Hello. I was married wen I was 30. Arranged marriage. Wife wasn't interested in s*x. Some childhood trauma. Took a long time to convince her. Had a daughter wen I was 33. Found out that daughter is mildly autistic wen she was 3 yrs old. Wife took her for therapy and put so much work and she s near normal now. She became very friendly with the therapist. I recently caught her chats with him all I love you and I miss you . She s not having a s*xual affair with him but an emotional one. He s unmarried n my age only. Now also she says she s still missing him. Wants to speak with him .she s feeling terrible to be kept here in my home. I Live with my parents in a Tier 3 city. Rich family. No other problems. I m d only child. I tried my best to bring her out of this. But the more I try the more she s being stubborn. Went for counseling also but dint help. Nobody is supporting her. Her brother or her parents. They ll disown her if she leaves me they say. But still she s so much caught up with him. After trying for a while I feel I should let her go. But also I m worried about being alone. Already 40. Daughter also with me. Ya she s ready to leave without the daughter also. And I live in a small town. Good income but passive income only. I don't work in a corporate anymore. Will I get an understanding girl? Actually I want another child also. She was not interested so I let tat tought slide away. Today i met him with my wife. He s also ready to marry her. I know I have to let her go. It's difficult to live with someone who s in love with another person. I tried my best, talked to her a lot but nothing changed.
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Just because you're worried about being alone doesn't mean you should try to hold on to someone who wants to be with someone else. Your person should choose you. So just let her go. You have a daughter to look after, so focus on her. You can still remarry at 40 and being wealthy certainly works in your favor. You'll be fine. Just choose wisely next time.
Leave her, better to leave thdn regret forever'
I don't understand what fantasy did millennials have in their young age, marrying any random girl and then spending rest of their lives to "convince and get some s*x". Koy childhood trauma nahi tha apki dharmpatni ko. She was not interested to marry you. She married u only bcoz of societal pressure or whatever reason. As a result, she never pair-bonded with u. Obviously now she pair-bonded with that therapist and doesn't want to let go her chance this time. And beech-beech me apko formality ke liye s*x milta raha and aap usi me khush hokar baccha paida kar liya 🤦♂️ bhai hadd h. Uss wakt dimag se sochte uncle, tango se nahi. Ab jaane do, aur kya hi bol sakte h 🤷♂️
She will come back to you again. So if you want her to go out of your life, make it legal. Give her divorce legally. Also regarding the custody of the kid, make it legal.
1. Your daughter has 'virtual autism'? It's not actual autism. But child starts 'showing' symptoms like autistic because of huge screen time during 0-3 age. This can be cured with lots of therapy. 2. If daughter has actual autism, then it's genetic condition and can never be 'cured'. If it's genetic, either you or your wife has it. My guess - it's your wife!! She is level 1/low support/high functioning autistic. Tell her to get diagnosed as well. --- a. Most of the time these people are also asexual. It's a spectrum. Google more about it. These individuals are usually not much interested in sex. But they can form intense, passionate attachments if they are mentally, emotionally attracted to someone. b. You were able to remain in sexless marriage for so many years, you understand what consent is, you are not forcing wife for sex, not abusing her, you are even able to let her go to her love, you have met her lover, discussed custody arrangements and all - this all is immensely admirable. And frankly you also might be neurodivergent. --- I hope you find genuine loving and caring partner. You are 'rich man' in India. So odds are already in your favour. Best wishes to you, (ex)wife and daughter.
Don't play with laws of nature dude, everyone regrets disobeying it for sure
She's already gone. There's no point in holding her back. Life doesn't end at 40. The thing you really need to worry about is your daughter. If you remarry, will your new wife take care of her? And will your current wife take her along? Whatever happened between you and your wife, don't let an innocent child suffer because of it.
Leave her immediately along with your daughter. Let her take the responsibility of the child. Meanwhile work on yourself. Go to gym. Build a good pyschique. Start dating younger women. You will get out of it. Show her what she lost. You are supposed to live your life like a King. And a King do not compromise. Remember that.
Omg sad to read this.. mutual ah divorce vangitu remarry some other girl..
Peacefully seperate live happily
With him also the love will fadeaway.. it’s transient it’s not stable.. leave her to her own once that puppy love is over she will come back to senses..
Thank God you are thinking logically and not hurting her physically like other impulsive husbands. Her boyfriend will dump her for sure and she will come back to u. So try to dig his past u may get some answers to prove that he is only using her. He is out of sense to accept this.
It's hard for you. Situation is like - bachchon ki jis kaam ke liye mana karo they will do more. It's not easy but have some patience. Talk to her, ask her what is missing in her life? How she wants to lead her life.....I have a guidance platform WWW.STEER-U.COM Where we provide future predictions and psychological services. For any specific question of yours, use this link plz …. https://www.steer-u.com/future-prediction/customizedQuestion Hope it helps
Don't worry, 40 is not old to find and get married again, plus others have faced the same what you have so let her go cause she will never be yours, get a mutual divorce and don't give her a penny.
Let her go and let her regret for rest of her life because that guy won’t marry her for sure. He will just take advantage of her n thn will leave her traumatised
Get as far away from her as possible
Let her go. She's already checked out emotionally. There's nothing you can do now. Be grateful it ended before a physical relationship made things even more painful. Respect her decision and move on.
Same story with my Hyderabad friend her wife in love with her gym coach he saw both videos photos etc ...he divorce her n searching for better half he also having 2 kids age 10/12 yrs .. shocking thing is he is bussiness men property worth 100 cr he get rents around 10lakhs Iam still shocked what really women girls want after two kids what made her to take wrong step how abt kids future...where duniya going on I wish all wife n husband must b think before taking such step
My heart breaks for the child.
The distant grass is always greener 🤣. After 2-3 years with the new guy, the lady will be dissatisfied with him also
Please don't go lohagarh fort with her .
Let her go legally, she will be dumped by her boyfriend as well later.Dont give custody of your child to her in any case, a woman who can get involved with the therapist, can leave her child for him , clearly child is not her priority. You are rich, you can find a match for yourself easily but dont forget your child in any case
This therapy spa gym counselling was available for free in joint family. Despite paying for all services see where we landed
Bro , what a trauma....😯 Sorry to hear that...
Divorce her with proof before she asked for it u will loose a lumsum money
Let her go I assure you she can never be your
Blue drum case Script ..
Leave her n find someone else.u will get someone definitely
Leave her, but make sure she goes empty handed, no compensation, no alimony and no child. You will get match as 40 is still young enough, so don't worry and accept the fate
She is preparing blue barrel for you
Call me I will solve your problem
Let her g0
Seems like a fake story honestly
It's a very difficult situation.
I don't know if this story is true becos it's too simple to be true u seem to be excellent man inspite of knowing ue wife is having an affair u tried to make her come out by taking her for councelling and tried ur best to make her come out of it instead of taking the agressive route and u lived like this for 7 years seriously man ur wife doesn't deserve a great man like you good now u have let her go live a peaceful life look after ur Princess incase u come across a worthy girl get married again remember she needs to love ur daughter with full heart otherwise u r into another hell again
Leave her
LEAVE
Dm me if u interested, will discuss something serious about this,
File a complaint against the therapist too for being a conflict in this marriage too
Throw her out of your home without a penny with mutual divorce, why do you want to keep such a woman in your house or life. Work on your mental and physical peace, enjoy time with your daughter. Travel world with her.
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