Hi all F30. I got married 4years ago through arranged marriage and recently I have baby. I never had relationship.My husband said he didn't have previous relationship Later i found that he had relationship.After seeing their chats I was completely broken.And iam unable to trust him now. Our intimacy is not that great.We hardly intimate once in 2 to 3 months. When I try to intimate he says iam tired or iam sleepy.I am earning money so I don't expect money from him.He doesn't like my parents and when my mom's calls me he gets irritated and ask every little thing we talked about and says if anything is important call to him and sometimes my dad calls him he doesn't answer his phone . Whenever we fight he will record our fight in phone.He also never share his emotions or decisions with me.My mother in law also doesnt likes me.She directly says she dont like me and don't like marrying his son and I am average looking girl.Seeing all these thoughts are coming like he is still thinking about her and he is not likes me. even during fights he told that his life was distroyed by marrying me. I don't know what to do .I always loyal to him. Please suggest me these are common things or shall I talk with me.
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As u said its an arrange marriage...if he/his mom didn't like u then why they got agreed for this marriage ? Try to sort out first..if not then move on...One life. ...and its precious!
when nobody like you in the house ... what do you think You need to do ? you got 2 choices - First Go for marriage counselling ... Or adjust ... If you are financially independent then go ahead and file for divorce ... if not then adjust ... thats all choices you have ..
I think he has lost trust in the relationship and you have lost trust in him. Either you take him out to some place for 4-5 days and try to open him up to communicate. If he can have this hard conversation with you ,then you both can decide to continue build it or else separate .
If he's recording fights, he's already collecting evidence. And trying to isolate you from your family isn't normal. Marriage counseling is a good option if you want to sort things out. Look into what you are doing wrong too, it's not always only one person's fault. If things still don't work out, then you should think about divorce.
Are you sure it’s arranged marriage?? 🤔🤔 What you said about MIL that she doesn’t like you and all happens in love marriage
Be calm N talk to him what actually in his mind. If he is not interested you can get mutual divorce n proceed
He lied about his ex, avoids intimacy, interrogates phone calls, and records arguments... Is this a marriage or a crime documentary?
these days loyalty doesn't matter for some people! you have to be strong for yourself ! You can try to adjust for sometime and try to be happy with yourself because in the end you will have to keep yourself happy and it is your responsibility only!
First talk if everything get solution , Bcuz have baby think her life and future and ur future also thanks.
Please acknowledge this — you are in a very toxic relationship. Why are you tolerating this disrespect? Put yourself first. When no one values you, it’s time to walk away with your head held high. You deserve respect, not humiliation.
One word. Divorce.
Better move on to new relationship 😜
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Start affair and live happily
He wants you take the first move and initiate divorce talks. He will use the evidences to walk out of married life without paying alimony. May be he is used to enjoyment without responsibilities. Does he have any attachment to your kid?
If you can raise child on your own (or with parent's help) Then divorce (take full custody of child && zero alimony and zero child support from father) If you can't raise child on your own Then divorce (take shared custody && ask him to take full financial responsibility of a child ie zero alimony but 100% child support) No need to raise child in a turbulent environment.
If nobody likes you, who is the problem is obvious? try to change or improve or transform.....else why to blame others....it's a fashion....bcoz you are the one complaining....other might have same problems with you...
Next time he fights or says that he regrets marrying you then you can reply that why is he still in the marriage? Why doesn't he end it by divorcing you?
His past will haunt you out so I recommend divorce as he lied about this and you are clearly bother by it.
Divorce.
Try hopefully
When people Won't Valuable Relationship you Thought & process.... Live your life for your support Baby.. Society sack..
And this thing is happening since 4 years..?? Really..? How are you surviving untill now..?
Looks like he married bcz of someone's pressure. Try to discuss issues with your husband. Avoid any blame game. It is imp to understand his perception. If you need any guidance related to future prediction or psychological help. Plz feel free to connect at WWW.STEER-U.COM Hope I can provide some help.
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First thing your husband still love his ex second thing when nobody loves you then what are you doing in that house just to be a house servant for them after knowing everything you staying in that house that means you are big fool now also time is left in your life to move on as you are independent you can have beautiful life ahead
He lied about your past. That's enough to sabotage the marriage. And i am very much sure guy hasn't moved on from his ex. Pack your bags, file a divorce on him and move on. People like him don't deserve green flags.
You deserve better he deserve another hoe
Okay... So he's recording you... You record him... Amass proof of his infidelity... And file a divorce case... Then both of you can show your respective proof and let the court decide... 🙄.. what advice do you need if you are already convinced he hates you... Your mother in law hates you... He's the most horrible dishonest cheater out there... Then no point trying to save anything right... Please leave focus on yourself and start a fresh.
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