Gender: MaleSubmitted on 15 August 2026 at 11:38 am
I got laid off for the first time in eleven years
#LayedOff #11YearsExperience #EMI #Unmarried #32M #LoveDoesn'tTurnPositive I am from Chennai , I have 11 years of Experience in IT Industry. My Father and Mother been Supportive at all times, my mother used to come to school every single day morning while dropping, afternoon during lunch and evening after school gets over. Even during college days, Phones were not allowed in College hence my mother used to come Bus Stop and she reach to Bus Stop before I reach to make sure I am catching bus on time and if i am late she will be informing driver. My Father never shows affection on me directly however indirectly he shows while discussing with my mother. Till 9th Standard I have been on last rank, one of the friend who has achieved first rank all the times helped me on 10th Standard later understood we should understand the concepts not book worm finally have got 77% in 10th Standard and have been 2nd topper of the batch in 12th Standard on Computer Science Engineering with 84.41% I haven't taken single leave in my College days sacrificed so many things. As soon as I completed Computer Science Engineering on 2015 with 80%, have got the Job immediately within 2 months. I have joined my First Job on July 2015 have been trained in Development (Java/Dot Net / SQL) later been assigned my first project in Pune Location by the end of 2015. Once I stepped in Pune, I have been part of Support on Client Project worked on all teams Java/Dot Net/DBA later i have been moved to Chennai by 2016 after May Month. However, I have no projects in Development also no openings related to Java/Dot Net/ DBA . Hence, I have said ok for Monitoring Team and have started being part of monitoring team on 2016 by bringing some changes with respect to SQL as identified outcomes aren't right due to incorrect query which has been reviewed by SQL Team and confirmed the changes as well. Further, been moved to L1 within 8 Months by 2017 after seeing my performance. Later by April Month 2018 I have been notified to move into L2 Level by seeing the performance during that time i got an offer in 2nd IT Company with 100% Hike. Have been recognized by the Customers and making sure to satisfy the customer even by extending the work time. I have joined the 2nd Company on Novmber Month 2018 which is kind of support + Implementation on Bangalore Location and have been working till July 2020 , due to parents health condition I decided to Search and get job in chennai location. I have got the Job in Chennai and left my 2nd Company by July 2020, even in 2nd company have got appreciations satisfied customers as well. I have joined the 3rd Company on Next day itself after relieving on July Month and stayed for 6 Years. Out of 6 Years, 3 Years I was part of Support as technical lead and at the end of 3 Years I have been moved to Other Team which is a implementation / IT Team where we work on Migration Upgrades and review the Support team work pitch on escalation calls. Even though the works aren't assigned I used to request them many times to loop me in email and add me in teams meeting to allocate me works and even all the works been assigned I have done within the timeline. I have got Good ratings and good feedback as well. Whenever i do anything i will make sure to invite all my offshore and Onsite team ensure all be in same page even all the changes been recorded. I have even requested the same to do so we all learn together work together as a team however its not been shared with me instead all mails and changes been looped to only one person who is senior manager in my team. When he was not available or on leave , it will come to me however there was no background information suddenly share meeting invite without any background Certainly even vendor details not been shared for major issues , I have faced these difficulties at the last moment. Its not me entire team doesn't know except 2 persons. Creating dependency and not looping in email as well as not adding me in meeting invite even after requesting so many times. I even pointed its not just me entire team should be aware and manage if not available. There were no breaks in my Job even switching from 1st company to 2nd company takes 5 days as its Bangalore location. Even Switching from 2nd company to 3rd company was next day in Chennai Location. Last 15 days I am trying hard to get a Job whereas 2 Companies attended technically get through however my profile been holded. I have been working on Cisco Network Voice(UCCE/UCCX/PCCE/IPT/Webex CCE) Basics Of Amazon Connect and Genesys Pure CLoud its part of Contact Center. Recently I have also completed my M.Tech in AI however I don't have industry level experience. I have been technical lead and managing the team as well. Very first time being idle without job even being Punctual, Top Performer with Good ratings also got many awards, shared many ideas on AI Innovation. I have 2 EMI with 50K, even the Love Marriage doesn't work even I have been truthful and try as much as I can. After long time, proposals of arrange marriage was about to be ok by that time Lay off where Girls parents said without job we can't give a girl. We were looking for a Girl for 7 Years there were no demands nothing but the expectations from the Girls side was different. I am worried even before marriage this lay off made my life changes as Girls parents are very particular not having confidence on me. If in case after marriage, if i have been layed off again will they do divorce ? I was expecting Caring, Understanding partner and Moreover my love towards my partner always be unlimited even House Number was her lucky number first love short duration When taking to marriage their elders said Tamil Telugu doesn't work. Even 2nd Love Proposal, i have Car registeration number on her lucky number. Moreover even I am bold even the Girl likes me and she says - you will get a nice partner finally instead of marrying me as they aren't bold though. My Sacrifices were more even I haven't went with my first love anywhere, 2nd love only 4 movies and shopping. Moreover I never see Budget to my Girl and all i was looking for my Girl to be with me always even in my Good as well as Bad times. In my hard time, there were no one understands me - Arrange marriage proposals asking my parents which company your son is working ? Even love doesn't work , I had feel to do love+arrange marriage as girl couldn't be bold i respect her decision. Out of 3 Companies attended 2 are on Hold and I am atleast hoping the 3rd Company been selected atleast release offer or some opportunity sooner. Its very hard for me to be idle and moreover I have never been like this. Moreover my parents are retired and I have made my Sister Engineer who is Physically handicapped. Trying out an opportunity Cisco Network Voice/AWS Connect/Genesys Pure Cloud, Technically I am 70% good in Cisco Network Voice whereas AWS Connect and Genesys Pure Cloud as well as AI i can rate 10% because I haven't worked on any Projects. Been a Team Lead/Technical Lead/Project Management its very hard to get into process takes time as well. Please suggest in my Job which is Primary and Marrying a Partner whom I love is my Dream being in all my Ups as well as Down Times. Honestly I am not happy with arrange marriage process as everyone looks for Money and with demands.
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Anonymous19 August 2026 at 10:12 pm
Bhai pehle saans lo. 11 years, top ratings, awards - ye koi chota record nahi hai. Layoff tumhari value decide nahi karta, market decide karta hai. Job ke liye: 1. Cisco Voice/UCCE/UCCX me 70% ho toh usi pe double down karo. Voice roles abhi bhi demand me hain. LinkedIn + Cisco partner companies me apply karo. 2. AWS Connect/Genesys ke liye 1 mini project GitHub pe daal do. Even demo se 10% -> 40% lagta hai. 3. Gap ko explain karne ke liye bolo "I used this time to upskill in AI + Cloud Contact Center". EMI ke liye bank se baat karke 2-3 months moratorium maang lo. Bahut banks de dete hain. Tumne 11 saal me 1 din bhi chutti nahi li. Ye discipline wapas kaam aayega. Ye phase bhi nikal jayega 🤍
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Anonymous20 August 2026 at 9:16 am
It happens brother. Life is full of ups and downs. It's just that you have been hit with a failure after a long time it feels personal. This shall also pass, meanwhile first try to prioritize getting a job, try to expand more skills in your domain and get certifications. Everything will fall in place. I know this from a same experience like you.
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Anonymous20 August 2026 at 9:57 am
A layoff after 11 years of consistent work can feel devastating, but it does not erase the experience, skills, or character built during those 11 years. From what you've described, your immediate priority should be employment and financial stability, not marriage. With ₹50K in monthly EMIs, getting a role should be the first objective. At the same time, don't undersell yourself. You have experience as a technical/implementation lead, customer facing experience, team management, Cisco Contact Center exposure, and an M.Tech in AI. Focus your resume on measurable achievements rather than the number of technologies you have touched. For AWS Connect, Genesys Cloud and AI, don't try to become an expert overnight. Pick one area, build 1 to 2 practical projects, and be transparent that you are currently upskilling. Your existing Cisco/contact center experience can be the foundation for moving into these technologies. Also, please don't measure your worth by whether a marriage proposal is accepted because you are currently unemployed. A job loss is a temporary professional situation, not a judgment of your ability to be a husband or provide emotional support. The concern about "what if I get laid off again after marriage?" is understandable, but nobody has permanent job security anymore, not even people currently earning very well. A healthy marriage should be based on how two people handle uncertainty together, not on the assumption that one person will always have a perfect career. And regarding arranged marriage, it's okay to reject proposals where financial status is treated as the primary criterion. You are looking for a partner who understands both good and difficult phases of life. That's a reasonable expectation, but remember that the same understanding should also come from you toward your future partner. You've already demonstrated resilience: you recovered from career setbacks, changed locations when your family needed you, progressed from support roles to technical leadership, completed an M.Tech, and supported your family. One layoff doesn't invalidate any of that. Take the marriage pressure off for a while, concentrate on getting the next role, upskill strategically, manage the EMIs, and rebuild your confidence. This is a difficult chapter, not the conclusion of your story.
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Anonymous20 August 2026 at 3:56 am
First of all you only 'sacrifice' something which you really love or need. You CHOSE to study and make a career and you have done well as I see. Again your parents did not ask or want you to move to Chennai, but YOU CHOSE to be responsible for your parents and give back . Only when you take responsibility for your own decision and not cry about circumstances, you might fall in love and you need to let your heart decide, not your controlling wise brain . I am sure whenever you meet a girl you first judge her on what she brings to the table and not what impresses you about her. ' Great love & great achievement involve great risks '😏
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Anonymous19 August 2026 at 10:46 pm
you are not alone, so don't get panic. it looks like you are from network VOIP background, i encourage you to expand your skillset to network security/cyber security you'll have higher chance of getting a job with good package since you already have VOIP experience. there are good openings in NS/CS. Personal issue if you don't want to do arrange marriage it is ok, don't get confuse. this world is not going to end in 2026 and wait for like minded girl to meet. your priority at this point is to get a stable job, once you get that everything will fall in place automatically
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Anonymous20 August 2026 at 9:09 am
Try something of ur own, consultant.
Anonymous20 August 2026 at 6:48 am
How's your parents' economic background? Are they completely financially dependent on you ? You have mentioned your younger sister is physically handicap. How was is growing up? Were she, you bullied because of that? Were you pitied? Did you hate that? Talk with counselor. There might be things to unpack there. There are free counselors. You can get numbers online. Or government hospitals have counselors at very cheap rate. But go for counseling not psychiatrist. Don't take any medications as of now. Finding love and getting married is not going to solve your problems. Find job, heal yourself and live peacefully. That should be the goal. You have not taken rest, leaves since ages. Now being a jobless, you are given opportunity to rest a little bit. So try to keep all responsibilities aside for a sometime and rest. Build health.That doesn't mean be ideal, sleep a lot, 'act' like depressed. It just means try to keep aside the weight you have been carrying on your shoulders all this time. The weight which was NOT yours to carry.
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Anonymous19 August 2026 at 9:25 pm
confusing too many things together and u r not able to narrate ur story also properly...if u read it, u will not understand it clearly just try to read once
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Anonymous20 August 2026 at 12:53 am
You can checkout in Cognizant. There was a vacancy for Amazon connect few months back. Not sure whether it’s still open or not.
Anonymous21 August 2026 at 8:49 am
Don't hit yourself hard man with too many things go one by one.... You got a good skillset and a hard worker you will land yourself good job don't worry... But don't repeat the same mistake of what you did so far... Be cautious and create your own dependency and the moment you feel you are not getting valued try to switch or don't work too hard to fix, if you have not been looped you shouldn't be taking that, should have declined those meetings try to be more firm and be prepared for the market Uncertainities
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Anonymous20 August 2026 at 9:33 am
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Anonymous19 August 2026 at 10:00 pm
It's okey situation is market is like this even director vp are getting laid offs
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