Comments for Post #C27837

does ur mil give birth to ur husband at 16? fascinating

Stop fighting about who is right or wrong about his mother. That argument will only push him to defend her more. Instead, change the focus to how his actions make you feel and what you need from your marriage. Also, stop over-sacrificing for his family while neglecting yourself. Keep your kindness, but create healthy boundaries. A peaceful marriage is not about choosing between wife and parents, it is about knowing how to balance both.

Stop financing them including your husband. Use that money to do things you like hobby classes, going to different charitable houses like orphanages or old-age homes or similar and help them, go for solo trips, get yourself expensive jewellery etc etc. but never bring a child to this world. Your trauma will increase

Can he also post here about your mom.daughter relationship so that we can let you know what to do accordingly .

What's new in this dear , haven't we all sailed in d same boat .. mine was 57 n tht time she was old n helpless . Imagine what happens when she's 85 now

If u don't mess with his mom there will be no fuss.Stay away by being silent when she is around.

Whatever it is males always prioritize their mother. This we have to keep in mind and move accordingly. We should not ask them who will you prioritize? It's a silly question, but living with MIL is extremely difficult.

Don't be jealous about his affection to his mother. Mother is different and wife is different. Get over your inferiority complex. Love and affection needs to be earned, not demanded.

You have to learn how to balance between your mil and your husband then both of you will be happy

This is good that you have understood he will not change. Which actually is very true. 90% true. This makes it easier for you to plan and handle all by yourself. Now comes the point where you have to develop strategies to maintain your peace of mind. Do you people stay with your in-laws? Things of your mil that trigger you, don’t discuss them with your husband. Don’t involve your husband to solve problems related to mil. Find your own solutions for them. Have a close trusted friend for venting out. Even if discussion starts due to whatever reasons, keep it only till nodding/yes/no. Remember, No explanations of any kind. Accept your husband’s incapability in this situation. If he’s otherwise good, handle the situation independently. That’s the only solution. Actually frankly, mama’s boys are the kind of husband material that should be avoided for marriages.

I wonder if you'd say the same thing if it was your brother who was taking care of your mom and his wife complained like you are doing!

He is doing the right thing. There is nothing bigger than mother in this world. Proud of the guy

So would not Yiu defend ur mother if your husband or if your brother's wife did the same ?if you have so much of problems with him then divorce him . He can stay with his mom and he will pay you up alimony.. you got your independence and his mom has got her son

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You look after your parents and let him look after his. Dont complain about her. Just do bare minimum.

Yes in few communities, it's true

You r thinking too much!

Looks like a happy family and you have hard time with them being happy.. Get a divorce without alimony, they deserve better

STOP taking financial responsibility of him &/ his parents. Pay ONLY for your own expenses(rent+utility bills+food). I repeat pay ONLY your own share. That too depending on living arrangements and who is doing how much chores.