M38, Singapore (From Kolkata). After B.tech from Kolkata i had completed CFA and FRM and currently Working as an executive director in one of the top banks of the world. Had been abroad for quite some years in different countries. Never married and don't want to get married too. Tried in online matrimony few years back but things never worked. Currently I am planning to retire in the next couple of years. I do have 10+CR in investment across many countries and I own 3 properties in Kolkata. I don't feel I need to work anymore. What to do with so much money if you don't have anyone to spend with after your parents?? I don't want to do donation or charity or so as I feel all those are corrupted things in india. I am a single child of my parents with no intentions to get married in future. Would like to see the world alone. Problem is my parents doesn't want to me to return from abroad neither they want me to get retired before 50 atleast. I am trying to convince them that i have enough savings to lead the rest of my life well in Kolkata but they are too rigid as they feel people will say they are keeping a non working guy at their place etc etc. My parents are still dreaming that i will get married and have kids, though I had made it clear always that I don't even want any relationships, marriage is never happening. Not sure what to do in this situation as I am not feeling much to work anymore and stay by the side of my old parents and also fulfill few of my dreams which I couldn't do in my 20s.
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Parents basically think idol mind is a devils workshop and a big purse attracts bad friends and bad company. You can retire travel around make friends and enjoy life to the fullest but be carefull is what they mean ..As parents they are concerned. Even if you don't want to do charity you can do it in a way which involves you and you see results as your act of charity and become a circle of Blessings.
Shadi karlo 10 cr kab kharch ho jayega pta bhi nhi chalega 😅
As a male even I see getting married is a concerning matter in a country where gender biased law exists... You can consider retiring and also consider adopting an orphan baby who will take ahead your legacy and he/she will bring happiness to your life. keeping small baby/pets do bring a lot of happiness...
Your parent are right. Once u will retire, u will feel that you are sitting idle. Its good to work for passion not for money.
Trust me continue your job if we retire early and stay home we are as good as dead until we are engaged into something our body and brain isnt programmed for relaxing 24x7 you can do some other job but don't think of retiring
Take some 6 months leave through sabbatical from job and stay with your parents and travel around the world if you feel it is good then continue else again join the work..
At some point of life you need to bypass your parents word's for your mental peace. Don't delay it.
Take a break not retirement directly to see how much you can live without work and for how many days. Purpose less life is also tough as you can see many retired people become toxic without work also.
Bro is suffering from success 😭😭😭😭
Dude dnt tell them u r retieinf just tell them u taking career break ....invest in land outside kolkata ..make farmnhouse and start kheti or go for world trip ...you never know u may find someone or start some spiritual retrrat
Travel the world, not the popular places, take visa, stay for 3months in small , less explored places of any country.
You stay at home for 6 months for a trial you will understand what is loneliness.. I wish you could even get a female friend like me who knows how to spend the money in terms of enjoyment lol ..
take a sabbatical,go to your parents place n live for sometime,that will give you a practical picture of what you want to do with your life for the next 20 years,no marriage travel etc is your call, parents are saying out of peer pressure as society always gives a hard time to those who challenge societal norms,don't give much thought about it. But at the same time u should also experience what is the life you are expecting Vs what is the practical scenario.
Love the idea. Your discipline and consistency made you who you are today. Love it bro. Also, i was quite impressed by CFA and then FRM. How was your journey like? If you don’t mind sharing?
You can start some small business in India with minimal investment. You will be ur own boss so it won't be like you are not doing anything and you can travel world also.
Came back.. Start a business in your expertise subject without investment, like advise financial planing etc.. Minimum work.. Then enter politics... Slowly... You can became a finance minister 🤣
just retire and dont tell them as simple as that 🙄
You are right, but I don't think your parents are wrong either. When someone has money and too much free time, there's always a possibility of getting involved in things they probably shouldn't. You may have no such intentions, but the possibility always exists. I would suggest that instead of continuing a full-time job overseas, you consider something less time-consuming, like freelancing or a part-time role. That way, you can still pursue your dreams while staying professionally active. As for your decision not to get married, that's completely your personal choice. But I do believe everyone needs a companion at some stage in life. Maybe not now, but perhaps later, especially in old age. Have you ever thought about that? Whether or not to have children is a separate decision. Many couples choose not to have kids and still lead happy, fulfilling lives while pursuing their dreams. Have you ever considered that option?
Parents have a very different mindset. They feel secured and proud enough to boost that there child is this + that. Having a child at home that too young nd married will bring a lot of questions in relatives and the society they stay in ....what all justification will they keep giving is tough...indeed tough if you look from a parents point view. Agree you have accumulated enough to enjoy a retaired life. Keep working nd be a reason serving the society. Make your life a reason with purpose.
Take a break for few years. With your kind of CV you will again find a job if you want to. Take a few years break to find out what you wanna do with your life. Maybe some other work where your interest lies or fund some good startups and help them grow with your knowledge. Lot of options. Don't go to live with your parents, stay alone and keep visiting them.
Actually if I was ur parent I would have thought the same way..cz I want my boy to get married and I don't think any of girl or woman likes non working men or boy.. Aapko apke low times me partner ki zarurat hoti hi hai chahe kuch bhi ho...shayad ye baat apke parents behtar jante h... So please never judge ur parents
Take a break n travel. Also help young minds to grow like you are..
Damm, it’s so true that few adults are still children
Make plan for next 5-10 years and show it to them. Something like - 1. After working for 15+ years in corporate, my health is not very good. Here are my reports. So for next 2 years I will eat healthy, exercise, make my body good for slow travel. 2. Then I will slow travel 2 countries in a year for next 10 years. Here is the plan. 3. Simultaneously I will be building an off grid community like this - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085060361166&mibextid=ZbWKwL And so on.... You just have to 'inform' them. And do whatever you want to do. They must have been insisting on you to get married and reproduce. You didn't listen to them. Right? So why listen to this now?
Take your parents to their favourite destinations and enjoy the journey and figure out next.
You are 38 why are you listening to them live your life as you wish
Retire as per the retirement age in India. When a person has enough money and retire early he uses the money for risky things. Example Start a business sell on credit then non payment py buyers or invest in share market then loss. So keep working
Bore nahi hote .. I also enjoy my own company .. I can eat alone in restaurants .. also do shoppings alone .. can watch movie in theatre alone .. maximum times I don't need any partner .. but sometimes I need a partner or friend .. so we can't leave alone .. after your parents what will you do ?
I would suggest starting a business of your own and get out of corporate grind. Some small business to keep yourself busy but not too stressful. Enjoy your life, you have earned it! Take early retirement and travel the world
If you have to put it here. U r personally not ready to face it. Take sebatical for few months and try out.
Brother what do u plan to do after retirement? You will be bored in 2 years.think about it.
See for your hard working nature, Idling will kill you soon that others. It doesn't matter how much your earn in future or what you do never stop working.
You says you’re working in Singapore and have a good investment that means you’re working at a good position. But then angrezi to seek leta bhai , working in Singapore ,at a good post but so many grammatical errors and not even one punctuation mark besides a full stop in the entire paragraph in English???? Please don’t make up stories and post just for the comments. Your English gave you away 🙄
brother tere pas itna time hai ki tu yha velapnti kr rha hai Gumne nikl chll kr
Retire as quickly as possible even tomoro.... And be with parents as their days are numbered. Else you'll regret it, not just miss the oppurtunity nlw that you have it at arms length. Last who cares if married or not, what parents want you to do, what they will think and society will think abt a guy lazing around...this is all crap, bcoz you are still not world matured, being busy with studies then work....nothing of that sort is a botheration , just wild guesswork from someone soon to be Vela. Vela mein hi mela (maza) hei.
Travel the world… that’s real life… don’t waste your time working till 50. Only few lucky people in this world have money, time and energy simultaneously. Don’t listen to your parents.
I don't have a suggestion for you 😕
Bro please help me I am in very bad condition
Parents are right from their own perspective. You can take some time to break and introspect what you want in life. If you don't want marriage or companionship,adopt a child you will find a beautiful purpose in your life and also maybe your parents will accept you coming back to them.
Don't stay with them after ur retirement. Prob solved. Retire and live on ur own. Simple.
U are great
Don't retire.early. one ages very fast. Just don't do it.
Ignore their advice. Even at your age I might have to keep on working. Enjoy the gift
Stay where you are and roam the world.. why go back to Calcutta
Good idea !!why live like machines !!! Take a break or otherwise enjoy ur me time n then go back to work if needed..
Are you sure you aren't a child who can be instructed?
Your life is incomplete without marriage /Children's when you get old you will miserable curse yourself to not having kids.. Travel world with partner and enjoy life because our Creator made every living thing in a pairs.
Brother choose the right partner and consult a genuine MRA(Men Right Activist) who can guide you how to choose the right partner
You wont listen to anyone.
You have earned 10 cr plus , have 3 properties in Kolkata , and u can't take a stand for yourself?? Just resign and travel around world and don't tell them for a year or so. Then tell them clearly you don't want to work dats it.
Basically u want to be come Rahul Gandhi..
Dont even think of retiring.
Do only what u want...
My parents thought the same....Stayed in Fiji and some European countries for a while and emptied 30% of my savings...eventually after an year,I did get bored and joined another shitty job and eventually got married....Don't seek your parents approval and just do whatever pleases you
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don't marry enjoy your life ,and I don't know by any chance is your name joydeep? you were once concerned that you are not getting s*x in pune,then you got some onshore opportunities ,started staying happy and became confident ,then started banging women from north,south,east,west India(all parts of India) in Pune all parts of India and other places. You are not even that great looking just 5-8" or 5-9
Why are you accountable to your parents? As long as u are not depending on them.. you are an adult..grow a spine
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