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I pretended to be single to protect her from her toxic ex

I've read so many confessions here, and finally, I decided to write my own. This is going to be a bit long. Please don't insult or judge me. 🙏🏻 In 2025, during the final year of my Master's, I got introduced to a girl through one of my female friends. She was my friend's college friend. Within a few days of getting to know each other, we became quite close. She told me that she had broken up with her boyfriend of six years just a month earlier. Then, in January 2025, we got into a relationship. As time passed, our bond became deeper, and we grew emotionally and physically close. We were physically intimate four times. However, our mutual friend couldn't accept our relationship. She informed the girl's ex about everything. His ego was badly hurt. He was a very toxic and aggressive person. He re-entered her life and started mentally and physically abusing her. Since they lived in the same neighborhood, they saw each other almost every day, whereas I lived farther away. When I found out about all this, she told me that she had already ended the relationship from her side, but her ex had not accepted it. According to her, they had broken up and gotten back together countless times over the past six years. Then she made a request to me. She said she couldn't bear being blamed for ending a relationship she had devoted herself to for six years. Her ex was accusing her of leaving him because of me, and she wanted to prove that accusation wrong. She asked me to pretend that we were not in a relationship. The plan was to make her ex believe that our mutual friend had lied to create misunderstandings. Once her ex stopped blaming her, she said she would calmly explain everything to him and end things properly. Outwardly, we would pretend to be apart, but privately we would continue our relationship. I agreed. She cried a lot in front of me, and I genuinely felt sorry for her. I trusted her completely and did whatever she asked. To convince her ex, we lied repeatedly and acted out many situations. Eventually, we even managed to make our mutual friend appear to be the liar. After that, her ex finally stopped blaming her. And that was when the real story began. Suddenly, she started distancing herself from me, saying she was under pressure because of her studies. We stopped meeting. We stopped talking on calls. We only exchanged a few messages occasionally. She had time for everyone else, but never for me. Sometimes she even spoke to me harshly. As the distance kept growing, I slowly realized the truth. She had probably come into my life only because she couldn't move on from her ex. Emotionally and physically, I had become someone she leaned on until she no longer needed me. She had told me she had already moved on, but now I believe she never truly did—and perhaps never could. After all, forgetting a six-year relationship isn't easy. I realized everything far too late. Maybe I'm just an emotional fool. I know many people will judge me for not understanding what was happening. But the truth is, at that time, I simply couldn't see it. She never openly said she wanted to break up with me. But every single one of her actions made me feel that she wanted me to leave her instead. One day, I asked her, "After everything we've been through, what if we still can't end up together?" She replied, "Then that is your destiny." I asked again, "And what about you? Don't you want to stay?" She remained silent. She didn't answer. Two months ago, I sent her one final message: "Start your new life. I will never come back into your life again. Take care." Then I blocked her. Even today, I don't know whether I did the right thing or the wrong thing. What do you all think? I'd genuinely appreciate your honest opinions. Just one request—please don't abuse or insult me. 🙏🏻