se pyaar se bolo ki 1-2 week ka visit theek hai, months tak rehna both of you ke privacy aur budget ke liye heavy hai. Boundaries are normal, disrespect nahi hai. Talk as partners, not opponents.

If it is her money, leave her..if it is yours, just tell in front of them only

The issue isn’t the in-laws visiting; it’s the lack of agreed boundaries and budgeting. Sit with your wife calmly, set a monthly family budget, and agree on a reasonable limit for visits. Don’t make it “your family vs mine”—make it “our home, our budget, our decision.”

Now Indian men know how it feels 😂

The issue here isn't that the wife's parents are visiting, it's the frequency, duration, and financial impact of those visits. Parents and relatives visiting their married daughter is perfectly normal, but repeatedly staying for months and spending beyond what the couple can comfortably afford is a legitimate concern. At the same time, the solution isn't to “get rid of” the in laws. The husband and wife need to have a private, non accusatory conversation about their finances and agree on a realistic monthly budget, including how much can be spent on guests and family support. Both partners should have some discretionary money of their own, while major expenses should be mutually agreed upon. The wife also shouldn't dismiss her husband's concerns simply because they involve her family, and the husband shouldn't frame her parents as a burden simply because they visit. Marriage requires balancing both families with the couple's own financial stability and boundaries. If they cannot discuss money and boundaries without getting defensive, that's the real problem that needs to be addressed, not the in laws themselves.

If she's spending her own money, who are you to say -I can't see any man saying it in this comment section. If the role was reversed, the same people would have been here commenting - his money, his wish. So you too understand this thing- let her spend as she likes if she's earning and if your house is small to accommodate them, tell her to shift them to nearby hotel or lodge

If she is also earning, and spending her money, you can't say anything. She is an engineer becoz of her parents, so she should spend on them. If parents are visiting, they will visit becoz she is their daughter, if your parents will visit what you will say? For other relatives you can talk with her calmly, but think if your relatives will visit them she will also say something, so be ready for it also.

U should hv thought abt that before marrying either earn enough or don't marry

As per our courts you can’t say anything to wife.. it’s her choice what she wanted to do.. 😢😢😢

U also get wfh and visit kolkata often

Problem is not her relatives but herself

Kutta paal lo

Get cockroaches 🪳 into your house

Is she working or it is u only?

Who is paying for rent/EMI, utility bills, grocery, maids, outings? Are you and wife doing 50-50 in finances? If yes, how frequently your parents & relatives visit & stay? If it's same as hers, then that should be ok. Atleast her parents might be helping with chores, kids (if any). Yours might be sitting on sofa watching TV and ordering, judging her.

The issue is not new and many people face it.Try accommodating for few months, life is not based on budget. If not in-laws,something else might come up and disturb the budget. Wait for sometime and try setting the boundaries , if this continues for long. Meanwhile try to invite your parents and overspend on them and see her reaction

Court divorce alimony

Let her spend her money.

Divorce 😇

tell her strongly on things and if she continues then u will no longer contribute for house expenses tell them

Well, instead of guiding / expecting her not to spend on her side of family... - She is also earning and contributing? - Agree on a monthly and budget on family visit. (If your budget is 100 cap ot on 75) - Share that you like to use this budget to spend time and experiance with her... Vacation, eat out, gifts etc - Use logic with love and stay calm

Reverse the gender lol that's what Indian married women have to face all the time.

You discuss with her that privacy is disturbed. After some time they will lessen this frequency.

Move from 2bhk to 1 bhk. And with no bed or sofa in hall.

Bring your parents and relatives in the same house and annoy them

Give kolkata flat on rent

U losers can go back to ur hometown.. y do u even migrate to other cities.?..