Gender: MaleSubmitted on 18 July 2026 at 4:59 am
The guilt of unknowingly helping a coworker cheat is eating me alive
I made a mistake of getting involved with my colleague. I have a colleague who is beautiful, cute and is liked by a lot of guys in my company. She used to be close with me and one day she expressed that she had a crush on me. I didn't think or do anything about that much, but we started flirting regularly after that incident and we got more close. This was going on for like a couple of months and we started getting involved physically a couple of times and couple of weeks after we were involved the last time, I got to know that she is in a relationship all this while, she had never told anyone or showed any signs. It was shocking and i was left feeling completely disgusted about myself for being involved with a woman who is in a relationship. Now I have cut all types of communication with her, the guy she is in a relationship knows about what she was doing and they are currently seperated I guess after this incident. But I'm left with a deep guilt of how i didn't see such a thing. Advice please.
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Anonymous24 July 2026 at 5:52 pm
Write a letter to yourself. What you did, how it made you feel then. How it is making you feel now, Why did you stop, how, why, what, where everything.. then write a letter of forgiveness to yourself. Example - I forgive myself for this, because.. I forgive myself for .. I forgive myself as ... etc. then at the end write "from this experience I learnt that ..." . Once you're done with the letter, read in once and when you feel ready.. destroy it. It might give you peace of mind.
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Anonymous25 July 2026 at 6:13 am
To be physically involved before marrying her was totally wrong. You can feel guilty and disgusted for your act!! But, you need not feel guilty of separating her from her BF, because you do not know about thier relationship earlier. It was her fault of cheating her BF. Take this as a lesson and move forward in a moral way!!
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Anonymous24 July 2026 at 3:02 pm
Ok mistakes happen. But if you go into any other relationship, please mention clearly about this past mistake. Don't hide it and spoil the life of a good woman.
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Anonymous24 July 2026 at 3:26 pm
If you truly didn't know, then stop blaming yourself. Most people in your situation would have assumed she was single. And cheaters often go to great lengths to hide the truth. I understand you feel disgusted, but you genuinely had no idea. It wasn't your fault. Be glad you didn't end up with her. Her boyfriend was saved too. Next time, be careful who you get casually involved with.
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Anonymous24 July 2026 at 5:56 pm
Bhai...Bhai... giyo...re...Medical Checkup karwalo 🔥
Anonymous24 July 2026 at 1:20 pm
One line - Go for medical checkup.!
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Anonymous24 July 2026 at 2:06 pm
1st advice, get a medical checkup now and a year later. Never ever turn back to her for any reason.
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Anonymous24 July 2026 at 6:59 pm
It's Legal
Anonymous24 July 2026 at 2:40 pm
panrathu lam panitu nallavan mari pesatha da
Anonymous24 July 2026 at 5:20 pm
It's ok. U enjoyed. She enjoyed. Now someone is suffering Bec of u.
Anonymous24 July 2026 at 3:44 pm
You didn't get any benefit you mean? So she was the only one who used you, not the other way round?! Maybe she left you, and now you are imagining all sort of things ...nobody to defend her. Women getting physically involved, just to leave you alone again?!
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Anonymous24 July 2026 at 2:50 pm
Medical check up full STD profile
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Anonymous25 July 2026 at 1:58 am
Please don't feel guilty, the onus is not upon you anyway! It was completely her decision to cheat & double-time & fool & deceive both the men!! What can you do? She's a cheap play-girl!
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Anonymous24 July 2026 at 2:18 pm
That how women are. They cheat the moment they can & you may have to end up raising some1 elses kid. Ps:- for the current gen women
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Anonymous24 July 2026 at 1:54 pm
What The Flying F**K is wrong with you man... Please get a psychological evaluation... We're mortals... Can't help a godly being like you 🙏🏻
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