Comments for Post #C27956

Generational trauma. Break the cycle. I feel for your kid. His helplessness at the hands of 4 adults all at conflict with each other.

1)Move out with your son. Let him have a peaceful atmosphere at home. 2) consult an advocate. And check your options. 3) Gently remind your Mil that the house is also not hers because she also came from elsewhere. I mean what applies to you should apply to her also ( honestly I believe a matrimonial house belongs to all the women). But it's 3 against 1. So, do be careful in how you go about it.

Think about ur son it is affecting his mind call ur elders talk to them if not leave n have a peaceful life

Honestly, your son’s mental and emotional well-being should be the priority right now. If your mother-in-law constantly insults you, criticizes your son’s eating, and the home environment is full of stress, then wanting to live separately is not selfish or unreasonable. You should clearly tell your husband that having a separate home is necessary if the marriage is to remain healthy. However, I would not make a final decision about ending the marriage purely out of anger or frustration. First, try living separately and see whether your husband is willing to stand by you and your child. Most importantly, your son needs reassurance. He should not feel that he is the problem or that he has to behave like an adult to satisfy everyone. My honest opinion: Your request for a separate home is completely reasonable. If your husband continues to refuse and the situation keeps harming you and your son, then it is fair to seriously reconsider the future of the marriage

Contact a lawyer and take it legally Have all proofs like video, audio recordings etc. Don’t spare them. Remember narcissistic abuse keeps increasing with time.

A frog was a pan long enough and had no emergy to leap anymore....

go seperately and teach them a lesson

You have made the correct decision. It's high time you moved out of this toxicity with your son. Both of you deserve a better and more peaceful life.

Why are you still continuing?

Move out.. you are not answerable to any one. Take your son with you. Let mother inlaw’s son do all thde housework chores, cooking & cleaning. Please choose your peace

Run

Your son’s emotional well-being should come first. ❤️ If living separately gives both of you a healthier and more peaceful environment, it’s reasonable to consider it. You’re financially independent, so don’t feel guilty about setting boundaries. Seek legal/family counselling advice before making major decisions, and protect your son from being caught in the conflict. 🌸

go ahead

This situation should be looked at less as a “mother in law problem” and more as a family boundary and child wellbeing issue. If the son is being repeatedly criticised about food, appearance, or his behaviour, that needs to stop because a 10 year old should not be made to feel ashamed of himself at home. At the same time, the husband’s attachment to his mother is not automatically the problem. The real issue is whether he is willing to acknowledge his wife’s concerns, set reasonable boundaries, and create a respectful living arrangement. Living separately from parents does not mean abandoning them, it can sometimes be the healthiest way to preserve relationships. Since she is financially independent and wants to separate, she should have a calm, practical conversation with her husband about living arrangements and boundaries. If he refuses to cooperate, she can consider professional counselling and, if necessary, understand her legal options. Most importantly, she should avoid making the child the emotional mediator between the adults. He needs reassurance that his worth is not determined by his weight, food intake, or anyone’s criticism. The goal should not be to “win” against the mother in law, it should be to create a safe, respectful environment for the child and herself.

Manipulative mother? Case is solved in first line

One word-MOVE

File a divorce and leave him

I woyld suggest tongo to a family counsellor and sort things. Staying away alone not an option. Dont take things to heart give good s*x and bj to husband.

What’s stopping you from living separately? And saving your son from these monsters ?

Move out and stay with your son. Don't let go of your share in the property. Seek legal help for the same.

If you want to live 5 years more then leave that husband and house immediately else your mental health and son health both will be destroyed as you working not dependent on anyone you can live your life peacefully

Everythings brocken here nothings left

Take your son and move out. You can afford it. I don't know why women are still choosing to live with toxic in-laws.

It’s really weird to see people working at educational institution ( supposed to shape others future) are suffering themselves at the age of 40.

Go for a divorce and give ur son n urself a better life!!

Frankly you should develop some guts and get the hell out of that house with your son, only then they will realize your worth and his worth. Which grandparents treat their grandchildren like this??? And what does your husband do sitting at home, he doesn't do any work now after quitting his job? Why the hell did he quit his job?