Hello, I need a suggestion. I’m planning to get married to a girl who i know from 3 years. She is kind, smart, family oriented and educated (Dentist), but her family dynamics and mine are totally different. I come from an upper middle class family where my dad is a retired government employee and my mum is a govt teacher, whereas her dad has not achieved anything his life, my gfs grandfather and her uncle are advocates and they have earned enough money and they supported her family financially throughout her life. My gfs mama is settled in Australia and her Bua is in the US. In marriage two families meet, but because of this situation I feel bit awkward, and always doubt my decision of marrying. Could anyone help , or anyone who had been in this situation please help.
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Did you not think about this during the early stages of dating? Now after 3 years you have doubts about marriage because of her family? So was all this a timepass, fun time for you? If you don't really love her or care for her, say so and leave her alone. Don't make excuses. No man in love would ever think like this.
You are from upper middle class but she is upper class. Bhai rahane de teri n banegi
Okay but what's in that I find everything normal only ????? Actually she is from a better family
Buddy her family background is almost irrelevant. You look ahead to plan a future / lifetime with her / children and loads of happiness on the way. Below is what should matter and nothing else: 1. Do you have genuine feelings for her? 2. Do you love her and do you see her as the mother of your kids ? 3. Is she the honest type / good character and acknowledges your love / respects you ? 4. Is she the kind of woman whose company you enjoy? 5. In the worst phase of your life, do you think she is the one who will have your back / like our mothers and grandmothers had successful marriages and have invested decades to shape us See my dear naive friend if the girl is educated / smart and funny and she loves you then her family background is irrelevant. Why because post marriage out of 365 days she will visit her parents max 20 days which is like less than 10% of the year. If she wishes to support them financially you should encourage and appreciate. Marry this woman especially in this era of false cases / murders / alimony’s/ gold diggers. Choose wisely so that you live peacefully!!!!
What's the issue in this. Maybe a huge amount of dowry is in your mind.
Now tell us what YOU HAVE ACHIEVED IN YOUR LIFE.
dont marry stay single forever which is better for all the girls
Don’t move forward with doubts in your head. For 3 years you had no issue with any of this. Why now? And next time, if money matters that much — check the bank balance of relatives and extended family before you even go to meet the girl.
If only a man could marry the girl instead of the whole society!! Also, technically her family background is better. I would be happy if you lose diamond in search of glass 🙂
If you have doubt then better donot marry why get into marriage and spoil your life and her life .. divorce is going to cost you much more than marriage .. so it's better you donot marry
You didn't mention what you do for a living ? I think she should not marry you.
Are u planning to marry mama or father in law?? See how is girl... simple. Or Do not marry anyone... Simple..
"It amazes me how love makes people blind to everything, but the moment 'marriage' enters the conversation, suddenly everyone becomes a master strategist."
If you are afraid that her parents are not worthy, may be, they are. They made their daughter a person worth admiring for. What more worthiness you seek brother? They cut their own expenses and kept trusting their daughter and she did not fail them. If the girl is serious about you, her parents respect yours, you should go ahead. If you doubt that she is not the one you feel happy to be with. Then let her go, for good. Letting go loved ones is a bad strategy to live in this selfish world.
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The girl clearly belongs from a better family than yours. Leave her and marry someone within your status.
Nga wants "dowry"
Please don't marry her..it's least kindness u can do for her....pls marry a girl from the family as yours....
जितने भी लोग कन्फ्यूजन में 4 5 साल बाद सेक सूक करने के बाद ही क्यों आते है। तब अंधे हो जाते हो क्या
If you have doubts don't proceed...cz u will regret im your future
Absolute nonsense u hv written! So illogical you are!
Actually you are not fit for her. She deserves a better mindfully rich person
Wtf have you achieved in your life bruh?
What an idiot! I hope she dumps you sooner.
Bro... i feel ki wo ladki best deserve krti h.. and you are the trash 🗑 who is thinking this after 3 yr of enjoying her peace .. what should i call you.. your parents failed...
The Girl's Character seems to be better than urs... Please don't spoil her life ...🙏🏻🙏🏻leave her ra
Ylu already hav a decuson to walk.out. juts that you want a cover up and support from those reading this to say to yourself you did a good job, great decision, Such a xoward you are , if you live go ahead else forget , Both toknow true face of other
So you are more worried about family, status, past antecedents, reputation, money who earned how much, so you are a societal animal allready, even without marrying?! If so much societal judgemental trash has accumulated inside you at this young age, how can you be any different, let alone be happy with anyone?! You have never known realy how to see and judge ppl, bcoz none of your parents or family members saw it that way, that's what being a copycat means. Hv you seen their happiness quotient, their grandfather love quotient? Life Satisfaction levels, even how they died? Lot to learn, you seem oversmart allready....i doubt if you can live happily no matter which girl, if you don't drop your preconceived notions and conditionings....
Kaisa chadarmod ladka ho be......aaj k tym m ladki perfect h ki nhi by charcter, dekhne m sahi h ki nhi ye sab dekhta hai...ye bhikhari baklol ko successful dusra baaf chahiye tab ladki se shaddi krega....mt kro be ghochu
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