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If you have proof and a strong evidence then you can definitely divorce him and claim maintenance for your kids and their future. Leave him and walk away with dignity where you can be a mother and a role model for your kids.

Firstly, please don't blame yourself for taking FCM. It wasn't your fault. You needed it, and he should have taken you according to the doctor's advice instead of fighting with your parents. That was the first major red flag. Everything he did after that only revealed his true character. Please start thinking more highly of yourself and gain more confidence. You are worthy of love and don't deserve to be cheated on or treated this way. Whatever this is, it isn't love or care. It's harmful and you need to get away from it. Tell your parents the whole truth. Consult a lawyer, gather evidence of his cheating and neglect and file for divorce. He is not a safe husband for you and from what you've described, I wouldn't trust him to be a safe father either. I truly hope you do what's best for yourself and your children. More strength to you. Take care.

Your story is a cautionary tale for women who are not married yet - 1. Always be financially independent and 2. Produce kids ONLY when you can raise them on your own

What's wrong with taking FCM if Doctors prescribed it?

To be clear, I only see communication issues between both of you. Now, stop thinking about all these issues as during pregnancy, most of the husbands expect the girl maternal family to take care. Now, once you recovered; go back and start building life. Men will be easily gets manipulated especially when wife is pregnant and outstation. For a successful marriage, understanding is important.

After everything if you still think he loved you then you are most stupid women exsisting in this world. Stop victimizing urself, earn ur money be independnt walk out frm the marriage. He never ever loved you. FCM and C Section cant be an reason for argument or failed relationship, it was necessacity to save your life. He was cheating way before it is just that you wear not aware. If he had loved you he would not make any fuss about any treatment, so basically he wanted you and your kids to die rather than saving you through treatment. I am sure you understand this and have the realization but you still choosing yourself to become blind with lies. If you continue to do this very soon you loose ur kids too. Now choice is yours, be strong come out start something of your own and support your kids.

21 married; 2 babies in 2 years; no family planning; it seems the girl has nothing else to do in life. One important thing I want to know why was the husband having his intimate video with some other lady in his phone? Anyways once the confessor discovered him of cheating at that moment itself she should have decided to move away instead of having a second baby

It looks like immature relationship in married life.. your husband is taking you for granted as he knows you are very silent and innocent so he thought he can do anything behind you, and ask forgiveness and again repeat same since he knows your weakness and your family weakness so it will continue same as long as you stay calm and unless you don't take any strict action.. make sure that video is with you as it will be useful for you in future if you take legal action against him... Stay safe don't get fooled again and again, good luck.

My heart goes out to her. Based on what she has shared, this doesn't sound like a relationship struggling because of one mistake, it sounds like a pattern of betrayal, emotional neglect, control, and lack of support. The biggest concern isn't just the cheating video. It's that he isolated her, withheld support during both pregnancies, disrespected her parents, controls her phone and jewelry, and isn't fulfilling his responsibilities toward her or the children. Even if the affair happened only once, these other behaviors are serious red flags. She should stop blaming herself. Her height, complexion, financial dependence, or the fact that she had C sections or needed an iron infusion have nothing to do with his decision to cheat. Those are not reasons for someone to betray their spouse. Before deciding whether to stay or leave, she should prioritize her and her children's safety and future. She should confide in trusted family members, secure her important documents and belongings, understand her legal rights, and, if possible, seek counseling and legal advice. If he is willing to genuinely take responsibility, end all inappropriate relationships, rebuild trust through consistent actions, and participate in marriage counseling, reconciliation can be considered. But staying only because of love, while the harmful behavior continues, is unlikely to bring a healthy marriage. No one deserves to feel unworthy because of another person's choices. A marriage can survive mistakes only when there is honesty, accountability, respect, and sustained effort from both partners. Right now, those seem to be missing.

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21 and married 😆😆😆

I don't understand what's so wrong with taking fcm?

Seriously girl.. love urself.. u r more important than anyone else! U r worthy .. believe in it! I am surprised as to how u think that guy is good enough for u! Red flag no 1 - FCM - he didn't put ur or ur baby's health as priority instead chose to hug his ego! 2 - if he wanted a vaginal birth, he should try .. what kinda moronic expectation was that?? Did he think giving birth is something similar to his constipation pain?? 🤦 3 - when he failed to step in for u, ur parents did and he fights them for doing so??? Really? He should be grateful to them for saving his wife and kid! 4 - after this he is having an affair in ur home and a video recording of it in his own phone??? Girl.. he is a psycho who wants to watch that video on repeat!! Why else would be have recorded it?? The audacity uff! 5 - even after that he doesn't give an f abt u! Or ur second pregnancy!! If he sure felt guilty, he should have shown that in his behaviour towards u... ! Pls leave him.. that red forest of a guy is not worthy of ur love.. bring up ur kids urself.. u don't want his toxicity impact ur kids! Support urself! But divorce him after claiming a lumpsome alimony and maintenance for ur kids!! He should be held responsible!!

Stop blaming yourself. You have not done anything wrong. You take care of yourself and your children. No point discussing early marriage ...and making you feel guilty. You can't trust and expect anything from your husband. Think logically and make a plan for your and kids to have a good life and future. Collect all the evidence. For further guidance go to STEER-U.COM get one ans for free. Hope it helps. More strength and power to you.

21 is a bad age to get married no matter what prince you get in your life . Your brain is still developing. On top of that you decided to get pregnant twice . Wow. Divorce is the only solution for a peaceful life . Leave him

Even after his cheating, the soft corner you're having for him really proves that women in love are the dumbest creatures. Have some self respect, get out and punish him badly.