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Marriage is for having kids and family in a legal way, else what's the need of marrying and being in life long commitment with another person? If companionship was the only goal, then why call it marriage? Call it something else and live together without any legal obligations and complications. Surrogacy, Adoption etc can come only after marriage,and for that both parties have to be deeply in love and in committment. If one person is not feeling that to the other person, why to force them into marriage and surrogacy/adoption kind of talks. Be independent and live your own life on your own terms. If he was there with you during surgery and difficult times-then thank him for his kindness and thank god for providing you a person for support at that time. May be his role in your life was only till that, so you could fight that battle and come out safe.

The man stayed with the confessor but then the confessor only asked him to move away from her. In a month he got time to evaluate the relationship and decided to walk away. It was an arrange marriage setup and the man tried to be loyal. What was the confessor expecting that after a month also he will come back? She should have thought about surrogacy and other options before asking him to move away

It was an arranged marriage. You and he didn't have years of loving relationship before marriage was fixed. After your diagnosis he stayed till you recovered. You thought it was love. But it was just a kindness. You should move on. Stop being clingy.

If he truly loved you and wanted a future with you, he'd have thought of adoption or surrogacy himself. He wouldn't leave, even if you asked him to. It's impossible to evaluate a relationship and move on within a month when it's real love. He was attached. He tried to do right by you, but he couldn't stay because it wasn't love. He's not a bad person, but he's not your person. Real love is hard to find, especially in an arranged marriage setup. People use the word "love" too easily, but moments like these reveal the truth. You don't want to be with someone who's okay with leaving you. I know you're going through a lot right now, but trust me, him leaving isn't your loss.

I mean let's flip the case. Would you & your family still agreed to the marriage if he was diagnosed with testicular cancer a few days before marriage and ended up getting his testicles removed? That also means that he could never become a father. Also getting cancer has a chance of returning again. Let's be honest, no one wants a person who can't be a father/mother & has also gone through cancer. Don't always play the victim card girl, most likely you and your family would have done the same thing that he and his family did. Take some accountability and move on. Arranged marriage is transactional hence it's called as Arranged marriage and not love marriage. Please ensure that you disclose this to the future prospects as well that you had cancer & you can't conceive now. Good luck.

He will not come back. Better you also move on. It is hard but that is the reality. Don't keep hopes from him. It will hurt more. This is not the end of the world. Focus on your hobbies, mental and physical health. I am sharing a free mental health tips link with you. Hope it helps https://www.steer-u.com/psychological-counselling/free-therapy Try to stay strong and practical. It will help you to lead a better life.

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God bless you.obviously marriage is primarily for having kids.so better to move on.

Ladko ke sath Esa hi hota hai..kuch cases main ladke sath chhod dete hain aur kuch cases main ladkiyan..aap tension na lo aap move on kar jao

Men are very direct. If they say they don't love you they mean it girl. Move on. Accept it.

Please ask him to marry another girl and you also marry him ,.can you let him have 2 wives?

Women are commenting to move on, as if it's that easy. These same women will also complain that their husbands are spending time with female colleagues, watching too much reel, chatting with random women online and probably have a dating profile. So what girl? Move on! Marriage is for making babies and serving inlaws. You've done that already, now move on ✨

with or without uterus you are still a woman. women are realy powerful because they do have one thing more than a man viz. patience. keep smiling and have patience. All the best

Move on sister

so sad actually in India men marry to hv children my friend husband left her becos she was breast cancer and her breast were removed. He said u can take any money u want but cannot spend life wid breastless woman. Actually most indian man love women body all this love emotions r drama

No uterus No opinion