37 F No Kids So here’s my life - study degree job. I had been good in studies so my parents were ok to spend money on my education. Got good grades in 10th 12th did BTECH CSE , did MBA finance . Got a job in Big 4 . Working since last 10+ years in Big 4 . Coming to family I am from transport business family . My father owns AC buses . My mom was not much educated got married at young age of 17 left 10th boards and got married. So she wanted me to be educated become some teacher. I got engaged andmarried around 2021 it was arrange Marraige . I am still working from home . Earlier was in Bangalore for job but due to Marraige I got shifted to Pune staying with husband . My wedding was grand one in 5 star hotel sponsored by my father with good decoration . Guest list was only 380 people combined from both . Post wedding my husband bought suv 18 lakh cost in loan took 2 lakh from his dad 1 lakh from me . (Emi 25k) He also got around 11 - 10 gms gold coin as Shagun around 2021 , he also got around 3 gold chains , one gold bracelet, One solitaire engagement ring, one wedding ring - diamond and few other gold ring from my chacha mama. Some 21 Chandi coins. Now around 2024 my father gave him 12 lakh to purchase a new flat me as Frst owner . Father thought son in law will be paying emi. But it’s 2026 and I am alone paying emi. I was not aware my father gave him money. I thought it’s his father helped. Everytime he keeps on cribbing my father don’t have money he has to sell land bla bla. But this year around Jan his father was in Kerala trip for 15 days with his wife(my mil) my husband, his physical challenged daughter(my nanad) and his son in law . All member went through flight. They bought new tv 55 inch . His mom love travelling through flight. They keep latest iPhone pro. Bhai job kr rehi 10 saal se mere papa business hai phr bhi iPhone 13 2021 me liya tha 128 gb ka aaj bhi wahi chala rehi. Last year I took him to bali trip where 90% expanses were done by me. Recently I came to know he took personal loan of 25 lakh around 2023 and also sent someone 10 lakh through credit cards for some business and the business flop . It’s been 3 years he is still paying those loans with no profit. Recovery agents started calling me because of him. When I am not even aware he took loan. I said ask your dad to pay he is like his dad don’t have money. Meanwhile I am paying for house emi I am paying house maintenance property tax, Vacation expenses. I also took resort membership in 2022 I am paying for that and he always taunts me ki Maine nahi bola tha bharne ko khud bhara . And around wedding I just said ki I have savings of 25 lakh when I got married he used to taunt me ki jitna to bachai ho usne sab ura diya he has no savings I feel shamed of my husband financial character and ego. I used to keep cook for 1 year pay for that now I don’t have cook and he cooks food and after 2-3 days he starts behaving like Maine atyachar kr diya uspar i asked him to cook. I got kitchen interior also same costed me 3.3 lakh . I thought uske papa ne 12 lakh diya ghar ka main itna toh kr skti but no it was my dad gave money. House loan lete samay mera naam upar daal diya akele loan bhar rehi 12 lakh papa ne diya 78 lakh ka ghar tha Abhi 56.60 lakh loan pending hai 2024 me liya tha april me. Abhi usne fridge k fridger k barf ko torne k liye chaku use kiya and fridger me ched ho Gaya thanda hawa nahi kr reha 13 hajar ka fridge tha 10-15 saal Purana banane ka 5 hajar mang reha Ab new fridge bhi mujhe hi kharidna parega And worst part iski ma . Chi I literally don’t like her Recently went on vacation most of expenses were done by me but I got to hear ki beta call nahi kiya dar lag gaya ki kahi dhakka na dedi aajkal baht duniya me ho reha . Duniya acha nani koi nahi khyal rakhega mere tarah tmhara . Etc etc I feel yuck on them. Socha tha ghar aa jaayega uske baad will thnk of kids but kids krke kya kru sare bojh mere upar hai aisa lag reha Yes he is not some iit iim he was btech . We earn same.
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It seems he’s interested in your money only. You’ve become the giver in this relationship. He’s gotten too comfortable taking money from you and your father, and he’s just not interested in taking any responsibility. If there’s no equality, respect, value, or partnership in a relationship... it’s time to ask yourself what you’re doing in this marriage. Please don’t think about having a kid until things between you two start moving in a positive direction.
he is never gng to change so u have a choice either live with and put up with him or move on and start again and dnt worry U will find someone much better than him
Divorce before it kills you
Fridge me mere bhi ched ho gaya the sceew driver use karne se , 180 ltr ka hai, 2500 diye the thik karne ke, naya freezer area lagaya tha, aur baki ek suggestion u should ask for divorce and run with no alimony demand else your future is in doom. Hope things get better for u ✌👍🙏
Turn every one out from your house, your father gave 12 lakhs down payment and you are paying the emi. Talk with your father and ask him to call him and discuss about the loan status, finances, borrower lender things clearly. Don't even allow your husband or any one from his family until you get all the clarity about finances. It's not about money, this is about transparency otherwise many hidden things will be popping up. If he denies or avoids conversation send one email in his office and get ready with a police complaint.
Yar you are lucky you dont have kids with this person. Thats the smartest thing if you have not planned kids for this reason. Trust me men with No provider mindset bleed you dry. They will take everything from you and still have ego. Sometimes I think its just luck that girls who are financially independent and supportive they get these kind of leeches.
Rishta alag Paisa alag karlo. Tell him that you can't help him financially anymore. At max you can do is household expenses. Flat ki ownership kiske naam par hai? If you're paying the EMI get it on your name or at least add yourself as co owner.
I don't understand why exactly high earning women are STILL getting married? That too with dowry and all? What exactly these men are bringing to table?
Leave him before you get used anymore ...what exactly is there in this relationship that you are holding on this tightly?
There is lack of transparency which is why the finances are all over the place. This can be resolved if you both sit together and plan your expenses together. However, the bigger issue I feel is what his mom said. I would never be able to forgive someone taunting my character. This enough would be a reason to leave this marriage. One thing good is you haven't planned kids. So better move out. These people don't sound genuine to me.
I did not understand the story, he is earning as same as you than what he is doing with his money.i was unable to digest the fact that your father gave him the money and you are in dark....many things are not adding up
no sense of humor u crying only ur rr and reality are something different i guess tumko relationship ni nibhana ata,jb aurat kmati h khud ko self independent smjne lgti hai blki ek mard pure parivar ko palta hai without crying so no sympathy towards u without clearity
37 and no kids, Cannot spell ‘expense’ Cannot see the obvious, What are you? Why did you get married to this broke family? Or guy? You said you are educated and financially kicking @ss.
Divorce him… he is a liability
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